Wang Xiaoxiao was stunned when she heard this and asked, "When I was a teenager - just teach these?"
"Yes." Xue Ling nodded: "We won't teach you specifically, but we will subtly instill the correct view of choosing a spouse in them. In addition, if parents are very loving, the children will also have a scale in their hearts. What should they find?
People who live together for the rest of their lives have more or less ideas."
"My parents have a great influence." Wang Xiaoxiao smiled embarrassedly, "My parents are both very traditional older generations. In addition, their profession also determines that they will be more conservative. When we were young,
They have never taught us how to find a partner or partner. I think they are embarrassed to talk about it. However, they have always been very loving and live a peaceful life with each other. Before I knew it, I also felt that I should find one.
Like-minded people live a peaceful and peaceful life.”
"Yes." Xue Ling smiled and said, "This should be a very important item in family education. We can't say absolutely, we only talk about the high probability. Children raised by families with loving parents, physical and mental health,
It will be healthier and stronger. Children raised by families with parents who often have conflicts, quarrels and even domestic violence are prone to lack of a sense of security, and are prone to deviations or even paranoid when looking for a partner."
Wang Xiaoxiao asked tentatively: "Brother's girlfriend...what is wrong with her?"
Xue Ling lowered her voice: "Actually, she and Ranran have been separated for a long time, and it is not very polite to talk behind the scenes. Let's just talk about the matter, as an example, not to target her on purpose. She is very prone to anxiety and even paranoid."
"Anxiety?" Wang Xiaoxiao asked: "At work or study?"
Xue Ling replied: "Everyone is. She is the only one child in her family. She has high expectations for her and has high requirements. Maybe she has lived under high pressure for a long time and is eager for success, and even... she even wants to harm others' interests.
Things come in exchange for her improvement. The time is long and she slowly does things that deviate from the moral standards."
Wang Xiaoxiao couldn't understand it and asked: "Is it emotional? Or at work?"
Xue Ling had to give a small example and explained: "At that time, she cared about Ranran very much, and Ranran loved her too. The two people she obviously loved each other, but they were always close and had no sense of intimacy with their lovers. Later, Ranran might have discovered that she was for her own sake.
In the promotion, she did not hesitate to do anything to harm her colleagues, and they quarreled one after another. There were too many cold wars and too much trouble. Ranran broke up with her in a tired heart. She turned her head and asked for trouble for Ranran, and even exposed our privacy.
Going online, there is a hysterical 'will ruin if you can't get it', which scares us all."
Wang Xiaoxiao was stunned: "...so cruel?"
"Yeah." Xue Ling nodded: "I have been in contact with her parents and have had dinner together. Her mother is a very strong and controlful lady. She loves her daughter very much, but she is also very strict.
She is not allowed to be worse than others, and her requirements are too high. I guess her fault is mostly related to her mother's behavior. People are easily wrong under high pressure, especially under high pressure of self-requirement."
Wang Xiaoxiao couldn't help asking: "Later - how did she do? Mom, didn't you sue her?"
"No." Xue Ling frowned and whispered: "She... had mental problems and had to be hospitalized. Fortunately, her father was open-minded and knew how to enlighten her. I heard Ranran say that after she recovered, she participated.
The poverty alleviation activities went to the countryside. After a few years of training, she returned to her hometown to work. After changing the environment and gaining experience, she became much more mature and stable, and became more cheerful and sunny."
"Brother is still in touch with her?" Wang Xiaoxiao asked.
Xue Ling shook her head: "No. They are all very smart people. They know that since some things have happened, they can't be friends. Why bother to deceive themselves and make things worse for themselves? Ranran listened to their classmates. They used to study for graduate school together,
There are many common classmates and friends."
Wang Xiaoxiao couldn't help but sigh: "It should be a very outstanding girl..."
"Very excellent." Xue Ling said without any concealment: "She not only has outstanding appearance, but also has a very smooth manner in dealing with people. Ranran will be attracted to her, not without reason."
Wang Xiaoxiao guessed: "The eldest brother may have been influenced by his mother. At the beginning, he liked a career-oriented woman."
"It has some influence." Xue Ling explained: "In the process of growing up, the biggest influence is the parents and family environment. I am a career-oriented woman, and several children more or less like another partner of a career-oriented one.
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Wang Xiaoxiao laughed and said, "Mom, my brother later chose my sister-in-law - I think it has something to do with you."
Xue Ling laughed silently: "An An is not an ordinary girl. What kind of relationship method? Is it impossible?"
"Celebrity." Wang Xiaoxiao explained: "Sister-in-law has a very special temperament, which is different from ordinary people. However, she has a very good personality, just as good as you, mom. You are all humble, gentle, and have a strong tolerant heart. In terms of dealing with people, you are all humble and gentle.
They all have a strong and calm sense of calmness. They should say this, but it is probably that way."
Xue Ling smiled and said, "Thank you. Thank you. It's thanks to An An who is destined to be a family. In fact, teaching children is not a matter of time, but it has to subtly influence the children day by day. If you can do this,
Even if the child's view on choosing a spouse is deviated, it will not be too far away. He does not teach or talk about it in normal times, and even deliberately avoids such embarrassing topics. When the child finds someone he likes, he will make a fuss and say something dissatisfied or disagrees.
, Can you not make a fuss?"
The intensification of conflicts among many families does not occur for no reason, nor does it blow up just by groundlessness.
If you don’t teach your children how to choose people, it may be too late to teach them when they grow up.
What kind of partner should children find? They should influencing their children consciously in advance and subtly allow them to form a correct view of choosing a partner.
"You have never opposed... others?" Wang Xiaoxiao asked curiously: "For example, Yangyang? The third brother? Or the fourth brother?"
Xue Ling nodded: "Yes, but they all got over it in the end. Because they didn't pick the wrong person, including the third brother."
Wang Xiaoxiao rolled her eyes and said "Oh" softly, not daring to ask any further.
Xue Ling chuckled and said, "Actually, the third brother's situation is very special. It is really not easy for Ranran and his father to pass this level. However, we finally came over. You all chose the right one.
It’s enough for your own people, the ones you love.”
Wang Xiaoxiao couldn't help but mutter: "Aqing is really impeccable. Whether it is family background or personal cultivation, personality, or behavior, it is far from enough to say that he is 'choosing one in a thousand'. On the other hand, as long as he overcomes prejudice
, He is a perfect son-in-law."
Xue Ling smiled slightly and replied: "The third brother was not wrong, it just tests the strength of his parents."
"Mom! Mom!" The dick's iconic loud voice sounded from the living room.