Xue Ling was stunned for two seconds and asked: "...Don't want to have a baby? Why?"
Chen Xinzhi smiled bitterly: "She watched videos of giving birth and raising children all day long. She was so scared. She was always worried that her body would be deformed during pregnancy, and that giving birth and raising a baby would accelerate aging. She may also suffer from depression after giving birth. Raising a baby
She has taught the baby all kinds of anxieties and worries. In short - she is now afraid of having a baby, so she doesn’t want to prepare for pregnancy, and even considers having a DINK in the future.”
Xue Ling simply rolled her eyes: "If every woman thought like her, wouldn't humanity be extinct long ago?"
If it were really that easy to give birth to and raise children, when the word "mother" is mentioned in writing, many people's first reaction would not be the word "great".
If every mother cares about her figure and doesn’t want to go through the hardships of carrying a child for ten months, let alone all the trivialities and worries of raising a baby, where will the children come from? How could human beings have such a huge population of 8 billion today?
!
Chen Xinzhi explained aggrievedly: "Mom, I have given her enough freedom and time over the years. She is younger than me, and I can't bear to have her career hindered by her children at such a young age, so I initially planned to get married for two or three years.
I won’t have children until next year. I never said I didn’t want children... you know that.”
"I know." Xue Ling nodded lightly: "Most people get married to have children, organize families and reproduce offspring. I agree with this."
Although being single has the freedom and ease of being single, most people pursue the common pattern - love, get married, have children and raise children.
This is how human beings are passed down from generation to generation. People who do not have a family are generally regarded as aliens or alternative. No society has ever recognized or pursued the freedom of singleness for all people.
I don’t know if there will be one in the future, but at least I haven’t heard of it so far.
Chen Xinzhi smiled: "I am a person with traditional thinking. I just want to build a happy family with my loved one, full of children and grandchildren, and be happy at home and outside."
Xue Ling said helplessly: "She is the youngest in the family, and she is not as mature and stable as the other brothers. Sometimes she listens to the wind and rain, and sometimes she has an idea. You have not been married for a long time, so you may have to give her some time."
Among the children, the fourth child worries them the most. They thought that after starting a family and getting married, they should be more stable and mature, but who knows that their true nature is still hard to change!
Chen Xinzhi explained: "My mother urged me not to be too late, because the child cannot be conceived at any time. Therefore, I do not plan to use contraception and want to let nature take its course. If I get pregnant, I will have an abortion."
After raising a fetus and giving birth to a child, there is no need to be anxious if there is no good news, just let nature take its course. But she suddenly said that she does not want to have a child because she is very satisfied with her current work and family environment, and is afraid that everything will be messed up after the child is born.
It changed the trajectory of her life."
"...Haha!"
Will your life be in chaos?"
Chen Xin subconsciously looked at his beloved little wife and lowered his voice: "She doesn't want to listen to me now, so I can't force her."
"So, you want me to persuade her?" Xue Ling asked, "You haven't had a detailed chat with her?"
After all, her daughter has grown up and is getting married, so she can't interfere too much. If it's just a young couple discussing, then she can't talk too much.
Chen Xinzhi explained: "I have said it several times, but she refused to listen. She said she thought Dink was pretty good."
"Have you told her that our family cannot accept DINK?" Xue Ling said: "Needless to say, the older generation, her father and I already have 10,000 objections!"
Chen Xinzhi's eyes were slightly embarrassed, and he subconsciously glanced at Lin Qingzhi on the other side, and quickly withdrew his gaze.
"She said that you and dad have always been very open-minded parents. Even if you can't accept it for the time being, you will soon accept it. She also said that you can even accept the third child and Aqing. I believe there is nothing else.
I can stump you."
Xue Ling: "..."
Chen Xinzhi hurriedly explained: "Mom, she doesn't mean to be sarcastic - she simply thinks that you are not ordinary parents. You have a broad vision and an extraordinary ability to accept new things and new ideas."
"Is this comparable?" Xue Ling was secretly angry and said in a more serious tone: "Have you told them that Lao San and A Qing will have several children in the future? Huh?"
"This..." Chen Xinzhi chuckled: "Really? Ah Qing and Lao San have decided?"
Xue Ling nodded heavily: "Yes, they have already decided, if it is soon, it will be next year or the year after. People want to give birth to their own offspring through in vitro fertilization, but she has to respect DINK when she can give birth! She has loved having three friends with her since she was a child.
Gebi, why don't you compete with him in having children? She has the ability to give birth to four or five children, and then the third child will be younger than her!"
Chen Xinzhi was slightly embarrassed and whispered: "How can I bear to let her suffer and have so many children...two at most. I am not greedy, I just want to have two children for me and her. That would be good enough."
"You should persuade me first." Xue Ling reminded: "Your affairs can still be slowed down for a while. The matter between Duoduo and Xiao Tong is imminent and has to be dealt with quickly."
"No rush." Chen Xinzhi explained: "Let me talk to you first. I hope you will supervise Xiaoxin more when you are free. She has always listened to you and dad. If you object, she will not dare to persist."
"Don't worry." Xue Ling promised: "I will find an opportunity to scold her."
Chen Xinzhi couldn't help but remind: "Mom, she won't let me..."
"I understand." Xue Ling said calmly: "I just asked you about Duoduo and Xiaotong, nothing else."
"Thank you, Mom." Chen Xinzhi smiled and thanked her.
Xue Ling gently reminded: "Since you are thinking about preparing for pregnancy, you should contact your family doctor when you have time to talk about some things you should pay attention to. No matter how many children you have, we must have good health and good care, right?"
"Okay." Chen Xinzhi nodded: "I'll contact you later."
Xue Ling whispered: "Tietou, Xiaoxin is still young and not sensible enough. Although she is married, she is still our daughter. It is our parents' responsibility to control her and advise her, and we will not do it because of her
Once she gets married, it has nothing to do with us. If she does anything out of the ordinary, you have to tell us quickly and don't hide it for her."
"No...no." Chen Xinzhi was slightly embarrassed: "Xiaoxin is very good, she is just a little naughty, but has no other shortcomings."
Xue Ling chuckled twice and then drank the remaining water.
"When you pamper her, you have to consider whether you can control her. The relationship between partners is not mutual management, but they must control each other carefully. It is not to control, not to pressure, and not to let go."