Mao Jiu said, lying on the sofa, this Spring Festival actually makes me feel very decadent sometimes.
Zhu Tousan said: "They said they were celebrating, but I personally interviewed many families."
Mao Jiu said, I think the Spring Festival is the most decadent time, do you know?
It's just that kind of thing and you look pale, and you probably didn't sleep well at night. There are a lot of specific problems here,
Mao Jiu said that he was used to sleeping on the sofa at home, and when he got home, he would usually have insomnia at night and it would be noisy.
So everyone's face turned green, and then they became fierce after it appeared.
So now Jintang really thinks it’s quite interesting, that is to say, look at the kinship among people.
If I want to explore and understand the universe with this human being, I must be biased and thinking nonsense.
Zhu Tou San said: "I think there is a bit of an internal relationship."
For example, back then we thought the earth was the center, right? The earth was the center, so a family should have a center.
Na Jintang said: "Later, we learned that the earth is not the center, but the sun is the center. Look at our racial family.
If you go a little further away, you can see that our latest science, the Hubble Telescope, tells us that there is no center, and all the stars are moving away from each other, and the separation is accelerating and they remain in the sky.
Zhu Tou San said: "What about today's Internet society describing interpersonal relationships as moving towards atomized existence? Families are getting smaller and smaller, even families of three, right? There are even more and more singles."
So, when this happens.
Mao Jiu said, if you force these different stars to come together, the possibility of collision will be quite large, and then everyone will feel a little ugh and uncomfortable. Then Jintang really feels that you
Including means.
Well, for example, you have an only child again. Do you think I am looking at this issue from the perspective of life history?
Zhu Tousan said: "I told the post-90s generation in our group that day.
I said that I suddenly realized that your unprecedentedness is not only unprecedented in human history.
What happened to you after you made your contribution to the history of life on earth?
Alas, even animals live in a litter, so they are brothers, right?
Pigs give birth to piglets and raise piglets, not to mention they are tired. Only those born in the 80s and 90s are the only ones born in the 80s and 90s. Because of this planned business policy, of course the policies of the year are necessary for the year, right?
Na Jintang said: "But it does appear objectively. You find that among these five species, there is no large-scale phenomenon of only children. And you see that it will disappear now and in the future."
Now it's time to have a second child, right? In the future, there will be brothers and sisters. What changes will happen to him?
Someone in Huo Zhuoshan has done some research, but I didn’t see mine. When you put it this way, it reminds me of the situation of this group of only children celebrating the New Year.
If you were younger, would this be that old topic?
Parents ask you if you have a boyfriend or if your girlfriend is married? Huo Zhuoshan, we will always grow up, right?
Then what is the situation like for them during the Chinese New Year? When they get home, they are much more tired than us. You said that they still chat with the seven aunts and eight uncles when they get home.
There are also a few brothers, the eldest brother, the eighth aunt, the father, the father, the uncle, the eldest brother, except for you, you still have a few brothers to share the share with you.
If you look at an only child, when he goes home, he may still face a bunch of parents and relatives above him. There are also two parents of the same person, and then look at those two parents.
The weight of his feelings is so heavy that no one can share it with him. Now, I’m not saying that it’s enough to take care of his parents’ health. Just during the Chinese New Year, he has to put on a smile on his face.
He wants to please this large group of relatives, which is really very pitiful, and we sympathize with him.
So when chatting with those born in the 1990s, the question is, well, what’s the difference in personality growth? I now find out that this is a mystery. Teacher Xu, you think you are talking about the only child and the one with brothers and sisters.
We have brothers and sisters, do you think there is really a difference?
Some people refuse to admit it and say that children are actually selfish and self-centered, and it has nothing to do with whether they have brothers or sisters.
But when you say it doesn't matter, it seems that you always think that being an only child is a little different. I don't think there is a fundamental difference. The brothers in Jintang are all more than ten years older than me.
So I feel like I was an only child when I was a child.
When I was a kid and I entered an elementary school, they had all graduated from college, so the relationship was basically that of brothers, not quite like brothers. In the future, if they want me to be the principal of an elementary school and we graduate from college, right?
So I grew up alone,
But I am, but I don’t think I am an only child. For example, uh, we usually observe that if there are a bunch of older sisters above, the boy will be dependent, right?
