Mother Xue was sitting on the chaise longue, basking in the sun and blowing the sea breeze.
Xue Ling took a hair dryer and carefully dried the old man's silver hair, while warning: "If you wash it at night, it's not good to run out directly. The sea breeze is strong and the night wind is cooler. Your hair is wet and it's easy to catch a cold all at once.
.”
"I know." Xue's mother joked, "I'm just old, not stupid."
Xue Ling put down the hair dryer and helped her comb her hair.
"I have told Butler Li and An An to let you lie down and not bend your neck when they wash your hair. You, the old man, should also remember not to bury your head for too long casually."
"I know, I know!" Xue's mother joked to herself: "I am old and useless. I can't even lower my head. When I was young, I was determined not to bow to difficulties. Now that I am older, there are no difficulties in life.
, I still determined not to bow my head."
Xue Ling laughed and stroked the old mother's silver hair.
"Because you are a new-age woman who doesn't know how to bow her head. You don't know how to bow your head by nature!"
Mother Xue's smile was filled with a touch of bitterness, and she said: "The so-called new era has long passed. Our new era was decades ago, and the current new era is young and has nothing to do with us. The new era is too
It’s wonderful and so novel that we didn’t bow our heads, but we had to bend our backs.”
"Isn't this the case for everyone?" Xue Ling said with a smile: "I am a generation younger than you, so I have to obey the old age, let alone you."
Mother Xue chuckled and sighed: "It's easy to surrender to old age, but it's harder to surrender to one's own old age. You, just do whatever you need to do. Your dad and I can still move. Besides, isn't A Yuan still here? He
More attentive than you, and more fond of nagging us old guys than you."
Xue Ling couldn't help but laugh and asked: "Are you praising my son-in-law or scolding him?"
"Of course I like it!" Xue's mother said excitedly: "He is the son-in-law, and it is not his duty to take care of us. He can do this because of love. How can I not praise him? He just does a good job.
It leaves us with no choice but to do what he says."
"Yes!" Xue Ling teased: "You sometimes pretend not to hear what I say three times. A Yuan only said it once, and you immediately followed it up. As expected, my son-in-law's face is still valuable!"
"Of course!" Mother Xue said unceremoniously: "You can't compare with him! No comparison at all!"
Xue Lingle saw the success: "So, I asked your son-in-law to stay and take care of you two, and I will work hard to take care of my grandchildren."
When Mama Xue thought of her great-grandchildren, her heart suddenly felt soft.
"They are all still young, and they are all inseparable from their mother's age. Xiaoxiao has not come back yet, so you have to help take care of her. It is your responsibility to look after children."
Xue Ling couldn't laugh or cry: "As a grandmother, I don't have the obligation to look after the children, but I have the responsibility to look after the children."
"Of course!" Xue's mother explained: "When young people entrust their children to you, they assume that you have to help them take care of them. If you don't take care of them well and the child gets bumped or gets sick, the young people will naturally think that you don't take good care of them.
Or something is not done well enough. This is how it is with raising children. If you do well, people will take it for granted. If you do not do well, they will blame you secretly."
Xue Ling understood the hint in the old mother's words and said: "Children and parents cannot be separated for a long time. The current epidemic situation in China is relatively stable, and the situation is better than abroad. I have been here for eight or nine months, and it is time to go back.
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Mother Xue nodded: "Yes! You can help with the education, I can't rely on you for everything. You are all old and can't keep up with this society. You can't teach your children well. In the end, the children still have to rely on you."
My biological parents taught me that you, as grandparents, are not as good as other people’s parents. Don’t always think that you are the only ones who are better than you, young people are much better than you!”
"That's right." Xue Ling nodded heavily: "The key is to rely on their own parents. We are just supporting, we can't be full-time grandparents."
Mother Xue raised her bald eyebrows and whispered: "You have to think about other daughters-in-law. You have more than one son, Yangyang, and more than just Xiaoxiao. You help the second child raise four children, what about the elders? You help
If you have a son, can you help your daughter? You have to think more carefully, don’t just do it if you think you can help. The eldest brother already has one child, and will have a second child soon. The fourth child is also expected to give birth soon.
The third child and the others should not be far away. The four of them are all your children. You won’t favor anyone, but if you blindly prefer one to the other, in the long run, others will have no objection? Huh?”
"Yes." Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "You are right. In the past, there was only the second child's family, so naturally we would help them more. Now that the eldest brother has a child, we can't always help the second child's family."
Mother Xue looked left and right.
"You, don't think that because your daughters-in-law are reasonable children, you can be careless. It's one thing for them to be reasonable. As elders, you have to stick to the principle of a bowl of water being balanced for a long time. Otherwise, as time goes by, young people's hearts will grow.
There will inevitably be dissatisfaction and even discord."
"I understand." Xue Ling gently stroked her mother's hair and said warmly, "Thank you for the reminder."
Mother Xue nodded with satisfaction and whispered: "You, you have only been grandparents for a few years, so there must be things you don't think about. Remember, don't support any one family, and don't favor any one. It's all yours.
Children should be treated equally. When it comes to caring for children, we should also be consistent. They will take care of everything themselves, and we will help. If they have something to do at the moment, you can help. It is okay for a short time, but not for a long time. You, no matter how awesome you are
There is no way to be fussy, I have to be more cautious."
"Yes." Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "Ayuan and I are not young anymore. We easily get dizzy when children make noises. Now there are four or five of us. Even with the help of nannies, we are still overwhelmed and very busy. If there are more
, then it’s even more impossible.”
"Look after yourselves." Mother Xue continued to remind: "It's not that the children are unfilial. They have to make money and take care of their families and children, and they have no time to take care of you. While you give them a helping hand, you should also take care of you.
Yourselves. Once you fall ill, they will not care about the young ones, but they will not care about you old ones. Take care of yourselves, you will feel comfortable physically and mentally, and your children will not have to worry about anything. While you love others, you should love yourself even more, especially
Old people at this age are more likely to be ignored by them."
"Isn't that right?"
We are still getting stronger and stronger, but we don’t realize how hard and tired we are!”