I know very little about Buddhism, but I know one thing: Buddhism requires people to "let go". The Buddha asks people to let go of everything, such as other people's hatred and insults towards you, and even your own life, old age, illness and death. On weekdays, I
I like to read some Buddhist principles in vernacular. I think those principles are very beneficial to my life and the purification of my soul. However, I found that although I remembered those principles, I found that I didn’t do many of them at all.
Less than.
for example:
The reason why people are miserable is that they pursue the wrong things. Rather than others making them miserable, it is better to say that they are not self-cultivation enough. If a person does not trouble himself, others will never trouble us. Everything is because of us.
You can't let go of your own heart. So it's important to discipline yourself well and not to worry about others.
Don't always feel that others are pitiful. In fact, you are the more pitiful person. Let me ask: What about your own practice? How much do you know about life?
The Buddha said that a person should always forgive all living beings, no matter how bad others are, or even if they have hurt you, so you must let go in order to get real happiness. Well, it makes sense, but how many people can do such a thing?
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When a person is happy, he should think that the happiness is not eternal. When he is in pain, he should also think that the pain is not eternal. This is a category of self-psychological comfort. I think I am doing the best at this point.
Not bad. I have experienced so much sadness in my life, but am I not still living happily now?
Therefore, I believe that only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself, and changing yourself can you change others; when a person lets go, he will have no worries; every kind of trauma is a kind of maturity; arrogant people are difficult to save, and people with low self-esteem are even more difficult to save.
Hard to save.
Then I thought of Zeng Yufang. I think the most important thing for me is not to be dissatisfied with others all the time. A person should reflect on himself more. Being dissatisfied with others is hurting yourself; you must be tolerant of those who have different opinions from you. Living like this
It's easier. If you always want to change others, it will make you very painful. You have to learn how to tolerate others and how to tolerate others. If a person cannot forgive others from the heart, then he will never feel at ease;
It only takes one word to destroy a person, but it takes a thousand words to cultivate a person. It is very important for a person to be merciful with his words; when you go to persuade others, if you don't take into account the self-esteem of others, then no matter how good your words are, they will be useless.
And don’t mix your wisdom with arrogance, and don’t let your humility lack wisdom. At this point, I feel that I have done a good job many times.
Also, being jealous of others will not bring you any benefits. Being jealous of others will not reduce any achievements of others. Conscience is the most fair judge of everyone. You can deceive others, but you can never deceive yourself.
conscience...
At this time, when I listened to them talking about many Buddhist principles here, I couldn't help but think in my heart: Can you all let go? Since you can't let go, you might as well not believe in it like me.
I once heard a saying: Either you believe in Buddhism completely, or you don’t believe it at all. People who believe completely will know how to cultivate themselves; and people who don’t believe at all will act calmly, whether it is good or bad things.
Do it calmly, and what you pursue is the natural release of your heart. The most terrifying and pitiable thing is people who believe and have doubts. Such people actually live a very painful life. I think everyone here, including me, is also
So. I don’t believe in Buddhism, but its shadow exists in my world view, because it is part of cultural heritage, and this cultural heritage will enter my body along with the inheritance of genes.
Because of this, I am also a very tired person.
The meeting didn't end until 11:30 in the morning. The time was controlled by Minister Dou. In fact, to put it bluntly, everyone was waiting for lunch. No matter how big a leader they are, they will take the issue of eating very seriously.
, because no matter how great a leader is, he is also a human being, an animal. Lin Yu once talked about an incident when he was just chatting with me: her salary was very low at that time, and one day she was starving.
I bought five sesame seed cakes on the street and ate them all. "I had no money at that time, so I could only eat sesame seed pancakes, which were cheap. But at the time, I thought they tasted delicious, with a hint of sweetness. But there was no oil or water in anything.
It won’t be long before I’m hungry again.” She said to me with a smile at that time.
Therefore, although those big leaders now live in big hotels and eat all delicacies from mountains and seas, in fact, as long as you think about their past and how most of them were once in a state of poverty, you will no longer have excessive feelings towards them.
I admire them. This is like many young people chasing stars. What are they chasing? Aren’t they also human beings? They can eat and go to the toilet.
In the past, when I first came into contact with Governor Huang, I was still very scared, but at that time I adopted this method: treating him as a person, not just a big leader, so I quickly
I overcame most of the fears in my heart.
I didn't drink much wine during lunch because I had to see off Minister Dou in the afternoon.
