In fact, of course I know about her problem, but I just don’t want to tell her about it, because I was also like that, and I also cheated on her when I was married. And this is not only a situation that happens to officials, as long as
It’s men, most of them are like this——
In fact, men also care about whether they are still young, energetic, and attractive, which is also a competitive capital for men who have extramarital affairs. The reasons for men to cheat are the following:
Looking for status. Usually only those rich men can afford to find lovers. In the eyes of some people, lovers have become a symbol of identity and status, just like villas, luxury cars, and brand-name clothes. A beautiful lover seems to have become a man with status.
A living advertisement. Men with normal sexual lives regard extramarital affairs as a curiosity; men with unsatisfactory sexual lives use extramarital affairs to divert and vent their sexual desires. Men are much more socialized than women, and are affected by the environment and popular concepts.
The degree is also greater than that of women.
Looking for youth. People usually think that only women care about their age. They are keen to cover up the traces of time through makeup, clothing, beauty, and body beauty. In fact, men also care about whether they are still young, energetic, and attractive. This is very important for men.
It is also a kind of competitive capital. It’s just that their desire for eternal youth is much more secretive than that of women. Why do most men look for young and beautiful girls as lovers? It’s simple. They are
If you want to prove that you are still attractive, you should not underestimate it.
Looking for a romantic mood. Many men emphasize that the reason why they fall in love with their lover is because she is gentler, more beautiful, and caring about them than their first wife. They want to find a better woman. What they are looking for in a lover is a temperament that is different from that of their wife.
, style, style, like their partners to have a sense of mystery and allure, and because their wives have lived together for a long time, they are already quite familiar with each other, and there is no distance. The lover just meets their psychological needs.
Sexual satisfaction. This is the biggest "gain" for men in extramarital affairs. Most extramarital affairs have the nature of sex transactions. Men with normal sexual lives regard extramarital affairs as a curiosity; men who are dissatisfied with their sexual lives use extramarital affairs to transfer and
Vent your sexual desires.
Looking for love. Some men regard their lover as a better marriage partner, but the proportion of these men is relatively small. There are often complex emotional backgrounds behind life-or-death extramarital affairs. Such affairs also lead to a considerable proportion of divorces.
high.
For me, it was probably more about self-indulgence.
I didn't want to talk about this topic with her, so I smiled and asked her: "Xiao Dan, how do you like to decorate the house?"
She tilted her head and thought for a moment, then smiled and said to me: "I like it to be very refreshing inside, with fewer things. But the wardrobe needs to be big."
I laughed immediately.
She asked me in surprise: "Why are you laughing?"
I said: "I laugh at your low requirements. I will buy you two large wardrobes tomorrow. Is that enough?"
She also smiled, "There is also a big shoe cabinet."
I laughed again, "No problem."
Just as I was talking, my cell phone suddenly rang. I looked and it turned out to be the call from President Wu. Oh, no, he is now the secretary of the Medical University. After I answered the call, I heard him shouting loudly on the phone.
He asked me, and I heard a very noisy voice near him, "Brother, where are you?"
I smiled and asked him: "What are you doing? Why are you so noisy?"
He smiled and said: "Just now, Director Zou and I, as well as Secretary Leng from the Provincial Education Commission, made an appointment to have a night of beer. Everyone said they haven't seen you for a long time and everyone misses you. Brother, let me tell you.
Ah, as long as you are in our Jiangnan Province, you must arrive tonight. Otherwise, you are not a friend enough!"
It was obvious from his voice that he had been drinking just before, because what he said seemed too excited, which was not his usual state at all.
I smiled and said: "Jiangnan Province is so big, I have to rush back from my hometown? That will be tomorrow morning."
He hurriedly asked: "Are you in your hometown? No way? Brother, please don't lie to me? I'm telling you, you must come right away, something good has happened. We just talked about your matter, and I was preparing
I will continue to hire you as a visiting professor in our school. This year’s master’s tutor qualification will also continue to be reserved for you. Secretary Leng and Director Zou are thinking of you. And, haha! There are two beauties with us.
, one is still your old subordinate, Director Shang. Okay, I won’t tell you anymore, Director Shang will tell you."
He must have drunk too much, there was no doubt about that. Then I heard Shang Longxing’s voice, “Are you really in your hometown?”
I smiled and said, "It's on the highway. I'm driving. We'll arrive at the provincial capital soon."
I don’t know why, but when I heard Shang Longxing’s gentle voice, I immediately gave up the idea of lying. Maybe she had supported me too much, which made me embarrassed to lie to her.
She smiled and said, "Then come on. Our fish farm by the river is the place you used to go to. Everyone is thinking about you."
I was very embarrassed, and then I looked at Zhu Dan and said, "I have friends with me. Let's wait for another day. I will invite you another day."
