The dark blue night sky is dotted with stars, the moonlight is rippling on the surface of the pond under the patio, the floating shadows of night birds sway left and right with the ripples, and fish jumping out of the water from time to time disturb the ink painting artistic conception.
The stars shine in the dark night; the dark night is reflected in the pool water; the stars, the night and the pool water are all soaked in the fragrance of flowers. The petals hold countless night dews and constantly reflect the moonlight, as if they have been sprinkled with a layer of fine broken silver, crystal clear
Shiny.
At this time, a certain young man from the royal city was leaning on a recliner, dumbfounded as he listened to the chatter of the person opposite him. The teapot in front of him had already turned cold before he knew it, and the good brothers' explicit or implicit actions were left aside. The royal city at midnight was deep and deep.
Tranquility and lonely souls with worries are often caused by the harsh conditions of the world.
Many times, those friends who can help each other and support each other are far more precious than the friendship where we eat, drink and gossip together every day.
Everyone's definition of a friend is very different. The reason is that we have different understandings of the scope of perfect personality. The deeper our understanding, the more stringent the requirements for what behavior is desecrated.
Friends in childhood were just friends who went to the toilet together, and various small groups were formed because they had a common enemy.
But as we grow up, as we get to know more and more people, we will find that there are more approachable, low-key and reserved people among the rich.
In addition, when they go out with their friends, they rush to check out and invest money in networking without hesitation, instead of thinking about how to save money, so they are often more popular.
Friendship in adulthood can no longer be achieved through a few words, laughter and yelling. Before jumping into the big dye vat of society, everyone must put on various masks and walk into the strange world that is incompatible with who we are.
world.
But fortunately, we still had a few friends who could support each other when we were young; fortunately, our friendship with each other has not been broken by the years, but has become stronger; fortunately, we can still walk up to them without any problems.
He hesitated and asked for help.
A Moronian scholar once pointed out that our friend structure is like an onion. There are only 4.1 close friends in the core, 6.9 friends in the outer layer, 18.8 people in the third layer, and 18.8 friends in the outermost layer.
Then it is 99.1 people.
Therefore, friendship is just a kind of "use", which only exists between people who share the same consumption concepts and similar money reserves.
Although the word "use" has a slightly derogatory connotation, because in today's human society, utilitarianism can only be done but cannot be said, and it must be packaged in the word "emotion" to be accepted.
But if friends cannot be used by each other, each other will have no value in existence, whether from the perspective of interests or from an emotional perspective.
There are many ways for friends to be needed, which means there are many ways to exchange benefits. Exchange of items, exchange of time, exchange of emotions, and exchange of ideas are all in the system of "mutual utilization".
And in real life, the exchange of interests between friends is mixed together, with a little bit of copper odor attached and a little bit of favor involved.
Of course, these are to exclude minors, because most minors have not established their own views and have no financial resources of their own. They have little contact with the exchange of emotions and materials, and may even think that emotional exchange is a dirty thing.
things.
Even after entering society, many people still cannot figure this out, and it is difficult to suddenly switch their thinking to an adult perspective.
The social language of adults is obscure, an exchange of interests packaged with emotions, and everything is separated by a lubricating film; while the social language of minors is direct, with simple and extreme views.
That's why there is the famous line "Children only distinguish between right and wrong, adults only look at the pros and cons."
The exchange of interests is not a shameful behavior. On the contrary, it is precisely the foundation of social development. Without the exchange of interests, how should we fall in love, make friends, and handle social relationships? Without the exchange of interests, how can we strive for a better life?
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Wherever there are people, there is a world. Everyone will meet this or that kind of person and have one or another connection.
In human interactions, there will always be people we don't like, and things will always happen that make us unhappy.
The so-called friends are those who promise well but do not take any actual actions when we encounter difficulties.
The relationship between people is actually very fragile, and everyone is constantly fighting for their own interests. Therefore, if someone's interests are violated in this process, no matter how friendly they were before, they will probably be protected like a lion.
His own territory is generally bloodthirsty and crazy.
We occasionally find it difficult to move forward. Perhaps it is not because life is too harsh, but because we are easily infected by the outside atmosphere and influenced by the emotions of others.
In fact, what makes most people feel anxious is not that their own lives have not changed for the better, but that other people's lives have gotten better, but their own remains intact.
Although we have been taught since childhood that friends help each other and share blessings and difficulties, in fact the vast majority of friends can only be regarded as fair-weather friends.
Hanging out with such people all day long wastes a lot of youth time, harming our souls again and again; it subtly destroys the correct worldview and beliefs, and makes us give up struggling again and again.
, willing to fall.
Real friends will not become more and more, they will only become less and less. Because some people become alienated as they walk around, and they see through each other as they go around.
Maybe they once had common topics with each other, maybe they used to talk to each other openly, but as the gap between their thinking and wealth became more and more obvious, a gap gradually developed.
Don’t think that those who meet often are good friends, and don’t think that those who eat, drink and have fun together are as close as brothers.
The reason why we can become friends with each other, rather than with others, is because there is something in common with each other, and this inexplicable compatibility is itself a form of transaction.
The friendship that human beings have is just a form of alliance in group society, and the so-called alliance must have the essence and attribute of bundling interests.
The person who helps us wipe away our tears the most in this world is not our parents, not our lovers, not our relatives and friends, not tissue paper, but the back of our own hands.
Friends who are "useful" to us are all noble people in our lives. If our network is full of "useful" friends, then under their influence, our future will be smooth and unobstructed.
The saddest thing in life is that life turns us into the people we hate the most, but in the end we still can't live the life we want.
And the so-called life, to put it bluntly, refers to the specific people with whom we have direct or indirect interactions. If we get along well with these people, or if we get along with better people, we will also get along well with the whole world.
Friends are like physical currencies, some are real and some are fake. Some people deliberately approach us for the sake of profit; some are unknown and accompany us for friendship; some are talking about sweet things and hiding swords under their smiles, just for their own purposes; some people are loyal to us because of their unfaithful advice.
The sincerity is expressed with good intentions.
We often gather together because of interests, but we abandon each other and betray each other because of interests. No one can tell what we live for in this world, but we all have what we want, and we each get what we need.
, and do not interfere with each other.
No one can judge what we do in life in terms of right or wrong, just like the classic line in "Button Man": We are not good people, we just have different degrees of badness.