The parent was not hit. Seeing everyone looking at him, he sat down with a stern expression.
Gu Mo asked the parent, "As a parent, when you ask your child to develop as you want, do you know that your child is very talented in sports?"
The parent was confused.
Gu Mo said: "Your child's best record for the 100-meter dash is eleven seconds and nine seconds. Do you know what the shortest sprint record in the world is? It's nine seconds and fifty, which means your child is only faster than the international champion."
More than a second late."
The parent was stunned, "This, this... is my child really that powerful?"
"Look, you don't understand your child's talent at all and you haven't bothered to understand it. You just blame the child for not being good enough. Is it your fault or the child's fault?"
Gu Mo looked at the others.
"And everyone here, you hope that your children can understand your thoughts and grow according to your ideas, so do you know your own children? Do you know what to do to help him develop better?"
"What else do we need to know? How can we have that time when we are busy working all day..."
"Aren't all children like that? One thought comes to another, one day is like this and tomorrow will be like that. They are very fickle. Who can understand..."
"It would be worthy of him to give birth to him, give him food and drink, and provide him with education. Why should I bother giving birth to him?"
"That's right, you gave birth to them and brought them into this world, but don't think that you are a great kindness to your children by giving birth to them. You feel that your children owe you a lifetime and have to repay the debt..."
"You have to know that when you gave birth to her, you never asked her if she would like to come into this world and be your child. Therefore, giving birth to him is your own decision, and providing him with food and drink is also your unilateral choice.
Then no matter how hard you work to raise your child, it has nothing to do with this child..."
"Perhaps if you give your children a chance to freely choose which family they will be born into, they may not necessarily choose you. So from this perspective, you think this child is not good. When it comes to children, you are no better than other parents."
The competitiveness of being chosen to be a parent…”
"When you hope that your children will become what you imagine, are you the kind of person you want in your heart?"
"Ask yourself again, are you so good? So good that you want your children to be like you?"
"Go back and ask your parents, are you the kind of child they want? If not, should you also take a good class to become the kind of child your parents want?"
Every word Gu Mo said was loud and deafening.
The parents fell silent, and the entire auditorium was silent.
"You have not become the kind of child your parents want, so why do you want your child to become the kind of child you want? Children are also individuals with independent consciousness and personality. Why can't they have their own personality and preferences?
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"It is undeniable that parents play an extremely important role in their children's lives. But what advantages do adults have over children? The only advantage is that they are decades older than children and they think they have rich life experience, so when
When they begin to have their own ideology, the best performance as a parent is to learn to listen to the child's heart, instead of using adult standards to demand and teach the child how to be a good accessory."
"What parents have to do is to love their children first, rather than letting children learn filial piety and gratitude first, because this is equivalent to you in advance from the child in advance. When the child is consumed by your feelings for your feelings, as a parent, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you
What are the left? "
"And the arrival of the child also creates value for you, satisfy your desire to be your parents, meet your needs of passion, but also meet your blood, dreams and wishes, and family continuity ..."
"Children give you much more than you give them. You think that the child is not satisfied and can scold him casually, and even abandon it easily, but what about the child?
The pressure that imposes his expectations on him, all will and preferences can only be transferred with your preferences, so don't feel that it is not easy for you to have children and children, just think that children owe you ... "
"If you really just want to raise a child who obeys and obeys himself and has no soul, then I suggest that you do n’t have to work so hard to have children to raise, and to raise a dog directly. If you shout, it will immediately run over and face you to you
Shake Tail. "
"Of course, the relationship between parents and children is so faint, it is not right in itself. After all, the blood relationship is constantly giving up. The parents have the obligation to teach their children to grow. The child will also have the obligation to give back to the parent's breeding in the future ..."
"So between children and parents, this is a mutually beneficial and symbiosis. The child does something wrong. Parents should persuade, but the persuasion is good."
Smart brain, "... !?"
My master must be an engineer of the human soul at a time.
I was so angry that it was said to be a wise brain, and I couldn't wait to stand out a cub to pull out and pull!
At this moment, the parents were very silent and looked at each other. They couldn't find a word to refute Gu Mo.
It is undeniable that parents love their children's hearts.
Because they used to live in an era of not wealthy, they missed a lot of opportunities to make themselves more.
When they have children, they pass their regrets into their children, and they are anxious to look at the son of Jackie Chan to see the daughter Chengfeng. I hope that through their children's hands, they can complete their desire to complete.
However, it is also because of their own limitations that they are anxious to achieve success, but there is no way to give children better guidance.
Sometimes it was even trapped in a strange circle of illness, and finally destroyed the child, but I still didn't know where I failed.
Gu Mo listed the data and cases of children who committed suicide in the past five years and committed suicide due to the contradictions of their parents.
This number is very huge. At least hundreds of thousands of teenagers commit to their parents each year, they commit suicide.
"Maybe in your opinion, it has been cultivated for so many years of mind. The child does not appreciate it, but he also runs to commit suicide. This is very filial."
"But the child is young. If something goes wrong, it is not a child's problem, it is your problem. You should reflect on the quality of your child, but your quality.