She said: "It might not work if you don't come. Secretary Leng has already said that you are the most capable young man he has ever seen. He wants to see you very much. I won't give him the phone number, but you'd better come."
I could feel that she had walked aside at this time, because the noise on the phone was much quieter, and what she just said also showed this.
Thinking of the things I had done with Secretary Leng in the past, I felt that this was just an opportunity to resolve the unpleasantness between us. As the saying goes, it is better to dissolve enemies than to make them end. Even if mountains and rivers do not change, things may still change in the future.
I want to find him.
I said, "Okay then. I'll be there soon. Within twenty minutes."
She said happily, "That's great. I'll toast you later."
"Who? What? Are you going to drink?" Zhu Dan asked me after hanging up the phone.
I said to her apologetically: "Some of my former leaders, they insisted on letting me go, but I couldn't help it. Xiao Dan, let me take you to the hotel first, and I will come back after drinking with them."
She looked at me and said, "I'll go too, okay? I want to get to know your friends. Maybe they can help me with something in the future. Don't worry, I won't let them know about our relationship."
I couldn't help but smile bitterly, "If you come with me, they will definitely be suspicious... That's fine, it doesn't matter. You go with me, maybe they can really help you in the future. They all
They are leaders, one is the director of the Department of Health, one is the top leader of the Provincial Education Commission, and one is the Party Secretary of the Medical University. There is also a woman who was my former subordinate and is now the director of the Provincial Admissions Office.
."
She looked very happy, "That's great."
Since I no longer needed to send Zhu Dan to the hotel, I quickly arrived at the fish farm by the river.
Shang Longxing was waiting for me outside. When she saw Zhu Dan and me, she immediately laughed, "I told you, it turns out that we are accompanied by a beautiful woman."
I hurriedly introduced her: "This is Zhu Dan from our Shangjiang TV station. She stopped by the provincial capital to do some business. Xiao Zhu, this is my former colleague, the commercial director of the provincial recruitment office."
Shang Longxing immediately took Zhu Dan's hand and said, "You are so beautiful." Then she took us to the private room inside.
After entering the private room, Secretary Wu immediately came over and gave me a bear hug, "Haha! Great, you are finally here! Brother, that's good, you even brought your girlfriend. You treat us like friends."
"
I hurriedly broke away from him, "Secretary Wu, what good thing happened to you today? Are you so happy?"
Director Zou next to him smiled and said: "He received a special allowance from the State Council. Now he is a real expert."
I smiled and said: "What a good thing, congratulations!"
Then I went to greet everyone present one by one. Secretary Leng looked at me and smiled, "Xiao Feng, you are becoming more and more magnanimous."
I smiled and said to him: "Thank you for the compliment from the leader." Then I began to introduce everyone present to Zhu Dan one by one. There was a woman I didn't know. She introduced herself: "I am Huang from the Normal Department of the Provincial Education Commission.
Britain."
Secretary Wu immediately added, "Xiao Huang used to be the Director of Academic Affairs of Jiangnan Normal University, and was recently transferred to the position of Director of the Provincial Education Commission."
I smiled and said, "I mean, why don't I recognize you? Haha!"
Then I introduced Zhu Dan to them, "This is Zhu Dan, the anchor of our Shangjiang TV station, who will be transferred to the provincial TV station soon. Leaders please take more care of her in the future."
Secretary Wu smiled and said: "I will definitely take care of you, I must take care of you."
Everyone laughs.
I didn't explain more because some things become less clear the more I explain them. And as Zhu Dan said, I'm single now anyway, so it doesn't matter what they think.
Zhu Dan was very generous. She toasted everyone present in turn. Of course I did the same.
When I went to pay my respects to Secretary Wu, he quietly gave me a thumbs up and said to me in a low voice, "Brother, this one is pretty good."
I just smiled slightly at him.
When I respected Secretary Leng, he said something to me, "Xiao Feng, although you are now a local leader, I think you should not give up your major. That would be a pity. Being an official is not a lifetime.
thing."
I nodded, "You're right."
At this time, Secretary Wu said: "Secretary Leng talked about you specifically today. I also hope that you can come back to school to teach students once a month in the future. The matter of taking care of graduate students is still as we discussed before. You
You can take it with others."
I said, "Isn't that bad?"
Secretary Wu smiled and said: "What's wrong? Now the political cadres in the school all have graduate students, management majors. What level do you think they are? God knows!"
Director Zou also smiled and said: "That's right. Xiao Feng, don't be so serious. It's like this now. Now you are in the officialdom. If you have another title of master's tutor, it will be different. Don't you think so?
?”
Shang Longxing also said: "Indeed. But your own level is there, much better than some others."
I smiled and said, "Okay. Let's do it."
In fact, these people mainly chat together. After all, we used to be together often. (To be continued)