Xue Ling whispered: "The culture abroad is different from that in China, and the educational concepts are different. Parents can only use their hearts to influence their children and re-incorporate them into the family, otherwise she will only go further and further, and her heart and body are the same.
.”
"That's it." Xue Cong frowned: "Don't think that some areas of people are better than us. Their culture is certainly better than us. People abroad pay attention to themselves. When children become adults, they go out independently and contact their parents and family.
I spend very little time. I don’t have much contact, so my feelings are naturally indifferent.”
"Well." Xue Ling agreed very much: "Fellowship also needs to be managed. Whether it is family affection or love, it is the general principle. If a person who is close to him or not, he may still become a stranger if he does not get along with him often. This world is so cruel.
, without giving, you can’t get anything, and the same is true for feelings.”
Xue Cong sighed: "When she was growing, it happened to be the rising period of our career. His profession is not an ordinary profession, he has been away from the family for a long time, and occasionally he has not taken a vacation for a year or two. My daughter has been sensible since she became sensible.
She had to get used to the days without her father. I was also a tough guy. When he was not around, I would take everything myself and force myself to be strong. Maybe because I was afraid that my child would be weak when he grew up, I always instilled in her.
People must have independent thinking. It is really good to do things independently, but being independent is ridiculously wrong!”
"This sentence sounds simple, but its meaning is profound!" Xue Ling sighed and took a sip of tea.
Xue Cong smiled helplessly and took a sip.
"If people want to survive in the world, they cannot do without the help of others and the support of their families. Until she went abroad as a teenager, she relied on herself for everything. I was busy, and occasionally called her to chat for a few words.
The time is always her in a hurry, and I am also in a hurry, just like going to the market. Her father was still outside at first, and his communication was very confidential and he could not contact her easily. She grew up studying and growing up there, and gradually integrated into her circle of friends and thinking.
Not only has it changed, but many ideas have also changed. Gradually, she became unfamiliar with us. I felt that my daughter was away from me step by step, but my husband was always far away. During that period, I suddenly felt so boring
, and even thought about getting a divorce.”
"It's just an impulse." Xue Ling laughed softly.
Xue Cong shook his head: "It's really not... Your brother-in-law is back. He would rather give up a great opportunity than come back to accompany me. At that time, I cried so hard that I didn't dare to mention any divorce topics. My career
Heading toward orgasm, but when I looked back, I found that I had missed too many things. From then on, I began to let Xiaomei come back. She refused at first, and refused to do anything, saying that she had adapted to the environment there and told us not to
Go and disturb her."
"My brother-in-law is also scared after hearing this?" Xue Ling asked.
Xue Cong nodded: "Can he not be afraid? He finally fought for the opportunity to reunite his family in the imperial capital. He wanted to make up for my daughter and I, but his daughter said that she is no longer a child and she cannot be with her parents.
It was even more impossible. So he began to find time to communicate with his daughter, trying every means to let her understand the new technology and new R&D directions in China - to pick her favorite field. Sure enough, her daughter finally loosened."
"Later, Xiaomei was coaxed back by you." Xue Ling smiled: "I still remember the day she came back, when you cried when you went to the airport to pick up people."
Xue Cong was embarrassed and murmured: "There is no way... I haven't seen her for too long. First, I miss her, and second, I cry out with joy. We are just such a daughter, and I really don't want her to be too far away from us. When people are old, they are brilliant and have worked hard.
After all the sails, I suddenly realized that I became afraid of loneliness. Maybe this is a characteristic of aging."
"It should be." Xue Ling explained: "Many elderly people always like to run to crowded places after retirement because they are too lonely and boring at home. The three elderly people in our family are with each other, and Ayuan and I are with each other.
But they still talk about the children from time to time.”
Xue Ling looked around and smiled slightly.
"This may be the reason why we have always been a big family. Young parents cannot live without their children, older parents cannot live without us, and we cannot live without our children."
Xue Cong patted the back of her hand and said earnestly: "How great this is! Everyone can have their own independent space. After walking out of their own small space, they are all their own relatives. When they are sick, they will be taken care of by their relatives, and when they go out, they will be remembered by their relatives.
It is precisely because of this that I paid to help Xiao Zeng and Xiaomei buy the villa next door for them. They have some savings, but the down payment of the villa is not enough, so I simply used the money to buy the villa next door together.
I made breakfast with the nanny. When they woke up, they came to have breakfast with us. After dinner, they went to work. They could feel like home when chatting together - it was great! They each had small spaces and large spaces.
Connected together.”
Xue Ling laughed silently: "So Ayuan and I have to work hard to make money in order for our family to live better and have small spaces for each other. We can't buy a bigger one and build it ourselves.
move place."
Xue Cong was amused by her and said, "It is motivation and pressure. When children grow up in big families with good atmosphere, they will know how to be considerate and filial to their elders. Look at your children, they are all gentle and filial to their elders.
child."
"The elders have paid a lot behind their backs." Xue Ling narrowed his eyes and sighed: "Ayuan has also paid a lot. When the child was young, his career had almost no big progress, and he spent most of his time every day.
We are doing housework to pick up and drop off our children. We have too many children, and we spend much more effort and money and time than other families. Fortunately, with him, otherwise I would not be able to work hard and work hard."
"Yes." Xue Cong smiled: "This is something that our family can't get by, even if we want to break our heads."
Xue Ling quickly shook her head: "Sister, you can't compare with me. Brother-in-law is not an ordinary person. He serves the country, the people and the people, and can only sacrifice his own small family. If the environment was not too difficult back then, you might have one or two more children.
.”
"Oh..." Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "It's too late, it's too late to say anything. Now it's not only late, but also late for our daughters and sons-in-law. I told them that as long as you can get pregnant, no matter what, no matter what
You have to try all the methods. If it really doesn’t work, just use artificial insemination assistance. Nowadays, science and technology are so advanced, and confidence is necessary."
"Yes, there are always more methods than difficulties." Xue Ling said.
Xue Cong nodded and lowered his voice: "We have told you the lessons of our family. You have to remind your children not to learn from Xiaomei. Eugenics and good parenting is a must. You must not have late childbirth, and you don't want to have a child.