Xue Ling smiled and said angrily: "Stop coaxing your mother. Let's sort out the matter first, and don't rush to immerse yourself in negative emotions."
Cheng Huanran sighed long, with deep fatigue.
"Mom, I... don't know what to say to you. I don't know why, since we decided to get married, things seem to have become complicated... They are too complicated. I used to not understand how men treat their mother-in-law.
Fear always feels too exaggerated. Now it seems that I just haven't met it yet, and it's not that I can be spared."
Xue Ling smiled softly: "Little Huzi may be able to give you some small suggestions."
"Puchi!" Cheng Huanran was amused, "Mom, be careful to be heard by Youyou."
Xue Ling shrugged: "Most men are afraid of mother-in-law and father-in-law, and they are far more than you, Dr. Cheng. Son, our family relationships have always been harmonious, and the atmosphere of relatives and friends has always been very good, so when you deal with interpersonal relationships,
It is inevitable that you will have no experience and even suffer losses."
"Maybe." Cheng Huanran lowered his voice: "Our family never valued the material set. When Xiao Qiao's parents asked me how much I love her with the name of Xiao Qiao in the house book
When I was deep, I was completely confused. I was willing to marry her and make her my wife meant a lifetime commitment... But they measured it from this perspective... I really couldn't accept it."
"Son, you are wrong." Xue Ling replied: "Modern people regard marriage very real, both emotions and materials. You cannot just emphasize feelings. As long as you love each other and be happy, marriage means that you will have a lot of things in the future.
We should share, such as family, children, elderly people on both sides, careers and property, etc..”
Cheng Huanran complained and said: "Mom, but we are in love and getting married, not blind dates."
"But you are also getting married." Xue Ling asked back: "The essence of marriage will not change because of whether you are free to fall in love, right?"
Cheng Huanran leaned on the pillow like tiredness, his eyes empty and faint.
"Listen to my dad, your family still owed a lot of debts when you got married. The next day you got married, you couldn't afford a bag of wedding candy. Mom, you didn't even have a serious relationship, but you could vaguely feel with your parents because of childhood sweethearts when you were young.
The fate is combined, first marriage and then love, and manage the marriage well until today. But I am a medical student who graduated from graduate school and an intern at the First People's Hospital of the Imperial Capital. A salary can buy hundreds of bags of wedding candies, and I can fall in love with me.
My girlfriend, who has been five years old, is still hesitating whether to marry me, and is worried that there will be no financial security in the future. Mom, don’t you think it’s ridiculous?”
Xue Ling almost couldn't help laughing out loud and comforted him: "Son, you don't need to suddenly have no confidence in yourself. In the eyes of parents, you are all very excellent children."
Cheng Huanran lowered his head and said in a silence: "It's not that I don't have confidence in myself... it's that I don't have confidence in our marriage."
Xue Ling couldn't help but sigh when she remembered the words of her second son earlier.
"When your deceased grandfather married your grandmother, he only used a load of food as a betrothal gift, and each made a new set of clothes to get married. When your grandfather married your grandmother, he only used ten months' salary for ten months
A few dollars. At that time, everyone was poor and focused on supplies but had no supplies. They had simple and simple thoughts. Getting married means supporting a family together.”
"When my parents got married, they were in a little better situation, but most people were not really rich. My grandfather was very capable and had already started a clothing factory in the imperial capital, so we could live in a small suite and bought a car.
.Your father and others live in the countryside, and they can only eat a little meat during the Chinese New Year and the holidays.”
"At that time, the cost of getting married was not high, and it was good enough to have a stable unit to receive a salary, whether it was a small factory or a small unit such as a supply and marketing cooperative. I remember that my first month of salary in the newspaper was 200 yuan.
I can make lunch and have the same meat in one meal. Every time I don’t want to eat it, I will leave it in the lunch box and go back to the rental house to eat with your dad.”
"Life is simple, light, but very warm. We are full of confidence in the future. We are busy from morning to night every day, and we have the same goal in our hearts - to improve our living standards and make this family richer step by step."
"For more than 30 years, the world has changed so much, and people's concepts have been changing. Nowadays, people do not lack supplies, food and drink. As long as they work diligently, they can have a full meal.
The gap between people is also widening, which makes the younger generation prone to anxiety, fear, and insecure. The most prominent performance is in the marriage process.”
"Yes." Cheng Huanran's face was not very good, and he said in a deep voice: "If I were just a poor boy, they would feel very good about themselves. On the grounds that Xiao Qiao was an only child, I had to marry into their family. As long as I married into the family, I don't care.
What is my family situation? I can do whatever I am. Now they know that it is impossible for me to marry into a marriage, so they have to force me to pay for the house because my daughter married into our family and had to have enough financial security. Put her heart in mind,
If I really agree to join the family, they will probably find it very impressive if they pay 200,000 or 300,000 yuan. But if their daughter marrys into my family, she will need hundreds of millions of dollars in financial security at one go. What? Because she is a daughter, our family will not be able to do so.
Don't give in? Why?"
Xue Ling frowned slightly and asked, "What? Their attitude is very bad?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran replied: "I look like I am lofty when I marry my daughter. I must write Xiao Qiao's name on the property under my name to ensure that she will not be wronged when she gets married into our family in the future and will have a certain financial guarantee.
.”
Xue Ling was silent.
Cheng Huanran was excited: "Mom, is it great to have a daughter to get married? I promised that I would continue to love her and protect her and spoil her with my life. Why is it worthless in their eyes?
No one is allowed in the house book! I haven’t said I won’t share the property under my name with her, and I won’t do it either! What people in our family value most is feelings, not real estate or money at all! We don’t lack those!”
"Okay, OK." Xue Ling hurriedly held his hand, "Calm down first, don't yell. What about Xiao Qiao? Xiao Qiao also thinks so?"
Cheng Huanran was slightly stunned and whispered calmly: "She didn't say anything, she looked like she wanted to say something but stopped. I told her before leaving, if I think I am not trustworthy, give her more real estate
She can't be happy either. If she couldn't trust me, why would she marry me?... It would be better to part earlier. I left after I said that, and didn't answer her phone call later."
Xue Ling sighed softly: "Don't be excited, communicate with her first. When you were a poor boy, you were able to fall in love with you for five years, which shows that you are not a girl who really values supplies."