Xue Huan couldn't help laughing: "Who stipulated it? It must be evenly matched? How is it possible!"
Cheng Huanran sighed quietly and replied: "Xiao Qiao always said that she was under a lot of pressure and wanted to surpass me in professional titles and other aspects of scientific research projects. She didn't want to be too affected by my family background."
Xue Huan finally understood and said: "So that's what she thinks... It's just because she's afraid that your strength will be too strong and it will affect your future family status, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran explained: "She is a very strong person and wants to be first in every field she comes into contact with, even for family status."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then she must have a very hard life?"
"Yes!" Cheng Huanran explained: "She has always been very hard-working and competitive, and she is very purposeful in everything she does. Sometimes she is even a little aggressive in order to achieve her goals. Her popularity is not good because of her personality.
of."
Xue Huan Wen Sheng: "A family's status is not entirely determined by economic status. A higher economic status may have more say. But a higher economic status means that you will spend more time on work. A person
Your time and energy are limited, so
More time on one side means less time on the other side. People with a higher say spend relatively less time on family and children. For example, your dad and your mom, when you were young, your dad spent more time on the family than you did.
There are many mothers, and many more, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran nodded.
Xue Huan analyzed: "If your father pursued a career like your mother, would you still have your father to pick you up and drop you off in the morning and evening? You could have three meals with your father? Your father would take you to play on weekends? I remember several times
The old man and your father took you on a trip this summer, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran replied: "My father took the team there for many summer and winter vacations. My mother was really busy, and occasionally she was still at the construction site during the Chinese New Year and could not go home. At that time, she was investing in real estate everywhere, and every day she would
There were a lot of social activities. Later, the clothing factory and Tianshu Group also took up a lot of my mother's time. Sometimes my father put us to bed, but my mother hadn't come home yet."
Xue Huan sighed softly and said: "Yes, if it weren't for your father's sacrifice and dedication, your family might not be as brilliant as it is today. If your father and your mother both pursued careers and left you to a few old people, maybe
Your family will be more brilliant today, but you two will never be so outstanding. Your parents support this family together, but they cannot be evenly matched, otherwise this family will not be as stable and happy as it is today. You and I
My aunt has almost the same family status, but in terms of career, your aunt still has to be a bit shorter than me, because she started later than me, and her education is not as high as mine. When she doesn't have to work, she goes home to take care of her children and family.
.When I don’t have to schedule shifts, I still have to do administrative work. Therefore, she spends more time at home than me, and the distance from me will only become farther and farther. To be honest, you can’t do too much in anything.”
"Is it too much to go too far?" Cheng Huanran didn't quite understand.
Xue Huan explained: "The gap between husband and wife cannot be too big, but it is difficult to pursue the same goal. For example, in terms of academic qualifications, there cannot be too much difference, otherwise the gap in knowledge will cause communication difficulties. But there is no need to be exactly the same, right? For example, you
My aunt took a year off from school to give birth to Ah Yue.
It is not easy to support a family and persist in studying for a few years. Is it possible for me to ask her to go to graduate school like me? Your father's education is lower than your mother's, and your mother has never thought that it is not possible.
, your dad never felt that he had to study hard to catch up with your mom, right?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "I think so too. I think there shouldn't be too big a gap between the two people. They don't have to be exactly the same. My family background cannot be changed, because the reason why I have these is from my grandfather.
A generation begins to accumulate, and my mother earned it through decades of hard work. Xiao Qiao values these things, but she disdains them, and is always worried that I will
Later, she was stronger than her in terms of family status. Since graduation last year, we started discussing the topic of marriage, and our conflicts continued. Later, she stayed in the imperial capital to work, intending to focus on her career for the time being, but unexpectedly, more conflicts broke out later. She
I feel a lot of pressure, and it’s all my fault. But I feel like I’m drifting away from her, and I feel exhausted every time I’m with her.”
Xue Huan's eyes moved slightly and his voice was calm: "Then let's break up."
ah???!!
Cheng Huanran was speechless for a moment and looked at him blankly for two or three seconds.
"Uncle Huan, why don't you give us some advice? After all, we have been in a relationship for several years, and we have already reached the stage of talking about marriage. We can't just give up."
Xue Huan gave up: "We are just talking about getting married, not already married. We can get divorced even if we get married, why can't we break up when we are in love? What about the relationship after several years? Falling in love is a love affair, and getting married is a marriage. Who can guarantee that we will get married?
If you fall in love for a long time, your marriage will last?
You feel good about falling in love with her, but you start to feel tired before marriage is involved. What will you do if you get married? If you think about divorce after marriage, you will have a lot to worry about, especially if you have children. After all.
Once divorced, it will do the greatest harm to the children."
Cheng Huanran was startled and couldn't help feeling uneasy.
"...Yes, if you find the problem later after you get married, it may be more difficult to solve."
Xue Huan analyzed: "As you just said, this is obviously a problem with Qiao Hui's character. Nature is easy to change but hard to change. Unless she is really willing to change this temper, your marriage will not be stable. But like her
A girl who is strong, independent and strong should not easily make changes for others."
"Impossible." Cheng Huanran looked disappointed: "Every time we have a problem, she always has to ask me to bow my head, even if she is the one who is wrong."
Xue Huan smiled bitterly: "Then what are you waiting for? Instead of holding on to a useless piece of chicken and feeling it is a pity, it is better to break it off. You are not a child anymore. It is time to know how to analyze the situation and the future situation. When I brought my girlfriend
When I returned to China, even if I found a problem, I still gritted my teeth and persisted, just like your current situation.
Almost. We have been getting along for so many years, and she is even willing to come to a foreign country for me. How can I break up with her? But there is no use in hesitating, it just adds more upset and helplessness. When you are broken up in love, it is true that
It's very sad, but the heartache has recovered, and I have another relationship, which is another beginning."
"I..." Cheng Huanran hesitated and murmured in confusion: "Is it true that we can only break up in the end?"