He just made such wild guesses. For example, Jintang also made such wild guesses. I synthesized a lot of comments on this website.
I will have a hypothesis, which is not necessarily true, that is, we have a parallel relationship as brothers, uh, one is close to the other.
Then you say I listened, let’s say 0% or 15%, if you don’t scold him or scold him, he is just an ignorant wolf.
Let’s just say that he is just like this. These parents will think that this child does not know whether he is warm or cold, and does not know what is good or bad.
I don’t know if people treat him well or not. Do you think the child you are talking about is an only child? They all look like your parents. I see a lot of people on the Internet saying that they are just children, uh, does it have a kind of
ah.
For those who are relaxed and soft, that is, they don’t feel close to the man. If it is better to get married, it is better to go back home.
If you don't get married, you can help, but on the other hand, if you have a sister, your pursuit will be stronger, so if you have a few brothers.
Generally speaking, you are either a perfect match or a very good one. The roles are very clearly divided. Women are more successful and more responsible for family affairs, while women are more rebellious and indifferent to society.
But I am more idealistic about this city, but if it is an only-child family as you just mentioned, these role plays will not exist.
No more, that is to say, there is no such thing as Huo Zhuoshan.
He has neither an older sister nor a younger sister, right? He also has no older brother or younger brother, so these situations that we thought must be strong or weak or whatever when we were growing up at home are gone.
Of course, this also depends on other factors. There are no immortal sisters, there are many factors.
I once had a person born in the 1990s tell me this.
Because I think the same way, he seems to be very withdrawn and unfeeling. What is the reason I heard him say?
Code number, I have to train myself early not to indulge in sadness, and to be sensitive and understand it. It’s not like the liberal arts and Buddhism saying that mosquitoes bite me, but the feeling is different, so I still have to learn it as early as possible.
Let’s put the pain in a safe paragraph one by one. Why is the automatic dubbing too big? Yes, I am hungry. We are half of each other. I don’t know if Jintang is angry. Do you like it?
If I don't take the vaccine now, it is a vaccine that trains me. I was also insensitive last year, and the training is not only smart.
Because is it really a habit, because sometimes our emotional response is a habit?
What are your customary responses to remembering with compassion?
Can I learn it back? He wanted me to learn it as soon as possible and get used to the way this kind of emotion led him down.
Will I have to take care of my parents' illnesses for a long 10 or 20 years?
That's not easy, it's not about physical time, taking care of you and watching someone so close to you grow old and die.
Your hands are so weak, what will happen next?
My parents are gone, but without Tang Seng and his sisters, he is the only one on earth. That is a house that my husband cannot buy, and Jintang also knows it.
I actually know a few people who are like this. When I say this, I am not assuming that it will happen in the future, but that it has already happened.
I met about three or four people born in the 1980s and 1990s by chance. Their parents passed away when they were very young. It just happened in the past two years.
Then they are alone. Some are married and some are single. Do you know what the Chinese New Year means to them now?
Moreover, the current family relationship is different from that in the past. What is very distant is the extended family. Just like we just said, it has become a small atomic family.
Then it becomes an atomic family. When his parents are gone, those distant relatives and other relatives in his hometown will become even more distant to him?
So will he go home or not? What is this?
What the hell is going on with just being called home to celebrate the New Year?
The Chinese New Year is a few months when everyone is on vacation, so what is he doing at home? This is a lonely star, lonely, very lonely.
It's just that I really didn't expect it. I was shocked when I met these children.
Thinking of those born in the 1980s.
It turns out that what I said is absolutely unbelievable that they will be like this today, because we can contact a few people born in the 90s, but I can only be responsible for my own experience. The limited number of people born in the 90s that I have come into contact with make me feel that they are similar to
We are different from me.
I am missing, uh, for me, I am missing something, that is, the sticky feeling.
The thing that makes me feel warm is you. For example, Jintang thought of me when I was little and now I think of my brother.
After all, I already thought of my brother. You see, I was thinking of this recommended battle in the snow, you know?
The person who helped me fight countless times bullied me and was done with it. That’s all I think of. When I think of this meeting, this trash has grown up with a girl. She is a much bigger girl.
He bullied me as a little boy, and it turned out that I was older than my brother, which meant that my brother was older than an adult. My brother didn't tell me, and everyone was very angry when they were caught together, because it was obviously not good to get along with that girl.
