Xue Huan couldn't help laughing: "Who stipulated it? It must be evenly matched? How is that possible!"
Cheng Huanran sighed quietly and replied: "Xiao Qiao always said that she was under great pressure and wanted to surpass me in professional titles and other aspects of scientific research projects. She did not want to be too affected by my family background."
Xue Huan finally understood and said: "So that's what she thinks... It's just because she's afraid that your strength will be too strong and it will affect your future family status, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran explained: "She is a very strong person and wants to be first in every field she comes into contact with, even for family status."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then she must have a very hard life?"
"Yes!" Cheng Huanran explained: "She has always been very hard-working and competitive, and she is very purposeful in everything she does. Sometimes she is even aggressive in order to achieve her goals. Her popularity is not good because of her personality.
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Xue Huan Wen Sheng: "Family status is not entirely determined by economic status. A higher economic status may have more say. But a high economic status means that you will spend more time on work. A person
Time and energy are limited. The more time you spend on one side, the less time you spend on the other side. People with a higher say spend relatively less time on family and children. For example, your dad and your mom, when you were young
Your dad spends more time at home than your mom, and a lot more, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran nodded.
Xue Huan analyzed: "If your father pursued a career like your mother, would you still have your father to pick you up and drop you off in the morning and evening? You could have three meals with your father? Your father would take you to play on weekends? I remember several times
The old man and your father took you on a trip this summer, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran replied: "My father took the team there for many summer and winter vacations. My mother was really busy, and occasionally she was still at the construction site during the Chinese New Year and could not go home. At that time, she was investing in real estate everywhere, and every day she would
There was a lot of socializing. Later, the clothing factory and Tianshu Group also took up a lot of my mother's time. Sometimes my father put us to bed and my mother hadn't come home yet."
Xue Huan sighed softly and said: "Yes, if it weren't for your father's sacrifice and dedication, your family might not be as brilliant as it is today. If your father and your mother both pursued careers and left you to a few old people, maybe
Your family will be more glorious today, but you two will definitely not be so outstanding. Your parents support this family together, but they cannot be evenly matched, otherwise this family will not be as stable and happy as it is today. Your aunt and I are about the same
Family status, but your aunt still has to be a bit shorter than me in career, because she started later than me, and her education is not as high as mine. When she doesn’t have to schedule work, she goes home to take care of her children and family. I don’t have to schedule
When I'm at work, I still have to do administrative work. So, she spends more time with her family than I do, and the distance from me will only get farther and farther. To be honest, you can't do too much in anything."
"Is it too much to go too far?" Cheng Huanran didn't quite understand.
Xue Huan explained: "The gap between husband and wife cannot be too big, but it is difficult to pursue the same goal. For example, in terms of academic qualifications, there cannot be too much difference, otherwise the gap in knowledge will cause communication difficulties. But there is no need to be exactly the same, right? For example, you
Auntie, when I took a year off from school to give birth to Ah Yue, it was quite difficult for me to raise a family and persist in studying for a bachelor's degree for several years. Is it possible for me to ask her to go to graduate school like me? Your father's academic qualifications are better than your mother's.
Low, your mother never thought it was impossible, and your father never thought it was necessary to study to catch up with your mother, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "I think so too. I think there shouldn't be too big a gap between the two people. They don't have to be exactly the same. My family background cannot be changed, because the reason why I have these is from my grandfather.
A generation begins to accumulate, and my mother has worked hard for decades. Xiao Qiao values these things, but she disdains them. She is always worried that I will be stronger than her in family status in the future. Since graduation last year, we have started to get married.
We had constant conflicts over this topic. Later, she stayed in the imperial capital to work and planned to focus on her career for the time being. Unexpectedly, more conflicts broke out later. She felt that she was under a lot of pressure, and it was all my fault. But I felt that we were gradually getting along with her.
The journey is getting further and further away, and I feel exhausted every time I am with her."
Xue Huan's eyes moved slightly and his voice was calm: "Then let's break up."
ah???!!
Cheng Huanran was speechless for a moment and looked at him blankly for two or three seconds.
"Uncle Huan, why don't you give us some advice? After all, we have been in a relationship for several years, and we have already reached the stage of talking about marriage. We can't just give up."
Xue Huan gave up: "We are just talking about marriage, not already married. We can get divorced even if we are married, why can't we break up when we are in love? What about the relationship after several years? Falling in love is a love, and getting married is a marriage. Who can guarantee that we will get married?
If you are in love for a long time, your marriage will be long-term. You feel good about falling in love with her, but you start to feel tired before marriage is involved. What will you do when you get married? If you think about divorce after marriage, you will have a lot of things to do.
Worry, especially if you have children. After all, once you get divorced, it will do the most harm to your children."
Cheng Huanran was startled and couldn't help feeling uneasy.
"...Yes, if you find the problem later after you get married, it may be more difficult to solve."
Xue Huan analyzed: "As you just said, this is obviously a problem with Qiao Hui's character. Nature is easy to change but hard to change. Unless she is really willing to change this temper, your marriage will not be stable. But like her
A girl who is strong, independent and strong should not easily make changes for others."
"Impossible." Cheng Huanran felt disappointed: "Every time we have a problem, she always has to ask me to bow my head, even if she is the one who is wrong."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then what are you waiting for? Rather than holding on to a useless piece of chicken and feeling it is a pity, it is better to break it off. You are not a child anymore. You should know how to analyze the situation and the future situation. When I brought my girlfriend
When I returned to China, even though I found a problem, I still gritted my teeth and persisted, which was similar to your current situation. We have been getting better for so many years, and she was even willing to come to a foreign country for me. How could I talk about breaking up with her?
But there is no use in hesitating, it just adds to the worries and helplessness. When you are broken up in love, it is really hard, but when the heartache is healed, and you have another relationship, it is another beginning."
"I..." Cheng Huanran hesitated and muttered in confusion: "Is it true that we can only break up in the end?"