Xue Ling was stunned for two seconds and asked, "...I don't want to have a child? Why?"
Chen Xinzhi smiled bitterly: "She watches some videos of having children all day long, and she is so scared that she is always worried that her body will deform when she is pregnant, and giving birth to a baby will accelerate her aging. She may also suffer from depression after giving birth and raising a baby.
Teach her children all kinds of anxiety and worries. In short, she is afraid of having a baby now, so she doesn’t want to prepare for pregnancy, and even considers having DINK in the future.”
Xue Ling rolled his eyes directly: "If every woman thought so with her, wouldn't humans have become extinct long ago?"
It is so easy to have children and raise babies. Whenever I write about the word "mother", many people's first reaction will not be the word "great".
If mothers were all concerned about their figures and didn't want to be pregnant for ten months, and they didn't like the trivialities and annoyance of raising children, where did they come from? How could humans have such a large scale as the 8 billion people today.
!
Chen Xinzhi explained with grievance: "Mom, I have given her enough freedom and time over the years. She is younger than me, and I can't bear to be tied to her career by her children at a young age, so she planned to get married for two or three years at the beginning.
Have children again after the New Year. I never said I don’t want children… You know.”
"I know." Xue Ling nodded gently: "Most people get married to organize their families to reproduce offspring for the sake of having children. I agree with this."
Although being single has the freedom and ease of being single, people generally pursue a common model - falling in love, marriage, having children and raising children.
This is how human beings have been passed down from generation to generation. People who have not started a family are generally regarded as aliens or alternatives, and have never recognized or pursued the freedom of the whole nation.
I don't know if it is there any in the future, but at least I haven't heard of it so far.
Chen Xinzhi smiled: "I am a traditional person. I just want to organize a happy family with my beloved, with a family full of children and grandchildren, and have a happy family at home and outside."
Xue Ling said helplessly: "She is the youngest in the family, not mature and steady than other brothers. Sometimes she listens to the wind and rain, and sometimes she has an idea. You haven't gotten married for a long time, you may have to give her some time."
Among the few children, the fourth child is the most worried about them. I thought I had started a family and started a career and got married, and I should be more steady and mature, but I still couldn’t change my nature!
Chen Xinzhi explained: "My mother urged me to say that it shouldn't be too late, because the child is not something that can be conceived at any time. So, I don't plan to contraceptive, I want to let it go. If I get pregnant, then I'll have a baby.
Raising a baby and giving birth to a baby. If there is no good news, don’t be anxious. Anyway, let it go. But she suddenly said she didn’t want to have a baby because she was very satisfied with her current work and family environment, and was afraid that everything would be messy after the baby was born.
The trap changed her original life trajectory.”
"...Haha!" Xue Ling sneered: "For the first time I heard her, I would think carefully. Have you ever told her that the boat will naturally go straight to the bridge? So many families in the world have children, but not everyone is afraid of having children.
Life will be messy, right?"
Chen Xinzhi subconsciously looked at his beloved little wife and lowered his voice: "She refuses to listen to me now, and I can't force her."
"So, do you want me to persuade her?" Xue Ling asked, "You haven't talked to her carefully?"
After all, her daughter has grown up and married, so she doesn't have much trouble interfering. If it's just a couple discussing, it's not convenient for her to talk too much.
Chen Xinzhi explained: "I have said it several times, but she refused to listen. She said she thought DINK was pretty good too."
"Have you told her that our family cannot accept DINK?" Xue Ling said: "No need to say the older generation, her father and I have already opposed it ten thousand times!"
Chen Xinzhi's eyes were a little embarrassed, and he subconsciously glanced at Lin Qingzhi on the other side and quickly withdrew his eyes.
"She said, you and dad have always been very open-minded parents, and even if you can't accept it for the time being, you will soon accept it. She also said, you can even accept it from the third brother and Aqing, and I believe there is nothing else.
Can you stump you."
Xue Ling: "..."
Chen Xinzhi hurriedly explained: "Mom, she has no sarcasm - she simply thinks that you are not ordinary parents, with a broad vision, and an extraordinary ability to accept new things and new ideas."
"Is this comparable?" Xue Ling was secretly angry, and his tone also became stronger: "Have you told them that the third brother and Aqing will have several children in the future? Ah?"
"This..." Chen Xinzhi chuckled: "Really? Did Aqing and the third brother decide?"
Xue Ling emphasized: "Yes, they have decided, if it's sooner, it's next year or the year after. People want to give birth to their own offspring through IVF, but she has to praise DINK! She has loved to be with her since she was a child.
Brother, why don’t you compare to him to have children? She has the ability to give birth to four or five, and then the third brother will be less than her!”
Chen Xinzhi was slightly embarrassed and whispered: "How could I bear to let her suffer so many things...two at most. I am not greedy, I just want to have two children and me, that's good enough."
"Your advice first." Xue Ling reminded: "Your matters can be slowed down. Duoduo and Xiao Tong's affairs are already close, so we have to deal with them quickly."
"No hurry." Chen Xinzhi explained: "I'll talk to you first. I hope you will urge Xiaoxin more when you have time. She keeps listening to you and your father. If you object, she will not dare to persist."
"Don't worry." Xue Ling agreed: "I will find an opportunity to scold her."
Chen Xinzhi couldn't help but remind: "Mom, she won't let me..."
"I understand." Xue Ling said calmly: "I just pulled you to ask about Duoduo and Xiao Tong, and didn't ask anything else."
"Thank you mom." Chen Xinzhi thanked with a smile.
Xue Ling reminded in a warm voice: "Since you have the idea of preparing for pregnancy, you have to contact your family doctor to talk about some things you should pay attention to. No matter how many you give birth, we must be eugenic, right?"
"Okay." Chen Xinzhi nodded: "I'll go back and contact me."
Xue Ling whispered: "Tietou, Xiaoxin is still young and not sensible enough. Although she has married, she is still our daughter. It is our parents' responsibility to care about her and persuade her.
It has nothing to do with us after marriage. If she has anything out of the ordinary, you have to tell us quickly and not to hide it for her."
"No...no." Chen Xinzhi was slightly embarrassed: "Xiao Xin is very good, she is just a little naughty and has no other shortcomings."
Xue Ling laughed twice and then drank the remaining water.
"When you spoil her, you have to consider whether you can control her. The relationship between partners is not a mutual management relationship, but you must control the other party carefully. It is not a control, not a pressure, and you cannot let it go."
Chen Xinzhi seemed to understand but not, and nodded instead.