Now I want Dad to get rid of this kind of thing. What you think is very surprising, do you think I can think about it if I meet you, what else is it?
Precisely because modern families are like families in the past, families are one family. It is rare to say who is particularly responsible for whom in a family, and society will be particularly high.
Who doesn't particularly like it, but now it is different and may be scattered in different places. Education in different industries is stocked every year, and everyone is together.
I think it's a good opportunity to break my own bubble, so I took this and now I still have a lot of thanks.
If you answered correctly, go home. I will go home during the Chinese New Year. This is what I mean by setting an indicator for you.
He brought me children of their age.
Dad was very happy when I was so young, but your child is very playful.
I think with this child, some of our classmates brought their younger brothers here when we were young. Yes, do I have these memories?
And there is one kind of brother.
And my brother is always like this. For example, I remember that my brother and I invented the bow and arrow at home.
Then, just across the door from each other, I missed my head and shot me. Wow, I cried. I will tell my parents when I come back.
My brother is like, what should I do if I don’t tell my parents?
It's okay to say I want to shoot you. I still remember that I closed my eyes and thought about the angles on my brother's neck. I said I should remember it like this. The older children just laughed and giggled because they didn't understand and they were very tired.
I was not allowed to tell my parents, but I felt that these memories made me loyal to Save the World. Your basic human nature can generate an emotion. I always feel that I am getting closer to someone.
Not to mention relatives or old buddies, eh?
These friends are all good, but I always feel that even if we are not good, we have broken up, we have broken up, and I have let you down.
Alas, let me tell you, and there is an endless feeling of friendship between brothers and sisters.
For example, my best friend, if you hurt me, it doesn't matter if you take advantage of me.
real.
We can, um, be estranged, and I won't blame you, but if you are not my friend, if you take advantage of me, I will fight you to the death.
Yes, that's why they think this is happening.
I am only good to others when they are good to you, so why should you be good to them if they are not good to you? Then Jintang is still like this, as long as I think you are my buddy.
I can accept it if you treat me badly. By the way, for you, the relationship between your brothers has become something you can generalize to, right?
You can go out inside, but if you clean it up, you won't have this inside.
Maybe I will find out sometimes, that is, if you are good to me, I will be good to you.
This is very fast, right, but you let me down a little bit.
Or maybe you don’t respect my self-esteem. If I suffer something serious, I’m a bit like this eliminated bird’s nest, right?
This change of attitude happened very quickly. As a Hebei native, I found that I was not used to this person suddenly becoming cold.
If you suddenly turn your back on others, you may need to take some time to do this, and you need to analyze a lot of benchmarks, perceptual examples, and examples.
We cannot talk about this theoretically, because if we really want to talk about it theoretically, it is indeed an important matter.
The reason why Chinese culture is very different from the West is because starting from the Zhou Dynasty, all the throne and property were not passed on to the eldest son. This fundamental difference from other cultures began at that time.
Mao Jiu said, no matter how many things you have in your home in China and Europe, they are all given to the first child. In China, starting from the Zhou Dynasty, parents and fathers have the right to decide which one to give, right?
Therefore, Chinese people have a requirement for their father. It is a social concept that he should be fair in his work.
In China, it is a concept within the family. Alas, public relations are a matter within the family, and many people are in trouble.
They have always analyzed that the biggest feature of Chinese culture is that since the Zhou Dynasty, these brothers can have opportunities together.
You know that later on, the royal family had countless experiences like this, and they really decided that on the other hand, there is a concept of brothers and sisters in the extremely unreasonable personality genes of the Chinese people.
In other words, we have brothers and sisters in our genes at every point. As you just said, there is no such thing in the current generation.
Of course, they are still very fast now. For example, I think back to what you just said.
I thought about what to do with my daughter, but he has two cousins and one cousin.
Well, one brother and one sister have a very close relationship. They communicate all day and night about all their private lives, so he found his brothers and sisters here.
But the problem is that if there is another generation, there will be no such thing, because the previous generation has three children, right?
If the previous generation didn't have three children, there wouldn't be such close cousins, that's right.
So what I just said is that it also depends on whether you have cousin relationships or anything like that.
