"After getting married... fall in love again?" Tong Zi couldn't help but smile and asked, "What kind of love method? If it is not suitable, then - you are already married!"
Xue Ling was not surprised that he would ask this and whispered: "He is a few years older than me. We have lived together since we were young. We grew up as childhood sweethearts. Later, the family had an accident, and we were married and separated quickly. Until a few years ago
His father was seriously ill, and he and my mother-in-law went to the imperial capital and said they wanted to marry me to celebrate. I was confused at the time, so naturally I didn't want to. But my father was very determined and said that Ayuan was a steady and honest person and could take care of his family.
, said we were very suitable, and then asked me to take the train south to marry him."
Tong Zi couldn't help but shook his head: "How can you agree! You will meet again when you grow up? Your dad shouldn't understand him, right? It's too arbitrary! You have to know that this is your lifelong happiness!"
"Yes!" Xue Ling's eyes moved slightly, "I live in a big apartment and drive a car. When I married in Chengjia Village, I only had two adobe houses at home. I owed a lot of debts and couldn't afford a broken bicycle. The difference is that I can't afford it.
It's so big. At first I was stunned and didn't know what to do. But Ayuan was very calm and told me that if I really didn't want to, I would never force me. He also said that he would leave home the next day
I work in the county town and will not stay at home. I was moved by him at that time."
"What happened later?" Tong Zi asked in a low voice.
"I didn't say much at that time. I first got the marriage done, and took the money to help him pay off his debts. Then I packed my luggage and came to Rongcheng with him. At first I lived in a small hotel, and he was afraid that I would be unsafe at night.
Come with me and sleep on a chair outside. He works very hard and eats vegetarian food for three meals, but is very generous to his family. He suffers and never says a word. He works during the day and goes to the dock to carry goods at night.
One or two more dollars. But no matter how late he was, he would come to help me watch the night because it was unsafe. At that time, he always thought in his heart that I didn’t want to live with him, but he was still so kind to me.”
Tong Zi was slightly moved.
Xue Ling continued: "This man, even if I want to betray the engagement and marriage, he will not blame him at all. Instead, he supports me in looking for a job in the county and do his best to shelter me from the wind and rain. Even when I left, I left
When the county town returns to the imperial capital, I don’t think he will complain. I know that he likes me in his heart, but he feels that there is a distance between us, so he respects me and gives me freedom and choice."
"What happened later?" Tong Zi asked again.
Xue Ling smiled and said, "I found a job in the newspaper and found a place to live. I told him that I want to share the lease with him and I want to live with him. He didn't dare to agree at first, but he was determined when he saw me.
, Finally agreed. When we moved over, the two of them lived separately. He cooked three meals a day, went to work during the day, worked part-time at night, worked hard and worked diligently. And I had already recognized him in my heart."
Tong Zijun's face turned slightly red and asked, "Did you fall in love over time?"
"That's true," Xue Ling explained: "More importantly, I know that he is a man who can rely on for the rest of his life. First, he respects me, feels sorry for me, and likes me, and I am very sure of this. It's just that he gives me a choice.
Freedom is a great respect. Secondly, he is a man who can live together. He loves his family diligently and works hard. Even if such a man lives with him and often eats no meat for three meals, I am willing to
.And I am willing to believe that such a man will never have a bad future. He has good quality, calm people, and loves his family. Such a good man cannot be found anywhere you go."
Xue Ling smiled and shrugged.
"I'm very lucky. I've chosen such a good lover. Where can I find it? Who else can I do?"
Tong Zi seemed to understand but was silent for a moment.
"So, after you got married, you found out that you were the one in your marriage, so you finally got together."
Xue Ling nodded, "I'm going to tell you, I personally think that marriage is too different from love. Let's fall in love, everyone just feels that they are in harmony. If you love me and I love you, that's very beautiful. But marriage is different. Marriage is just a waste of time.
If you love someone, you may not necessarily live with her and you will be happy. For example, if you look at Liu Xing and Wang Qing, they are the best examples."
Wang Qing and Liu Xing are together, and they all have the same ambitions and are both literary and artistic youths. When they are in love together, they write love letters and love poems, walk together to watch the sunset, and go to the cinema to watch movies together. How loving and beautiful it is when they are in love.
"But after marriage, it is not necessarily happy. Marriage is about living together. There is not so much romance, just three meals a day, elderly people and children, and family life. Therefore, many people in love feel very beautiful, but they live a bumpy life after marriage.
Bumping.”
"On the contrary, we started by using marriage as a test. If we were all suitable for living together, there would be no other obstacles. You are now in love with the purpose of getting married, so you have to look at the right person.
Not suitable for living with you.”
Xue Ling smiled bitterly and said, "To put it bluntly, Liu Xing is the lesson of the past. His love is very beautiful, and he also enjoys the feeling of love very much. But his marriage ultimately failed. One of the reasons is that
He didn't find someone who was really suitable to live with him. The second is that he didn't know what he really needed. In fact, Wang Qing was not the right person for him."
After hearing this, Tong Zi chuckled slowly.
"Sister Xue, it is better to listen to your words than to read ten years. I just heard you say this, and I... I suddenly realized."
Xue Ling laughed and asked, "Go back to the topic just now, do you like Alan?"
"...Yes." Tong Zi lowered her voice: "I think she is a good girl. She is very good-nature, patient, honest, and easy to learn. She works hard, is also very filial to the elderly, and is even more skillful in doing a good job.
vegetable."
Xue Ling asked again: "But you are still a little hesitant. Why? I think she may have no topic with you?"
"That's right." Tong Zi whispered: "At first, there was no common topic. She might not understand what I said, so she just talked to me politely and respectfully. Now it's finally better. Let's make photos together and slowly,
She is doing most of the things. Now she can talk about the quality of the photos. Also, I work on the radio, and she occasionally listens to my programs and even gives me some pertinent suggestions.
.I think she is very suitable for me, and I also think... living with her should be very peaceful and warm."
Xue Ling smiled and asked back: "You don't know yet, right? She was your audience a long time ago and was very obsessed with your show!"
"Really?" Tong Zi asked in surprise: "She-why didn't she tell me?"