Governor Huang and Governor He both came at noon. After all, this was a farewell party for Minister Dou.
When we sent Minister Dou to the airport, the same police cars cleared the way, and the same splendid motorcade. When we sent Minister Dou to the VIP entrance of the airport, I found that he was obviously drunk, because he was shaking hands with Zeng Yufang when saying goodbye.
The rest of us have a few seconds longer.
However, everyone turned a blind eye to this.
When we were returning home, Governor He asked me to take her car. She said she had some work matters to ask me to handle. Of course I had no choice but to obey.
After getting on the bus, Governor He said to me: "Director Feng, why haven't you transferred that money to the Provincial Education Committee's account yet?"
I was stunned for a moment, and then I replied: "Governor He, didn't Minister Dou give us a sum of money for education this time? Isn't it enough?"
She immediately said displeasedly: "Did I tell you not to paddle?"
Only then did I realize that I had made a mistake that I shouldn't have made at all: her criticism was right, she was the leader, and she did not tell me not to transfer any more money. In other words, the money she once gave me
The order was not revoked. What I did was actually a violation of her instructions.
I hurriedly said: "I'm sorry, Governor He, I'll have someone row across it right away."
Her face became slightly kinder, "Xiao Feng, I can't help it. The funding gap in our education system is too big. We are currently undertaking more than one project. This time, the money brought by Minister Dou is still there."
For other uses. Alas! One of his dignified deputy ministers came to our Jiangnan Province with only such a small amount of money, but he can’t handle it!"
I was startled again, "Governor He, is this better than nothing?"
She smiled self-consciously, "That's right. By the way, Xiao Feng, what's going on with the woman named Zeng?"
I suddenly felt embarrassed and hesitant - how should I tell her about this matter?
But I know one thing very clearly: since she has asked me face to face, I can only and must answer her. The key to the problem is that Governor He is a woman, and in my impression she should still be
She is a relatively self-disciplined woman, so maybe she would hate such things deeply.
After thinking about it for a while, I smiled bitterly and said, "Governor He, she is the one we called to help with the reception."
She asked me calmly: "Is this woman a cadre of the Medical University? Did you ask her to come?"
I hurriedly said: "No. The night when Minister Dou first arrived in our Jiangnan Province, he drank a lot of wine at our reception dinner, so he hardly ate anything, so we later arranged a late-night snack for him.
Director Sun from the Office of the State Education Commission said it would be best to ask a few female comrades to come and drink with me. Later, I ordered the people below to find a few people, including Zeng Yufang."
I can only answer this way. On the one hand, it must be roughly clear, but on the other hand, it must be vague.
But she still said in a calm tone, "What happened next?"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly in my heart: It seems that it is impossible for me to completely avoid this matter. Maybe Governor He is very disgusted with this matter in his heart. The problem I face now is that I have to explain to her clearly that Zeng Yufang has been participating in our reception since then.
However, it is very difficult to find another reasonable explanation for this matter immediately. I had no choice but to continue thinking about it, "After drinking that night, I
I arranged a car to send the lesbians back. The next day, Director Sun from the National Admissions Office told me that he hoped Zeng Yufang would come to participate in our reception. I couldn’t refuse the matter, so I asked someone to ask for it.
After hearing her opinion, she herself agreed... Governor He, I can't help this matter. After all, he is a leader from Beijing. What's more, my idea at the time was that I must try my best to find a way to solve the problem.
He stayed in our Jiangnan to attend today's meeting, so I..."
At this point, I was so embarrassed that I immediately had the urge to get out of the car right away.
Governor He waved his hand at me and said: "Xiao Feng, I have to criticize you on this matter. We must have minimum principles in doing things, right? There should be many ways to retain Minister Dou, such as the scenic spots in our Jiangnan Province or
Quite a few, right? We can use other methods completely? Of course, I also know your difficulties, but you should come and discuss this kind of thing with me. Xiao Feng, I don’t mean anything else, I just think that you
This is not good. You should know that your reception represents the image of our Jiangnan Province. How can such messy things be brought to the table openly? We have individual leaders who do not respect themselves, but that is who they are.
We shouldn't do it unprincipled, right? Think about it, even if you did such a thing for him, what would he think? He would think: The officialdom in Jiangnan must be in a mess. Xiao
Feng, I am a leader, and of course I know how leaders are used to thinking about certain issues, but I find that you understand it at all." (To be continued)