Xue Ling said assuredly: "Don't worry, I will warn them quietly."
"Especially women..." Xue Cong whispered: "Men's childbirth age span is longer than women. They get married at the age when they should get married, and have children at the age when they should have children. Some things are missed for a lifetime, and the matter of giving birth is like a child.
It's one of them. Don't wait until you suddenly want to be a mother and a father, but you can't give birth."
Xue Ling couldn't help but think of the "shocked" thoughts of young people during the company's team building.
"I don't know what's wrong now? Many young people think it's too difficult to get married. I don't know why they have to get married, and why they have to make themselves so annoyed and hard. When the company was built, dozens of young people would rather be alone.
, and he was unwilling to look at his colleagues everywhere. Duoduo told me that now there are a large number of men and women who don’t even want to get married, but they don’t even want to get in love.”
"I can't understand, the generation gap." Xue Cong shook his head: "There are indeed many young people who think so, thinking that people only last for a lifetime. What do I have to do to live so tiring and hard. They are all afraid of bearing the pain of marriage and having children
The hardships of raising a daughter are also the various hardships and hardships in life.”
Xue Ling thought for a while and whispered: "Maybe the pressure of young people nowadays to live and work is too great. We are all people who have been through marriage for so many years and have some of their own opinions on marriage. Marriage is indeed difficult, so we want to maintain marriage.
It requires a lot of effort. Blindly demanding or blindly giving is not the basis of a good marriage. Marriage represents various responsibilities, responsibilities to one's parents, responsibilities to one's parents-in-law, and children.
Responsibility. Marriage also means all kinds of chaos and difficulties, various anxiety, worries and irritability... If you don’t grit your teeth and hold on, your marriage may be broken and collapse at any time."
"So the divorce rate is soaring every year." Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "Especially the imperial capital, it is one of the regions with the highest divorce rate. People in our era actually had a harder life and had greater pressure to survive. They can get divorced if they are not.
The rate is not high."
"Yes!" Xue Ling said: "The life of the older generation is even more difficult. They have experienced natural disasters, various famines and social turmoil, hungry and lack of food and clothing, but they all gritted their teeth and persevered. They would also make noises,
There will be chaos, but they rarely divorce, and some people don’t even know what the divorce is.”
Just like her mother-in-law Liu Ying, she only knows that marriage is about getting married, finding a good man to have children with him, and living a good life.
"Maybe families at that time needed to be with each other to support themselves." Xue Cong laughed: "No matter who lets go, the family will collapse, and most of their lives will collapse, so no one dares to let go.
Can grit your teeth and hold on."
Xue Ling nodded: "Actually, the truth is the same. Nowadays, families also need to work together. Whether it is financial or family miscellaneous work, they must be paid, otherwise the family will be unstable sooner or later, and sooner or later divorce will collapse. Some people say that now
It is difficult for people to get married and easy to get divorced, so the divorce rate will soon be higher than the marriage rate.”
Xue Cong smiled softly and narrowed his eyes.
"It was just as difficult for us to get married at that time, even more difficult than now. I remember when we were considering getting married, the political background was very important at that time, especially for those of us who had a unit, we had to submit an application for marriage and write a letter when we got married.
Family background, the other party’s family and work unit must be filled out one by one, and then applied to the organization. The organization must send someone to the other party’s unit for investigation until it is confirmed. The leader can only obtain a similar certificate of award if the approval is completed.
Marriage certificate.”
Xue Ling couldn't help but ask, "Is your marriage certificate still there? Did you investigate for a long time?"
After hearing this, Xue Cong couldn't help but sigh.
"He kept it all away, I dare not watch it... It was too difficult to get married at the beginning. I almost gave up several times. It was him who insisted that I had to wait with him."
"What's wrong?" Xue Ling whispered: "Is there a problem with our Xue family's background?"
Xue Cong nodded: "Yes, the Xue family's family has some... high, not poor farmers. His leader has been reluctant to approve and sign. He has been waiting and refused to give up, insisting on submitting one application every week.
At that time, I often shed tears secretly. Uncle San felt very distressed. Uncle San tried his best to find someone to help, and finally got through it. He and I were able to make up, and most of the credit was that Uncle San was
.”
"The third uncle loves you the most." Xue Ling said softly: "How could he bear to let your lover be forced to separate... He also knew that his brother-in-law is a person worthy of your trust for the rest of your life."
Xue Cong smiled bitterly: "Short after getting married, he left, and he had no news for two or three years. At that time, I organized letters to him every day, but unfortunately there was no reply. Uncle San was living like a person when he saw me.
Like a resentful woman, she sighed and said that he didn't know whether he did it right or wrong. He also said, don't always complain about the situation, and expect the company of the future until old age. It is also a kind of luck to be bitter first and then sweet in life.
Until today, I finally understand what Uncle San said.”
"Yes." Xue Ling's tears flashed: "The third uncle is such a wise and wise man, and every word he says is reasonable. Yes... there are many hardships in life. If you can survive the pain in half, you will usher in the second half.
Sweet, it's already considered extremely lucky."
Xue Cong held her hand and smiled: "You and I are lucky. As long as you are content, you will find that we are already in sweetness."
"It's not time yet." Xue Ling couldn't help looking into the back garden and whispered: "I still have a tough battle in the second half. My children will start their own families and careers in the future, and the elderly are all old... This is me
The least dare to face."
Xue Cong sighed: "People must have had such a thing. Since ancient times, no one will die."
"I understand, and the truth is clear." Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "But as long as I think of it as my elder, I can't help but feel sad and cry. The knife cuts it on my heart, and only I know the pain."
Xue Cong's eyes dimmed and he murmured: "You are much luckier than me... My memory of my parents has long been blurred. They passed away before I even became an adult..."
"I'm sorry, I've said too much." Xue Ling patted the back of her hand and turned around: "Sister, with you, I feel that time passes quickly."
Xue Cong laughed softly: "I'm here to talk to you today. I plan to eat and drink here for lunch and dinner, and under a generous excuse, he said he's here to accompany you."
"I can't ask for it." Xue Ling drank the last sip of black tea and reminded: "Sister, the tea is almost cold, let's take a few more sips."
Xue Cong drank it and stood up slowly.
"Let's go, let's go to the back garden to find Uncle Wu and Aunt."