Chapter 267 Zhang Yu points out what’s wrong with Zhang Ma
After Zhang Yu finished speaking, he didn’t care whether the two of them heard it or not, and stood up and left the back room.
When I opened the door, I saw a bunch of people gathered around the door.
When the elder brother saw Zhang Yu coming out, he quickly gave Zhang Yu a thumbs up.
My sister-in-law did the same, patting Zhang Yu on the shoulder.
"Zhang Yu, it has to be you!"
"I can't do anything with these two little monkeys. Fortunately, I still have you, my uncle, here."
It happened that Zhang Yu also wanted to talk to his sister-in-law and eldest brother. Zhang Yu felt that the education methods of the eldest brother and his wife should be changed.
Zhang Yu pulled the family together and made a circle around the table. Zhang Yu made a pot of tea.
Pour tea for everyone present, wait for Zhang Yu to pick up the tea cup and drink it, then warm the tea and then speak.
"Sister-in-law, Huzi and Yatou are very smart. Sometimes we should teach our children not to beat and scold them blindly."
"Children are at this age when they need guidance. It doesn't matter if they don't do well in exams. Children have to go through many exams in their lives."
"Don't let them feel that they are a loser just because of a temporary defeat."
"There must be appropriate encouragement. In a child's life, exams are not just important. Moral issues are equally important."
"Following the right path is more important than having a high level of education."
"Perhaps you think that people in the city are all successful in their careers, well-educated and well-educated."
"Actually, you are wrong. There are also three religions and nine schools of thought in the city, and there are also local ruffians."
"There are also children in cities who fail exams and fail morally."
"There are many people who are not even good at morality and performance."
"Let me tell you something you are familiar with. The Qin family in the next village knows about it!"
"Both girls are married to the city, so I believe you are familiar with them."
Speaking of the Qin family, everyone in the surrounding villages knows about it, and many people are envious that a daughter of the Qin family can marry into the city.
"Xiaoyu, we know the Qin family you are talking about. We were still talking about this two days ago."
"I didn't expect that the Qin family had been poor all their lives and ended up falling for their daughter."
My sister-in-law said with an envious look.
Zhang Yu smiled at his sister-in-law's envy.
"Come on, let me tell you, so you won't be envious."
"Looking at the two girls of the Qin family getting married in the city, you may imagine that they can enjoy spicy food, eat big fish and meat, and eat white-flour steamed buns every day."
"Actually, the situation is exactly the opposite of what you think."
"Let's talk about Qin Huairu, the eldest daughter of the Qin family."
"After marrying to the city and giving birth to three children, the husband died in an accident."
"Then this woman took on the important responsibilities of the family and took over her husband's job."
"When you hear this, do you think the situation is not bad?"
The elder sister-in-law nodded, being able to find a job in the city is an iron rice bowl provided by the country, which is much better than digging land in the village.
On the contrary, the elder brother felt that things could be reversed. If that person had a good life, Zhang Yu would not mention this person.
"Actually, it's a coincidence that the two girls of the Qin family and I live in the same compound."
"As for the second daughter, her conditions are pretty good, but she has been married for so many years and doesn't even have a child."
"As for the eldest daughter, life is very difficult. Although she works in a factory, her monthly salary is not much, just over twenty."
"A salary of more than 20 yuan provides food for a family of five."
"If you say it, be tight, be tight, you can get by."
"It just so happens that this family is all gluttonous, and ordinary food rations are not suitable for them."
"I want to eat white mask every time, and I want to eat meat every time."
"As for their family, more than 20 yuan is enough to eat in half a month. For the rest of the day, they can only borrow here and there."
"In all these years, I have never heard of their family returning anything."
"Her eldest son is even better than his old master, and he is very familiar with the family and the road."
"This is the current situation of children in the city. The good ones are very good, but the bad ones can be bad to the core."
"So, children's education cannot only consider grades. Family atmosphere and family guidance are crucial."
"However, with their elder brother setting an example for them, these two children can't be crooked."
This long speech made Zhang Yu feel thirsty.
A pot of hot tea on the table went into Zhang Yu’s stomach.
"By the way, there are parents here too."
Zhang's father and Zhang's mother were agitated. They looked at each other and thought, is there anything about them involved?
"Xiaoyu, what happened to me and dad?"
"It's nothing, I'm just telling you two, when you watch your eldest brother and sister-in-law disciplining the children, you two should mind your own business."
"Don't get involved in everything. The more you protect them, the more confident they will be, and the more they will fight against their elder brothers and sisters-in-law. Isn't this just looking for a beating!"
In fact, Zhang Yu also understands the old man's estranged relationship.
When you look at your grandchildren, you can see the inheritance of blood.
But Zhang Yu is not afraid of saying something ugly, so it’s up to Zhang Yu to say this.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law are filial piety and dare not argue too much with their parents. However, the elderly are too lenient in some matters, which can easily affect the stability of the young couple's family.
It is said that when a daughter-in-law marries into her husband's family, the mother-in-law will treat her as her daughter-in-law.
This is just bragging, they are not related by blood, how can they become a daughter?
Even if you kiss your daughter, the older generation has spoken harshly, and you will lose your temper even if you kiss your daughter, let alone a daughter-in-law who is not related by blood.
The old man feels that he is saying this for the benefit of his daughter-in-law, and you don’t even ask if she likes it.
Therefore, Zhang Yu took it as his role today to help his eldest brother and sister-in-law to express their true feelings.
My parents were somewhat embarrassed by what Zhang Yu said. After all, they had done this kind of thing all the time.
Zhang Ma couldn't stand it, the eldest brother and his wife were beating the child.
Don't look at Zhang's mother. She has taught Zhang Yu and his brothers and sisters four sticks since they were young. Now that they are grandsons, they wish they could hold them in their hands to prevent others from poking them.
Fortunately, the eldest brother and his wife now live separately from their parents, so they still have some space to educate their children.
But I couldn't stand it anymore, so the two children complained!
Zhang's mother didn't care whether the children did the right thing or not, she only knew that the two children were beaten, which was a shame for the eldest brother and his wife.
This point, even if the eldest brother and sister-in-law don't say it, Zhang Yu can feel through the micro-expressions when chatting with the two children that there is a backer behind them.
In the Zhang family, the biggest supporter is Zhang Ma. If Zhang Yu uses his brain, he can think of Zhang Ma as a stumbling block for his eldest brother and his wife.
By chance, Zhang Yu took advantage of this opportunity and said what needed to be said.
But Zhang Ma didn’t accept what Zhang Yu said.
"No, Xiaoyu, you just said, don't hit or scold your children at all times."
"There must be appropriate guidance and appropriate encouragement."
Zhang’s mother still remembers what Zhang Yu said just now, and wants to use what Zhang Yu said to block Zhang Yu’s mouth.
But the question is whether it can be blocked. What Zhang Yu said clearly meant something else.
"Yes, that's what I said, but did I ask you to encourage and guide me?"
"No matter how much I say, I'm just giving some suggestions."
"How you take care of your children is the business of your elder brother and sister-in-law. Don't get involved."
"Look at the current results of these two children. Look at how angry my sister-in-law is. Don't you have some responsibility for this?"
"There are some things that you should think about before doing them. What's wrong with spanking your children?"
"Aren't you the ones who beat us to the top? Why didn't you guide or encourage us in the first place?
Zhang Yu doesn’t want to embarrass Zhang Ma too much. No matter how much, Zhang Yu hopes that through this chat, Zhang Ma will realize his mistakes and correct them.
Give back the rights you deserve to your elder brothers and sisters-in-law.