I couldn’t help but feel funny: As a secretary, she really developed the habit of recording everything. I immediately said: “First of all, in terms of diet, we should pay attention to eating more low-fat and high-fiber drinks, and also pay attention to vitamin supplements.
Minerals. The former can increase the body's metabolic pathways, reduce adverse stimulation to the mammary glands, and can also control the intake of animal protein to prevent excessive estrogen from causing mammary gland hyperplasia. Secondly, sleep must be regular. Regular sleep is not only conducive to balancing endocrine
, and also provides a good environment for various hormones in the body to exert their health effects in a balanced manner. The third is to try to artificially breastfeed. Breastfeeding can fully develop the mammary glands, and degenerate well after weaning, making it less likely to cause hyperplasia. The other is to have a harmonious sex life.
, a harmonious sex life can regulate endocrine, stimulate progesterone secretion, and increase the protection and repair of breast glands. These are all very important to pay attention to."
She couldn't help but laughed, "Director Feng, I realize that you still look like a doctor. But my child is already very old and is already in elementary school." Then her face turned red, "Now that my child is older,
My husband doesn’t seem to be very interested in me anymore. Haha! I treat you like a doctor and that’s why I’m talking to you like this. Don’t laugh at me.”
I didn't laugh, because I thought of myself as a doctor at this moment. I said: "Mi He, when I was a doctor, many patients said things like you to me. In fact, this kind of situation exists in our Chinese families.
It's very common. So what's the reason? He Mi, don't be angry when I told you, because I think it's mainly your own fault. Psychologically speaking, after marriage, a wife's love is completely dedicated to her husband.
But after giving birth, the wife takes on the role of a mother. This is because the mother has experienced the pain of ten months of pregnancy and is devoted to breastfeeding, so she must transfer part of her love to the child and no longer treat her husband like a child.
He was as focused and enthusiastic as before. During this process, the wife was unconscious and did not realize it, but the husband felt the neglect of his wife very sensitively. Physiologically speaking, after having children, the wife added a lot of housework.
Labor work also bears the heavy responsibility of breastfeeding. This kind of laborious and laborious work will make wives feel physically and mentally tired, and will also reduce their sexual desire and enthusiasm, resulting in apathy in sexual desire. So slowly
A husband would find it boring to be a husband, and would regard this situation as natural. So in the final analysis, it is still the wife’s problem. Haha! He Mi, am I right?"
She nodded and said: "Director Feng, it seems that what you said is true. However, as soon as I saw the child, I put all my thoughts on the child. I was very busy reporting during the day, and sometimes I had to go with the leader.
There's nothing I can do about socializing or going to the county or city."
I smiled and said, "Yes. But as I said, the key lies with you. From now on, just pay more attention to your lover."
She sighed: "My husband is a bookworm. He is a middle school teacher. He teaches students during the day and writes novels when he gets home at night. He has been writing for many years and has never published any works. But I found that he likes it very much.
I am writing, so I don’t bother to care about him. Fortunately, my parents are taking care of the children for me at home, otherwise it would be really troublesome. Haha! Do you see why I took the topic away all of a sudden? Director Feng, what I mean is
That is to say, my husband and I seem to have become accustomed to this kind of life now."
I said: "Mi He, I see that you are not very old, and you and your husband are considered a young couple. Husband and wife still need emotional communication, and even more romance. But you have to create such an atmosphere by yourselves.
Create. By the way, He Mi, let me tell you a story, a true story. After you listen to this story, it may be helpful to your marriage life and also conducive to your physical recovery."
She looked at me and said, "Oh? Tell me quickly."
So I said: "When I was in middle school, I had a classmate named Ouyang Tong..." When I said this, my heart suddenly tightened, and then a sad emotion welled up in my heart. I paused, and then continued
Authentic: "My classmate's parents were very loving. Many people in our county envied their relationship at that time. However, my classmate's mother fell ill and passed away when he graduated from high school, but until now his father
No remarriage. Do you know the reason for this?"
She shook her head.
I couldn't help but feel that I was very funny, because she didn't know Ouyang Tong. I continued: "My classmate also died a few years ago due to illness. However, he left a large amount of property, and as a result,
Our alma mater donated a large part. Later, when I returned to my hometown, I went to visit my classmate’s father. I invited him to have a drink. After drinking, my classmate’s father told me why he had an affair with his wife.
The feelings are so deep, and he still cannot forget them. To be honest, his words shocked me at the time, because not only did I feel from his words that managing the relationship between husband and wife requires methods, but my classmate
My mother is indeed extraordinary in this regard."
She smiled and said to me: "Director Feng, you are really good at telling stories. After hearing what you said, I am really interested now. Tell me, what did your classmate's father tell you?"
I continued: "My classmate's father only told me one sentence. He told me that he had never seen his wife's body in his life."
She suddenly looked at me in shock, "What do you mean?"
I laughed and said, "I thought it was strange at the time. But when I was about to ask him, he was already drunk and unconscious. Haha! To be precise, my classmate's father didn't tell me this on purpose.
In other words, it was only what he said when he was drunk, because before he fell unconscious, he said: Poor, I have never seen my wife's body in my life, but I can never forget her.
...It took me a long time to understand the meaning of his words, that is to say, his wife has always maintained her own mystery, which is why he is so unforgettable."
She immediately laughed, "Director Feng, I don't believe there is such a wife in this world? Isn't this too impossible? Haha! Director Feng, you really know how to tell stories."
I hurriedly said: "I'm really not lying. These are indeed the exact words I heard my classmate's father say at that time. Yes, at first I thought it was too strange, even ridiculous, but then I thought about it carefully.
, I suddenly felt that my classmate’s mother was really not an ordinary person. Indeed, there must be very few people who can do this, and my classmate’s mother was also a special case. But this story illustrates the problem, that is
It is necessary for couples to maintain mystery and romance. Therefore, I think the authenticity of this story is not important, what is important is the issue I want to explain."
She smiled and said: "Director Feng, it seems that you really deserve to be a professor from the university. Your story is very convincing."
At this time, the phone on her desk rang, and she immediately answered it, "Yeah, I understand."
Then she put down the phone and said, "Director Feng, it will be your turn to report in a moment. Let's go down."
I hurriedly agreed. At this time, I felt that I was not nervous at all, and I didn’t know where I had run off due to the sequelae of not having a good rest last night, so I said to her gratefully: "He Mi,
Thank you, our chat has made me feel less nervous."
She looked at me and smiled, "Director Feng, you are an honest person. Let me tell you the truth. It was Governor He who asked me to do this. She said it was your first time to report to the provincial government and she was worried that you would be nervous.
"
I was very touched, "Thank you so much." (To be continued)