I couldn't help but give him a thumbs up, "Old director, you are really my senior. I admire you so much."
He smiled and said: "There's more. A confidante fully taps a man's potential and completes his mission as a confidant by perfecting men and helping men. Therefore, a confidante is another soul of a man. Sometimes she is close at hand, and sometimes she is there.
She may not be on the water side, but you can feel her presence in your life; she may not agree with your outlook on life and values, but she absolutely respects you and trusts and knows you. Your wife is a woman who has no blood relationship with you, but she
I am worried about you not coming home late at night; your lover is a woman who has no family relationship with you, but she allows you to taste the taste of being a man; your confidante is a woman who has not had a relationship with you yet, but she can share your love.
Happiness and sorrow. A wife is a home, a harbor that can bring comfort to your impetuous heart; a lover is a burden to the family, but you don’t want to get rid of it unless you have to; a confidante is an embellishment of the home, and you won’t be able to live without her.
You feel lonely, but you will feel that life is meaningless. Your wife's concern is like a glass of boiled water, sometimes it becomes a nagging, but it only becomes a kind of warmth when you are sick; your lover's concern is like a spoonful of sugar added to the boiled water, slowly
Sipping slowly all night is not enough; the care of a confidante is like drinking a cup of coffee after working until late at night, the more you drink, the more energetic you become."
I couldn't help but nod, "Old director, what you mean is that this wife, lover and confidante are all indispensable. Right? Haha! I always thought you were quite old-fashioned, but I didn't expect you to be as open-minded as us."
He glared at me, "What does it mean to be open-minded? This is something that a man should experience. Just listen to me...Also, when your wife is pregnant with your child, she will ask you affectionately if you want
Is it a boy or a girl? If your lover is pregnant with your child, she will come to you crying and ask you: What should I do? What should I do? For your confidante, you will tell her the news of your lover's pregnancy and ask her what you should do.
What should you do? As for your wife, you will only tell her after she discovers the secret that your lover is pregnant: In fact, I have wanted to tell you for a long time. Then you will try your best to explain and make a pitiful gesture. Your wife will not return to her parents' home for a week.
You don’t want to come back; you will call your lover if you haven’t seen her for three days; if you feel depressed in your heart, you want to find a confidante to talk to and tell her that you are exhausted between your wife and your lover and you really can’t stand it. The most unbearable thing for men.
It's the wife's nagging; the lover's tears; the confidante's misunderstanding. The wife's nagging makes a man's heart more confused; the lover's tears make a man's hard heart soften; the confidante's misunderstanding makes a man's heart become more confused.
The cliff pushes into the abyss. The best wife is when a man can find the two intertwined feelings of lover and confidante in her, but this feeling is difficult for men to find; the best lover is discovered by your wife in your relationship with her.
Taking the initiative to withdraw without any conditions, but it is difficult for lovers to do this; the best confidante is to hope that one day she can become his lover or even wife, but this idea is difficult to realize. If possible, men would
I want to turn my confidante into my lover; if it is possible again, I will turn her into my wife. A confidante who just becomes my wife is no longer a confidant, because few men regard their wives as their confidants.
There are so many secrets that you cannot tell your wife casually. Otherwise, would you still be called a man?"
I immediately thought, "Wonderful!"
The old director suddenly glanced into the distance and said, "This woman is very suitable to be your confidante."
I hurriedly looked at it, and I couldn't laugh or cry immediately, because what I saw was Shanglong Bank walking towards us in the distance. I hurriedly said: "Old director, don't make such a joke. She is our colleague."
Just as we were talking, Shanglongxing came to us with the medicine in her hand, "Director Feng, this medicine is really cheap."
I smiled and said: "The best medicine is one that is both cheap and effective."
She smiled brightly at me and said, "Only you doctors can know this. I will have to consult you often in this regard from now on."
I smiled and said, "No problem." Then I took the medicine from her hand, opened a pack, poured out a third of it, and ate it with the milk, "Thank you, Director Shang."
She looked at us and smiled, "Old director, you seemed to be having a great time talking just now. Why did you stop talking when I came here?"
The old director said: "Xiao Shang, you go and do your work. I will talk to Director Feng about something."
Shang Longxing smiled at us and left.
I immediately said, "What's going on with Director Liang? Why haven't you responded yet?"
The old director said: "Obviously, his classmate hasn't gotten up yet. Today is the weekend. Please be patient and let's continue talking about the previous things."
I immediately couldn't laugh or cry, and immediately understood that I might have inadvertently provoked the issue that he was most interested in. But I think it is understandable, since he is so old and was once a top leader, so some of his insights are
It was impossible to tell other people. Now that he had finally found someone to talk to, how could he stop?
At this time, I felt a little strange in my heart, "Old director, why do you think Shanglongxing is suitable to be a confidante?"
He smiled and said: "First, she is very beautiful, second, she is considerate, and third, this woman is very kind. Therefore, she is suitable to be a man's spiritual support. Such a woman is rare for men.
Yes, but don't blaspheme her, otherwise it would be meaningless. What you can't get is the best."
I shook my head and laughed. But in my heart, I felt that what he said seemed to make sense. According to what he said before, this confidante is a man's spiritual support. If Shangguanqin and I had maintained our friendship and nothing happened later,
, then she should be a very good confidante. But...when I suddenly thought of her, my heart felt painful again.
The old director looked at me with a strange look in his eyes, "Xiao Feng, are you completely disappointed with your marriage now?"
