Xue Huan Youzai broke the pomegranate seeds and said with a smile: "You don't have to guess, you know. You tell me, the family is harmonious and happy, the old man is strong and healthy, the parents are loving and successful, the younger brother and sister are excellent in academics, start a business, and go to school."
You yourself are successful in studies and work, and you are considered the most dazzling newcomer among the younger generation at the hospital. Apart from these, what else do you have to worry about? What else can it be besides feelings? "
Cheng Huanran was stunned and smiled bitterly.
"There is something unsatisfactory about it! No wonder the old saying goes that every family has its own troubles. In other words, everyone has troubles, they are all different."
Xue Huan laughed softly and said warmly: "Isn't it right? Humans, as long as they have desires, ideas, and goals, they will definitely have troubles. This should be the reason why the world of mortals is bitter.
"
"Alas..." Cheng Huanran sighed: "Actually, I'm not greedy. I just want to find someone who has the same interests and hobbies, similar views, and is happy with each other. I just want to fall in love and get married, and live in love like my parents for the rest of my life.
"
Xue Huan laughed dumbly: "Isn't this greedy?!"
Forehead?
Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "Uncle Huan, how can you not be greedy? In other words, I just want to find someone I love to marry and live a good life - the requirements are not too high, right? These are the basic requirements!"
Xue Huan squinted his eyes and shook his head slightly.
"Not necessarily. Based on what you said just now, as someone who has been in love and marriage for more than ten or twenty years, I think your goals are quite high and your requirements are quite high."
Cheng Huanran couldn't help but wonder: "Really?"
"Of course."
.First of all, your starting point is relatively high. Looking at it from a wide perspective, it is a very high starting point. At the height you are standing at, many people can only look up behind or below you. Because of your own cultural level and what your parents have given you.
Your foundation is too high for ordinary people to reach."
"Is there any more?" Cheng Huanran asked, raising his eyebrows.
Xue Huan nodded: "It has to be about the same height and about the same appearance, otherwise I'm afraid you won't like it. In addition, it's not easy to find people who have similar views on family and career. It's already difficult enough if they have similar views on things.
, not to mention the addition of others.”
Cheng Huanran was extremely sad and murmured: "...So, my demands are really too high?"
"Actually, for people of my age, falling in love is actually very simple." Xue Huan replied: "We have lost the control of youth hormones. I just hope that my other half can live a peaceful and warm life with me, without making noises and flying dogs.
Just dance. The so-called love, for people of our age, is just that simple. The so-called 'great love' is just being able to understand and consider each other."
Cheng Huanran was slightly stunned.
Xue Huan Wen Sheng: "I have been young, I have also pursued vigorous love, and even had the ambition and confidence to love until death. But as the reality of life and work has been severely tested, I have discovered that love is actually just
It’s just for a while, it’s more about living a long and lasting life. People always say that young couples always come to accompany us. In fact, not only the old, middle-aged and young people in these decades, what we need is more companionship, not so much
There are so many so-called 'couples', not so many so-called 'vigorous' and 'overwhelming emotions'. No matter how beautiful the love, no matter how beautiful the skin, no matter how rare the romance, none of them can withstand the hardships of time. So, find someone who can be your partner.
Living a good life should be the goal of marriage, not what young people call the ultimate pursuit of love or the destination of love. Marriage is a much broader category than love. Don’t always regard love as the whole of marriage. It is too one-sided and too narrow. Marriage is more important than love.
It’s far too complicated and far more important.”
Cheng Huanran seemed to understand and listened, and couldn't help but whisper: "Actually, I... I pursue love, and more importantly, marriage. I also want to be like my parents, find a beloved person to form a family, and have one or two children.
A lovely child who will continue to reproduce my genes and the love of my family."
Xue Huan smiled and explained: "In the final analysis, what you are pursuing is marriage. You are a child who grew up in a traditional family, and your character and quality are ultimately traditional."
"Right." Cheng Huanran nodded: "In the end, we still want a happy marriage."
Xue Huan smiled and said: "No matter how beautiful the love is, no matter how passionate the hormones are, it will eventually become dull. Especially when you are forty or fifty years old, it becomes even more dull. When you are sixty, seventy, eighty or ten years old, it means supporting each other and keeping each other company.
That's it. Love and marriage are not equated, not at all. When I was studying abroad, I was in my prime, young and promising, so the person I pursued was beautiful, smart, had the same major as me and went to the same school, and had similar worldviews and values. Then
At that time, I decided that she was my future partner."
"What happened next?" Cheng Huanran vaguely remembered that she was a very beautiful and proud foreign woman, but he was still a child back then and didn't remember clearly, so he asked: "Isn't she the aunt now?"
Xue Huan shook his head: "No, she is a foreigner. When I confidently believed that the destination of love is marriage, I encountered a series of problems. At the same time, I also discovered that-her family view and mine
There is such a big difference. From that time on, she and I gradually drifted apart and began to develop estrangements. In fact, you and your significant other are the main body of your small family, just like the main framework of the family. If you and her
Inconsistency in family views means that your framework cannot be stable. Even if you make do for the time being, with the addition of children and the elderly, more and more things will be built on this framework, which will ultimately lead to instability, shock, or even a crash in the family.
collapse."
"Family view?" Cheng Huanran couldn't help but think of Qiao Hui's various family remarks.
——Without a successful career, there can be no marriage! Without a solid career foundation, marriage is meaningless!
——Unless I get a professional title of associate professor or above, I will definitely not have a child! Having a child requires a lot of time and energy from you and me, and it is not cost-effective. At most, you can only have one child.
——The starting point given to you by your family is too high. I can only be stronger than you in other aspects. Otherwise, we will not be able to maintain an evenly matched family, and then the family will not be stable!
…
Cheng Huanran frowned in discomfort and whispered helplessly: "Uncle, do the two subjects in a marriage really have to be almost evenly matched? You and your aunt, my father and my mother, don't seem to be like this."