They were both an old married couple, and they always talked about everything. Cheng Tianyuan didn't want to hide it from her.
"I'm sure I can't bear to part with you, but... I'm worried... I don't have many days left with ***. Back then, my dad... was like that. He was gone in the blink of an eye, and I didn't even have time to hear his last words. The old man gave birth to me and raised me.
I didn't even have a chance to take care of him. I don't want to leave too many regrets like this in my life."
Xue Ling held his hand and whispered: "You are wrong. Dad has been with us for more than ten years. You were filial to him every day. How come you don't even have a chance to take care of him?"
"It's different." Cheng Tianyuan said: "Back then, he was completely able to take care of himself, and he could also help us take care of our children. Rather than taking care of him, it's better to say that he was taking care of us."
Xue Ling shook his head: "It's about taking care of each other. You were disturbed by that incident that year, so you were worried that you didn't have enough time to spend with your mother, and you didn't want to leave the regret of not being able to be filial to the elderly. In fact, my father and mother came from the county seat.
My mother accompanied us to the Imperial Capital, from Oriental Garden to Ronghua Mall, and later to Xinyuan, where we lived for several years. I don’t think that the elderly are dying and cannot take care of themselves. That kind of care is true filial piety and care.
Don’t the days and nights we spend with them count?”
"...Forget it." Cheng Tianyuan sighed: "This is the time when my life is numbered. I'm afraid that like my father, she will be gone in a blink of an eye."
Xue Ling lowered his eyes and whispered: "The ancients said that seventy years of life have been rare since ancient times. Now living conditions are better, and the average life span of the elderly is also longer. Whether it is your mother or my parents, they have already exceeded the average level.
.In my opinion, we are already lucky children. We have more time to spend with them than others, and it is more than ten years. Over the years, the living conditions we have provided them cannot boast of being first-class.
Okay, but in a big city like the Imperial Capital, you can still be ranked first."
"Yeah." Cheng Tianyuan agreed: "That's true."
Xue Ling glanced at him and asked, "Then what else do you want? Is it possible that you really want to take mom back to Chengjiacun to live? That is the best for her? Is it possible?"
He had never thought about giving up his career before, but the sudden mention of it today was probably not just because he wanted to accompany the old man.
Here in the imperial capital, he can still work and take care of his family. The reason why he suddenly wants to sell the company is probably because he wants to satisfy the old man's recent desire to return to his hometown.
Cheng Tianyuan was speechless for a moment and whispered: "She always clamored to go back to her hometown. She is normal sometimes and vague at other times. I can't tell whether she really thinks so or something else. If she really wants to go back, it will be the last time in her life.
wish, then I can only try my best to satisfy her."
"It is the normal thought of every elderly person to return fallen leaves to their roots." Xue Ling nodded affirmatively: "She insists on being buried with your father in her hometown, and we all agree. But that doesn't mean we have to go back now, right?"
Cheng Tianyuan frowned in embarrassment.
Xue Ling couldn't help but ask: "Are you sure she has to go back to live? Do you think it is better for her to go back? Better than now? Is it possible? First of all, she has left Chengjia Village for more than 30 years, and the environment there has also changed.
She has learned so much and it is no longer what she remembers. Will she be able to adapt to it after she goes back? "
Cheng Tianyuan hesitated and whispered: "...most of the people she knew are gone."
Xue Ling asked again: "The environment has changed and the people she knows are gone. Can she still get back the feeling she had in her hometown? Is it possible? Here in the Imperial Capital, she can have my parents as companions, Sister Achun and I."
Take care of her. A group of young people come in and out, talk to her, eat and drink with her. There are also two little great-grandchildren for her to play with and make her laugh every day. If you accompany her back to Chengjia Village, will these still be possible? "
Cheng Tianyuan was slightly stunned and couldn't answer.
Xue Ling continued to analyze for him: "If you and mom want to go back to live, it is impossible for me to go back with you. First of all, my parents are also old and cannot be taken care of by anyone. Secondly, although I retreat, but
I usually have to hold meetings to control the main direction of the company and the group, I have to be busy every three or four days, and I have to answer the phone from time to time. My career is here, and I can't completely let go for the time being."
Cheng Tianyuan was silent with his eyes lowered and did not speak.
Xue Ling continued: "The careers and studies of several children are here, and they can't accompany you back to Chengjia Village. That's for sure. Now when the eldest and the second eldest come home from get off work at night, they watch TV with grandma and hug each other. The three old people are surrounded by their children. If you go back, you and your children will be with you all day long, and the whole villa will be empty."
"Do you think this will be good for ***'s condition? Is it possible? Didn't the doctor tell you? The elderly should be in an environment they are familiar with, otherwise they will forget things more easily. Mom only went back to live in the villa in her hometown two or three times.
, each time for a short period of time. It was undoubtedly a strange environment for her over there. Not to mention that here we need heating and heating, a chef to prepare whatever we want to eat, a garden to have a garden, and someone to guard the entrance and exit 24 hours a day.
Do you think you can have these when you go back to your hometown?"
"It's difficult to go from luxury to frugality. It's not that the villa in my hometown is bad, it's that the environment there is not the one she's familiar with, and there are no relatives she's familiar with to keep her company, and there's no good environment she's familiar with. From a warm and familiar environment
, she is in a strange and lonely environment. Do you think this is good for her as an elderly person? Is it possible? Have you thought about it carefully? Ah? "
Cheng Tianyuan saw that the more she talked, the more angry she became. He couldn't help but hesitantly said: "Daughter-in-law, don't get excited, I'm just discussing with you."
"I don't agree." Xue Ling said straightforwardly: "You can't treat it as an imperial edict just because Mom is in a daze. She is old now, and we arrange her meals and daily life. We should respect her and take care of her.
Being nice to her doesn't mean we have to lose our judgment and ideas and blindly accommodate the elderly. Listening to her doesn't necessarily mean we are filial. Not listening to her doesn't mean we are unfilial."
Cheng Tianyuan said impatiently: "But she - she still wants to go back to her hometown! She said it again last night!"
"Then do you think you can listen to her?" Xue Ling asked angrily: "I have just analyzed it for you, you should make your own judgment! Could it be that the old man has Alzheimer's disease, and you have also developed dementia?!
"
Cheng Tianyuan's face turned pale and he fell silent again.
Xue Ling's eyes were red and she loudly said: "Okay! I don't agree with this matter anyway! You can calm down and think about the reasons I just analyzed for you! Moreover, now that the children are older, they have a say in everything at home.
.You shouldn’t make the decision yourself, you have to listen to their opinions!”
After saying this, she turned around and left quickly.