Xue Ling whispered: "The culture abroad is different from that at home, and the concepts of education are also different. Parents can only use their heart to influence their children and reintegrate her into the family. Otherwise, she will only go further and further away, both mentally and physically.
.”
"That's it." Xue Cong frowned in disgust: "Don't think that if someone is better than us in some fields, their culture is naturally better than ours. People abroad focus on themselves. When their children become adults, they go out independently and have contact with their parents and family members.
There is very little time. There is not much contact, and the feelings are naturally indifferent."
"Yes." Xue Ling agreed very much: "Emotions also need to be managed. Whether it is family affection or love, it is the general truth. People who are close to each other may still become strangers if they do not get along often. This world is so cruel
, if you don’t pay, you can’t gain, and the same goes for feelings.”
Xue Cong sighed: "When she was growing up, it happened to be the period when our career was on the rise. His career was not an ordinary one. He had been away from the family for a long time, and occasionally he couldn't take a vacation for a year or two. Ever since my daughter was sensible,
She has to get used to not having her father by her side. I am also a tough-tempered person. When he is not around, I do everything by myself, forcing myself to be strong. Maybe I am afraid that my child will be weak when she grows up, so I always instill in her
People must have independent thoughts. It is good to do things independently, but it is terribly wrong to be an independent person!"
"This sentence sounds simple, but the meaning is very profound!" Xue Ling sighed with emotion and took a sip of tea.
Xue Cong smiled helplessly and took a sip.
"If a person wants to survive in the world, he cannot do without the help of other people and the support of his family. Until she went to study abroad in her teens, she had to rely on herself for everything. I was busy and occasionally called her to chat.
She was always in a hurry, and so was I, just like going to the market. Her father was still away at first, and his communications were very confidential, so he couldn't contact her easily. She studied and grew up there, and gradually integrated into her circle of friends, thinking
Not only has it changed, but many of my ideas have also changed. Slowly, she became alienated from us. I felt that my daughter was moving away from me step by step, but my husband was always far away. During those days, I suddenly felt so boring.
, I even thought about getting divorced.”
"It's just an impulse." Xue Ling chuckled.
Xue Cong shook his head: "It's really not the case... Your brother-in-law is back, and he would rather give up an excellent opportunity to come back to be with me. I burst into tears at that time, and then I didn't dare to mention the topic of divorce. My career
Towards the climax, but I suddenly looked back and found that I had missed too much. From that time on, I began to let Xiaomei come back. She refused at first, life and death, saying that she had adapted to the environment there, so let us not
Go disturb her."
"Brother-in-law is also afraid after hearing this?" Xue Ling asked.
Xue Cong nodded: "Is he not afraid? He finally fought for the opportunity to reunite the family in the imperial capital. He wanted to make up for my daughter and me, but my daughter said that she was no longer a child and had no business staying with her parents in the future.
It was even more impossible. So, he began to find time to communicate with his daughter, and tried every means to let her understand the new domestic technologies and new research and development directions—picking her favorite fields to start with. Sure enough, the daughter finally relaxed."
"Later, Xiaomei was coaxed back by you." Xue Ling smiled: "I still remember the day she came back, you cried when you went to the airport to pick her up."
Xue Cong was slightly embarrassed and murmured: "I can't help it... I haven't seen her for a long time. Firstly, I miss her, and secondly, I cry with joy. We only have a daughter, and we really don't want her to be too far away from us. When we grow old, happiness is better than hard work.
After passing through Qianfan, I suddenly found that I became afraid of loneliness. Maybe this is a characteristic of old age."
"Probably." Xue Ling explained: "After retirement, many old people always like to run to crowded places because they are too lonely and boring at home. The three old people in our family keep each other company, and A Yuan and I keep each other company.
, but they still talk about the children from time to time."
Xue Ling looked around and smiled slightly.
"Maybe that's why we have always been a big family. Young parents can't live without their children, older parents can't live without us, and we can't live without our children."
Xue Cong patted the back of her hand and said sincerely: "How wonderful this is! Everyone can have their own independent space. After leaving their own small space, they are all their own relatives. When you are sick, your relatives will take care of you, and when you go out, your relatives will care about you."
Because of this, I contributed money to help Xiao Zeng and my sister buy the small villa next door for them. They had some savings, but the down payment for the villa was not enough, so I simply pooled the money with them and bought the villa next door together.
The nanny and I make breakfast together. They both come over to have breakfast with us when they wake up. After that, they go to work separately. When we sit around the table and chat, we can feel like home - it's so good! Each has a small space and a big space.
Together."
Xue Ling burst out laughing: "So A Yuan and I had to work hard to make money so that our big family could live better and have a small space for each other. If we couldn't buy a bigger one, we would build it ourselves and move again.
move place."
Xue Cong was amused by her and said: "It is motivation and pressure. Children who grow up in a big family with a good atmosphere will know how to be considerate and filial to their elders. Look at your children, they are all gentle and filial to their elders.
child."
"The elders have paid a lot behind the scenes." Xue Ling squinted his eyes and sighed: "And A Yuan has also paid a lot. When the child was young, his career almost never made much progress, and he spent most of his time every day
We have too many children, and we spend far more effort, money, and time than other families on doing housework, accompanying our children, and picking them up. Fortunately, he is there, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to devote myself to my career.”
"Yes." Xue Cong smiled: "This is something our family can only hope for, and we can't catch up even if we try hard."
Xue Ling hurriedly shook his head: "Sister, you can't compare like this. Brother-in-law is not an ordinary person. He serves the country and the people for everyone, and he can only sacrifice his own small family. If the environment was not too difficult back then, you might have had one or two more children.
.”
"Alas..." Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "It's too late, it's too late to say anything. Now not only are we late, but our daughter and son-in-law are also late. I told them, as long as I can get pregnant, no matter what
You have to try every method. If it doesn’t work, try artificial insemination auxiliary methods. Today’s science and technology are so advanced, you must have confidence.”
"Yes, there are always more methods than difficulties." Xue Ling said.
Xue Cong nodded and lowered his voice: "Our family has learned from the past and told you that you must remind your children not to imitate Xiaomei. Prenatal and postnatal care is a must. Late childbearing and childbearing must not be done when you want to have children.