Yun Qiao returned to Yancheng and did not go to work immediately.
She went to see Cheng Fengding and his wife to wish them New Year greetings; then she flew to Kunming with Xu Yun to visit Xu Zhang.
Xu Zhang was not in a good mood when he mentioned his father Xu Yinjie.
There were many conflicts between father and son, some of which Xu Zhang still cannot let go of.
"...When my eldest son was born, he wanted my eldest son to be named Ye.
I said that one of our surnames is Xu and the other is Sun. How can our child get the surname Ye?
How should I explain when registering for registration?
He said that he had considered it as a 'brother-in-law' to my mother.
The eldest brother and the third sister are all named Ye, while the second sister and I are named Xu. This is what my mother means.
But my brother and sister both passed away, leaving only me. He still hopes that my mother’s surname can be passed down.
I said, then I might as well change my surname to Ye.
He said yes."
Yun Qiao: "He has a deep relationship with your mother."
"But why sacrifice me?
My name has been Xu Zhang since I was a child.
Under the circumstances at that time, changing a surname was a very troublesome matter and required repeated verification by the organization.
The word "Xu Zhang" has nothing to do with him. I have already established a firm foothold in the organization by virtue of my own ability.
Once I change my surname, how do I explain it to my superiors?
Especially at that time, anti-feudalism was very strict.
Those incense words will get you scolded to death.
He didn't consider my situation at all and just made trouble.
My eldest son doesn't come to his third bath, one month old, or one year old.
Be angry with me.
I agreed that if you don't come, you won't come anymore, so I didn't tell him when the next few children were born."
Xu Zhangdao.
Yun Qiao: "..."
She came back to see Xu Zhang before, that time to help Xu Zhang deal with a career crisis, and it was also the last time she saw Xu Yinjie before he died.
I didn't bother talking about the Xu family's grievances.
Yun Qiao only knew that Xu Yinjie and Xu Zhang had a bad relationship, but did not know the specific reason.
In that situation, it was not easy for Xu Zhang to talk to his aunt about his grievances.
Now that he is old, there are some things he still can't let go of.
As a father, Xu Yinjie's straightforward character and unsophisticated temper made Xu Zhang very angry.
Both father and son are stubborn, and no one can mediate between them, so they are in the same position as fire and water.
Xu Zhang still hates him just for changing his surname.
"My wife's parents died early, and my children have no grandparents.
He was so angry that my son had never seen his grandfather when he was a child.
As for my third daughter, when I talk about my classmates’ grandparents, how they pamper her, I look envious.
She said why she didn't have any."
Xu Zhangdao.
Yun Qiao: "It's his fault.
Zhang Zhang, your father is not a perfect father.
Especially after the death of your mother and your brothers and sisters, he suffered more psychological trauma than you."
Xu Zhang sighed: "I grew up at my aunt's house and around you, and my expectations for my father were full of myths.
So much so that he disillusioned me little by little, and I couldn't accept it."
Yun Qiao comforted him a few more words.
"Zhang Zhang, you are getting older. You should reconcile with the past not for anyone else but for yourself.
Only when you have no problems in your heart can you live longer.
Auntie hopes you can live to be a hundred years old."
Yun Qiao said.
Xu Zhang laughed.
"Everyone around my aunt has left.
And since you are still here, I also want to talk to you when I am sad."
Yun Qiao said.
Xu Zhang: "Okay, I'll try my best to persuade myself."
"There are some things that you should not only talk to me about, but also talk to your own children.
You may not be perfect as a father. If you listen to your children's dissatisfaction with you, you will know how difficult it is to do some things."
Yun Qiao said again.
Xu Zhang: "Okay, I will."
Yun Qiao stayed in Xu Zhang's place for three days, taking a walk with the old couple and talking about past events.
On the tenth day of the first lunar month, Yun Qiao returned to Yancheng and began her busy work.
The first thing she did was to go to the set of "Wei Yang Feng Hua" to visit Jiang Ning.