This is the problem of high emotional intelligence.
Only veterans have it.
Du Xiaoyin definitely didn't.
And when Zhang Haidong heard that Jiumei said that Du Xiaoyin came back to talk about him every day, he couldn't help but feel secretly happy.
It turns out that she has been paying attention to herself!
No wonder he wants to get so close to himself.
Although his sense of family responsibility made him deliberately avoid Du Xiaoyin's enthusiasm, deep down in his heart, he still felt a small sense of satisfaction.
That sense of satisfaction made Zhang Haidong feel comfortable.
Of course, he didn't show it on his face, but said seriously: "How can I be so awesome! I am just an ordinary high school graduate, and I have failed in society for many years. If Xiaoyin's cousin hadn't vigorously promoted me,
If you had trained me, I wouldn't have been able to achieve what I have today. It's because of my good fortune."
"Look...look..."
Jiumei pointed at Zhang Haidong and said.
"What is a successful person? This is what a successful person is! He has excellent abilities, but he never greeds for credit and gives all the credit to his leaders. With such a humble character, if you don't achieve results, who can? How can there be so many so-called
If you are lucky, only good people can have good friends around them."
Jiumei gave a thumbs up and said.
Du Xiaoyin also smiled and nodded.
Zhang Haidong felt comfortable again and smiled sheepishly.
Girls with short hair are really not simple.
There is a sense of exhilaration in my nature.
"Just kidding."
Zhang Haidong was at a loss for words and gently scratched his head.
"Okay. Didn't you have a cocktail party at the company just now? You should have drank a lot. When Xiaoyin called me and said you were coming, I had already prepared milk tea for you in advance. You can drink some of this quickly.
It’s very effective in relieving hangover.”
Jiumei said as she picked up a cup of brewed milk tea and handed it over.
Zhang Haidong quickly said thank you and then started drinking.
It's cherry flavored.
tastes good.
Very soft.
Zhang Haidong has gradually started to like this taste recently.
Just like when you slowly get used to something, you will choose to accept it and look for the advantages in it to tolerate it.
This is how I feel about cherry flavor now.
It tastes good instinctively.
People who drink liquor will be very thirsty.
Zhang Haidong drank the entire cup of milk tea in one breath, which quenched his thirst.
When he was looking for the trash can, Jiumei took it and threw it into the trash can at his feet.
"I'll just throw it away."
"Thanks."
Zhang Haidong picked up a tissue and wiped the corners of his mouth.
He was very comfortable with Jiumei's enthusiasm and was full of good impressions.
Jiumei casually opened a can of potato chips and ate it, then said, "Would you like to eat some? Have a can? This one is not cherry-flavored, but it is delicious."
"No, no, I just ate a lot of cakes at the reception and I'm full."
Zhang Haidong waved his hand quickly and said.
"If I eat so many sweets, I'll turn you into a pig."
Du Xiaoyin said with a smile.
Zhang Haidong smiled but said nothing.
"There's no need to be so reserved. I feel like you can't let go at all. Xiaoyin and I are very easy-going people! Besides, you are still in the marketing planning business, and you usually have to go deep into the ranks of the people to find their hearts.
Is it a resonance point? If we don’t communicate more with the people and learn more about their needs, how can we make the best marketing plan?”
Jiumei smiled and stuffed a piece of potato chips into her mouth, and then said: "We can be considered friends. Since we are friends, there is no problem in talking about what is on your mind. Let me think about it..."
She raised her head and stared at the ceiling, wiped the potato chip crumbs from the corner of her mouth, and then said: "Let's just talk about emotional things, okay? This should be a common topic for adults, right? I'm confused,
But I rarely tell anyone."
"OK."
Looking at Jiu Mei who was looking at her inquiringly, Zhang Haidong nodded.
"Okay. Let's talk about me first. I have been hurt. I have been severely emotionally hurt.
How should I put it? This boyfriend is now my seventh boyfriend.
From the very beginning of our enthusiasm, now we have almost nothing in common except sex, and we live like water.
All he knows is that I am his girlfriend and he is my boyfriend.
That's all.
Tell me, can a love like ours endure to the end?
I feel that when the love I long for loses its freshness, everything becomes boring. It’s like boiled chicken breasts, and I don’t want to take another bite.”
Jiumei said carefully.
"Well……"
"Do you think you can't hold on emotionally?"
"right!"
Zhang Haidong pondered for a moment after hearing this affirmative answer.
This problem seems to be the same as Liu Shanbai Yourong's marriage failure.
There was a lot of enthusiasm at the beginning, then there was a glue-like atmosphere in the middle, and then there was separation and separation at the end...
Feelings are like a circle, everything is back to where it started.
That starting point is singleness.
If you only rely on passion and certain sexual impulses to maintain your marriage, it will not last long.
People like the new and hate the old.
Men and women are no exception.
Only when you are independent and have your own small world and goals can you truly usher in your own independent love.
Of course, no matter how independent love is, it can only walk on one leg.
When love and family affection come together, tolerance and consideration, those things that cannot be separated, can evolve into true love.
Because by that time, you will be an inseparable part of him.
What you do is all he cares about.
If you are cold, he will add clothes to you...
When you get hot, he will blow the air conditioner on you...
When you cry, he will wipe your tears...