I sighed: "Yes. My life is too tough and I am not suitable for marrying a wife. Forget it, I will never get married again."
He immediately said to me seriously: "That's not possible. Men need women to take care of them. What's more, you are now the deputy director. If you don't have a family, others will gossip."
I said disapprovingly: "Is it different now than before? As far as I know, Governor He has always been single, why did he become the deputy governor?"
He nodded and said: "That's true. But she is a woman, so the situation is different."
I was very surprised and asked: "Does this have anything to do with that woman?"
He said: "Why doesn't it matter? Governor He's previous man was a worker. Later, Governor He's official position became bigger and bigger. Her man's self-esteem couldn't stand it, so he often beat her at home. She really couldn't bear it.
She got divorced later. She is a woman, and her married life was so unhappy, so people understand her and sympathize with her. People always sympathize with women on such issues. Who have you ever seen who really sympathizes with men? People always sympathize with women.
I think the reason a man doesn’t have a family is just for the convenience of having sex.”
I couldn't help but feel ashamed, "This... seems to be the truth."
He said: "The director of admissions in a county once told me something. He said that he was the first person to buy a BB machine. At that time, a BB machine cost more than 3,000 yuan. One of his neighbors was very envious.
But he couldn't afford it. Later he stopped using the BB machine because he had a mobile phone. At this time, his neighbor finally bought a BB machine because BB machines were already very cheap at that time. But the neighbor was watching
After he started using his cell phone, he felt unbalanced again. A few years later, the director of admissions bought a house, and his neighbors were even more envious. Although he had also started using a cell phone, his heart became even more unbalanced.
Later, the admissions director bought a car, and the neighbor finally bought a small apartment. He still felt it was unbalanced, so he asked the admissions director: Why do you always live better than me? What's your secret to making money?
No? The admissions director said: Look, I'm not married yet, why should I not make money? In fact, I have always envied you, because you have a wife and children, and your life is much warmer than mine. Xiao Feng,
Let me tell you, the admissions director is right, for this person, having a family is the most important thing."
I found that the situation of the admissions director that the old director mentioned seemed to be similar to mine, so I asked: "Since the admissions director is so rich, why doesn't he get married?"
But the old director came to look at me and smiled, "Aren't you also very rich? Why don't you get married?"
I was immediately speechless: Yes, wealth and marriage are not necessarily synonymous. Everyone has his or her own reasons for life.
The old director sighed: "Xiao Feng, I'm saying all this for your own good. In fact, as a man, who didn't have ridiculous moments when they were young? It was the same when I was young. I had a few good friends and a confidante, but when it came to
Now that I'm older, I realize that the most important thing in our men's lives is our wives, wives, wives. Only when we get older do we realize how important our wives are. I have said so much to you, but actually I want to explain this to you.
Question. Xiao Feng, I still know a little bit about your situation. I am worried that you passed away like this in a daze. It will be very difficult for you to find a wife at my age, because men and women need a long time to get along.
We can eventually become each other’s companions.”
I shook my head and sighed: "Old director, I understand your good intentions. Let's talk about it later."
At this point, I suddenly realized something: Isn't he going to introduce me to his girlfriend? Otherwise, why would he talk so much in circles?
I was about to pretend that I didn't know his intentions and change the topic to other aspects, but the old director immediately said: "Xiao Feng, don't talk about it again in the future? To tell you the truth, I have one on my hand.
A very nice girl. How about I introduce her to you when I go back this time?"
Sure enough, I smiled bitterly in my heart. But I didn't want to let down his kindness, so I said, "Let's talk about it after we get back."
He immediately looked very happy, "Then we've made an agreement."
I smiled bitterly and said, "I have been married twice. Will people like me?"
He smiled and said: "If you like it, you will definitely like it."
I couldn't laugh or cry, "Old director, you are really good at ideological work."
He said very proudly: "Of course. After all, I have been a leader for many years."
I immediately joked with him: "Since you are going to introduce me to my girlfriend, why are you talking about who is suitable to be my confidante? Aren't you kidding me?"
He laughed, "What happened to the confidante? That is a very pure relationship."
I was even dumbfounded: How could this old man look like an old naughty boy?
While we were talking, Director Liang came and said to us: "Director Feng, old director, I asked her."
I asked hurriedly: "What did she say?"
He replied: "She said that it would be best if such a thing were not known to outsiders. She also said that she would pretend she had never heard of it."
I looked at him in shock, "That's it?"
He nodded, "I asked her again and again, but she always said the same thing, and then she hung up the phone."
The old director sighed: "She is right. She should really avoid such things. After all, this is not within the scope of her work, and there is no need to take such risks for us."
Although I agree with the old director's statement in my heart, I can't help but feel a headache, "Old director, the trouble with this matter is that if it's too much, it's not worth it. After all, it's public money. If it's too little, I worry that it will be counterproductive. It must be appropriate."
sure."
The old director shook his head and said: "Where have we done such a thing before? Isn't it because the current trend has changed? Hey!"
I thought for a while and said, "Well, don't rush this matter. I'll think about it again."
We left the restaurant immediately. After returning to the room, I began to think painfully: Who should I ask about this matter? As a result, I thought about it for a long time and still felt that I couldn't figure it out.
Later, I suddenly thought: Wu Shuang may indeed have concerns about this matter, but no matter what, she should help me with this little favor, right?
I thought about it again, and then sent her a text message. The text message I sent her was very simple, just a question mark, followed by a few words: Thank you! I am grateful! (To be continued)