This is very important to him now. Yes, I'm about to cry. My daughter in Jintang doesn't have any cousins. Basically, I just stayed with him, and he also has his mother.
The situation I just set aside is like this. I can completely see the future and see our ideals grow old and die. Zhang Wen said what does the New Year mean to him, right?
During the Chinese New Year, alas, he and Huo Zhuoshan’s mother were gone, and I was gone.
Then he may go, my sister and I are no longer here, but there are still some distant relatives, and they may finish the meal.
In fact, after taking the medicine, I can imagine my daughter walking home. You don’t have to say whether it’s right or wrong, but I still have a husband, a wife, and a husband for fun. There should be 6 people arriving.
I don’t know what you mean by that theory?
Because I feel like he and I love my mother very much psychologically, but in many actions it is difficult for me to express it.
Including the communication between me and my mother before, there was actually very little communication, almost none in the past few years.
I have a lot of communication with my mother, because I feel that my mother is getting older and older, and in the future, she will need someone to accompany her.
He even said that he needs some time to chat with him. He also wants to know all the things about me, so recently I have been meeting with him in the past few years. It’s really like this. I think you look at him.
This is a young man from the Northeast.
I am also from the north. Now that Jintang thinks about it, you can see that my mother is seriously ill now.
But now that I think about it, we are not very good at talking to our parents
He didn't touch her body until she was dying and carried her to nowhere.
But I suddenly remembered that I had already thought a lot about spending money before this, including decoration, economics, and various other issues. I had thought too much about it.
But there is no feeling that doing this is really something worth regretting.
Alas, Brother Han, I thought he and his mother had a bitter feud, but it turned out to be too bitter.
I think a big reason why you went to South Korea later was because you were having such a miserable life in this country.
Because I was attending a specialized university in 1996, and my family’s conditions were not that good at that time.
It is more difficult for you to pay tuition or other things.
So my mother came to work, but at that time you needed some monthly living expenses and tuition fees. I couldn't and I didn't have the ability to make money. Only my mother helped me do it, uh, to earn some living expenses.
After a while, he came to the Shenzhen market. During the day, he would make some and sell them early. He wanted to work early for the early ones. When he was done, he would give me some living expenses.
You are very good at working hard. Many people think you are a prince, right?
But actually you have such a family.
It took him another 10 years to get his doctorate, and he himself said that at the time, he said that I was, er, a mother.
I can also take good care of my son in Jintang. Maybe my son will be the president of a foreign country in the future. Well, he gave his son to the grandmother to take care of him at that time. When he went to school by himself,
And Najintang lived with my grandma. In fact, sometimes I think it is not necessarily a relationship with dad or mom, but you need to have a relatively stable relationship, which may be good for the children.
For example, Sister Qiu and Ouyang Jing, I remember him saying that because her mother was a socialite and was always involved in socializing, she didn't care about him.
Then he said his dad, and then he said he, and he said my dad was like that God.
He is always busy elsewhere and doesn't care about me, but he is the one who takes care of his nanny. His relationship with his nanny has always been particularly stable.
Then, until he became Prime Minister, his nanny always had his nanny facing him in his office, so as long as he had a relationship that made him feel very stable, it was good.
Mao Jiu said, it depends on your perspective. If you are looking for a partner, or your son is looking for a partner, generally speaking, you are looking for an ordinary, uh, happy family.
Zhu Tou San said: "Children like this generally think that they are psychologically relatively healthy, kind and easy to get along with. But if you are from the company, then Jintang said: "EO, you are Intel, you have to find
A talent.”
You may think so. Your family’s tank experience is a bit unbelievable. Promote talents.
So the former is the kind that is safer, the kind that is more hard-working and obedient, or because it is very simple, if your parents are divorced.
Or if the family members are away all the time, it’s just your own?
Mao Jiu said: "If you accept being bullied, you will have to fight on your own, right? Your father, Han Geng, is a soldier. To me, this is because you think you are more influenced by your father, or eh."
There will be, because my parents, my mother and my father gave me different things.
Zhu Tou San said: "Actually, my father's standard answer was when he was three or four years old at most. People always asked him, and he always taught me that if you want to be a bad person, it doesn't matter how you do things or how to handle things."
Mao Jiu said: "He said you told me when you were a child that you must be a doer, think twice before you act, and don't regret anything you do."