If you are wronged, he will rush to the front to protect you, and then say to the person who wronged you: "I'm here to vent her anger! I'm not here to uphold justice!"
They are not related by blood, but they protect each other.
Because he knows that you are the one who will accompany him throughout his life.
Of course, if Jiumei were told so many great truths, she would definitely not listen.
Zhang Haidong carefully organized the words in his mind, and then said softly: "I think you should first understand why the two of you want to be together?
Was it a momentary impulse?
Or does your face determine everything?
In other words, you are truly determined to find someone who loves you and spend the rest of your life together.
If it's just the above conditions, then you can just talk about it as you like.
It doesn’t matter if you have that kind of love or not.
If it's the last one.
It doesn't matter whether it's hard work or dull. Even if the relationship fades away, it's definitely not a reason to break up. When you decide to be with him, that's the top priority in your life. Either you won't be together, or you'll be together forever.
Don't treat him as a simple love, treat him as the person who will accompany you throughout your life.
Your last resort, understand?"
Zhang Haidong finished speaking in detail.
He felt that Jiumei should be able to understand such straightforward words.
"Is it?"
"The person who will accompany you throughout your life?"
Jiumei fell into deep thought.
Then he laughed a few times.
After a while, she raised her eyes and said, "Can you tell me about you and your wife? How many years have you been married?"
Zhang Haidong seemed to have been opened up by Jiumei, and said softly: "It must have been six years."
"should?"
"You can't even remember the day you married your wife? Aren't you going to be punished by kneeling on the keyboard?"
Jiumei asked curiously.
Zhang Haidong panicked.
But he calmed down immediately.
I am not familiar with Jiumei and Du Xiaoyin, so what are I afraid of?
Wouldn't it be nice to just make up any excuse?
They definitely won't know about their amnesia.
I can't notice any changes in myself.
After stabilizing his emotions, he nodded and said, "It's normal for men to be careless and forget these things. As long as I love my wife and my little home, isn't it perfect? Don't worry about these small details.
.”
Zhang Haidong pretended to be relaxed and said with a smile.
Although he smiled easily, he didn't know that at this moment, Du Xiaoyin's heart was filled with huge waves.
Yes, this is not in line with Zhang Haidong's usual style.
Zhang Haidong is an extremely careful person.
How careful are you?
He was so attentive that even his aunt knew exactly which day he was coming.
I even remember clearly the day when the two met.
How could he forget the date when he and his wife got married?
Habits cannot be changed easily!
Just like his meticulous wiping of the seat!
That is inertial behavior!
Even perfunctory is not this perfunctory!
He doesn’t even have the memory of his previous relationship with his wife?
Du Xiaoyin became excited when he thought of this.
Her little hands clenched the doll in her arms tightly, and her palms became sweaty.
Jiumei didn't notice Du Xiaoyin's abnormality, but asked Zhang Haidong with a smile: "So do you and your wife communicate a lot? Is the relationship still as hot as before? What do you think of your relationship?"
"I?"
Zhang Haidong smiled: "I regard her as my only support and goal in this world. She is my world. Therefore, our relationship will definitely last long."
He said "confidently".
However, this sentence is actually against my will.
Does he have love for Du Jing?
He doesn't know either.
These few short months of rebirth have been more about maintaining family ties.
Family affection tightly binds two people together.
This kind of maintenance gave him a sense of dependence in the marriage.
Maybe, this is also part of love.
"So that's it."
"You really did that."
Jiumei glanced at Du Xiaoyin thoughtfully. She seemed to know something, but she didn't reveal it.
After a pause, she continued: "Maybe the relationship between you and your wife started very early, when you were still young, and you didn't suffer any setbacks along the way.
So when the relationship fades, family affection is used to maintain it all.
All of this must have a foundation.
Your kind of smooth-sailing love is completely different from someone like me who has experienced setbacks in relationships.
Everyone was affectionate from the beginning, but it was only later that they slowly turned into scum.
I met the wrong person, and he made my world collapse. My body was already riddled with holes, and I was immune to all poisons.
So I will not regard my other half as my support for the rest of my life.
Heart is under the kyte.
Who knows who?
In the future, I can only have this attitude towards relationships.
I probably won’t be able to use the emotional opinions you told me, but I still want to thank you.”
"not necessarily!"
After she finished speaking, Zhang Haidong said straightforwardly.
"?"
"Not necessarily? Where do you get your confidence from? Tell me not necessarily?"
To put it bluntly, I am now like a Neptune who is covered in trauma and playing games in the world.
Can a person who has no wounds still be sincere in his feelings? Will a Neptune regard the other person as the only person he can rely on?"
Jiumei snorted disdainfully and said calmly: "In the rest of my life, that will never be possible. No matter how clean, pure, or high-ranking the other party is, I will not do that."
Zhang Haidong gently tore open a cherry-flavored candy and put it into his mouth.
Not bad, very sweet.
He was sure that he fell in love with the taste.
"It doesn't matter if it's riddled with holes, it doesn't matter if it's a sea king."
"The person who can make Neptune happy is definitely not someone who is extremely clean and has a relatively high rank."
"But the person who turned her into Neptune is back."
…
"Snapped."
The potato chips in Jiumei's hand fell to the ground.