I'm not asking for any help, I just want to hear your suggestions.
After walking around in the courtyard, the old lady really heard a solution that was not a solution.
The aunt who gave the old lady advice had a rural household registration earlier, but it was changed to a Beijing household registration in the 1953 census. She was more familiar with this aspect, so she gave the old lady an idea: "Why don't you go back and ask
I'm asking if your niece is still thinking of getting married again. I think she's not too old, but it's not possible. See if you can find a marriage for her and let her marry here.
If you can't marry in the city, can you consider the villages closest to us?
If I can’t get an urban household registration, can’t I still get a rural household registration?”
The aunt scratched her head again as she spoke, and then added: "I remember Sanlitun (Sanlitun didn't seem to be called this name in the 1960s, but I only found out that it was composed of three villages. In the 1960s, it was still a large village.
farmland, but I didn’t find out which three villages they were, so I just made do with it, sorry!) Isn’t it not far from here? I remember someone told me last time that Sanlitun is only a dozen miles away from us.
Even if you walk there, it only takes two hours."
As soon as these words came out, the old lady seemed to be awakened and slapped her forehead suddenly: "Look at my brain, I just don't have the inspiration like you, big sister. Why didn't I think of this method?"
She was only worried that her niece would not be able to transfer her household registration, but she forgot that there are differences between rural areas. Her younger brother is also in a rural area now, but it is not far from where she lives now.
She was familiar with Sanlitun, and the Gong family was not far from Sanlitun.
As if grabbing a life-saving straw, the old lady said hello to the person who gave her the advice and ran back to the house in a hurry.
As soon as she got home, the old lady hurriedly pulled her niece into the room.
After closing the door, she sat on the bed with a serious look on her face. Then she took a deep breath and asked softly: "Da Ya, you also know that it is difficult to transfer your household registration now. I asked you around, what do you want?"
The only way to stay here is to get married, what do you think?"
Da Ya has already been married once, and she is no longer as shy as she was the first time when talking about marriage. After a moment of silence, she decisively replied: "Auntie, I agree to marry as long as the other party allows me to eat."
I will marry you when I have enough to eat."
Da Ya stroked her belly as she spoke. The feeling of being hungry was so uncomfortable that she didn't want to experience it again in her life.
When she heard that her niece was willing to remarry, the old lady breathed a sigh of relief and just wanted to take another step forward.
"Da Ya, I don't want to fool you. With your current situation, I guess you won't be able to find anyone who is stable and willing to see you. There will definitely be some problems."
Ma Daya nodded, she knew this since her first marriage.
Although everyone said that she looked like her mother, she knew that she was not as good-looking as her mother. She was just an ordinary person who couldn't be picked out in a crowd.
She is not very good-looking, has been married once, and has no burdens. These are her advantages that are not considered advantages. With her condition, let alone her really good condition, even ordinary people would not look down on her.
If someone with good conditions really fell in love with her, she wouldn't dare agree.
Ma Daya doesn't believe that pie will not fall from the sky, and there is no free lunch in the world. Everything is clearly marked with a price. Qi Dafei, this is not the right family. If the other party really likes her, they are probably trying to fight her.
What a bad idea.
She couldn't think of anything in herself that others could covet. The only thing she thought about was her own life.
Looking at Ma Daya's expression, the old lady nodded: "It's good that you know. You have two choices now. One is that I will find a family for you to marry nearby. The advantage is that my husband's family is close to me and we can usually communicate with each other."
Take care of it a little bit.
But there are also disadvantages. As you know, it is difficult to get a household registration in Beijing now. Even if you get married, you probably won't be able to get a household registration in Beijing, and you probably won't get any rations or anything like that.
Moreover, the conditions of this kind of family are usually very poor, so you will inevitably suffer if you marry into one."
Seeing that her nephew didn't speak, the old lady comforted her: "Don't worry too much, there are your uncle and I, we can help to some extent. As long as you two work together and make progress together, you will always live a good life."
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Faced with the current choice that could affect her whole life, Ma Daya was silent for a while, licked her dry lips, and said: "Auntie, what is the other option? I will consider it after listening to it."
The old lady nodded and agreed with her niece's idea. This is a major event in a lifetime, and it is better to think it over carefully.
The old lady opened her mouth and continued: "The second step is to find a family for you near your uncle's house. Although your uncle's house is rural, it will not starve to death no matter how hard it is to guard the land.
Where you marry, your uncles, aunts, and your cousins will take care of you, so your husband's family will not dare to bully you for no reason.
There is one thing, after you get married, you can only register in a rural area."
After the old lady finished speaking, she stopped talking. She wanted her niece to think carefully about which one to choose.
Ma Daya thought for a while and asked the old lady: "Auntie, can I see who these two options are?"
Although she wants to be a city citizen, she still wants to see the man's character more than the title of city man.
She has a bad character and is unwilling to marry even if she has a city registered permanent residence.
Regarding the request made by her niece, the old lady answered very happily: "Of course, you have to look at it. We don't ask the other party for anything else. We just ask the other party to be responsible."
After getting a willing reply from her niece, the old lady spread the word in the courtyard the next day, hoping to find a marriage partner for her nephew Daya.
Considering that Zhang Guifang works in the subdistrict office and must know the situation nearby, the first person the old lady looked for was Zhang Guifang.
After coming over, he didn't say any polite words and went straight to the point: "Guifang, you should have guessed the reason why I came. I didn't hide it, I just told the truth."
Zhang Guifang nodded, the news the old lady had spread had already reached her ears.
Zhang Guifang poured a glass of water for the old lady, and then said: "Sister-in-law, don't be in a hurry. Just drink some water and we'll talk slowly."
The old lady took a sip of water, rubbed her cup with her hand and said, "I came here today just to ask you to be the intermediary and show the eldest daughter her husband's house.
My sister had a bad life and gave birth to many children in her life. In the end, she only had this daughter left, and she was the son-in-law whom she hired at home."
