Secretary Yang immediately asked me: "Okay. Let's not talk about such things anymore, then let's discuss this issue. Mayor Feng, this should fall into the category of psychology, right? Then what do you think about a person?
After such a situation occurs, how can we get out of the error of self-perception?"
I smiled and said to Minister Wu: "Old Wu, I see there are books on this topic on your bookshelf. You must have studied this issue before. Tell me."
Yes, I believe he must have studied it. Maybe he didn't pay attention to this area of knowledge before, but because of Secretary Chen, maybe he bought those books recently.
He shook his head and said: "I don't know much about this issue. Mayor Feng, you are the expert in this area."
I waved my hand hurriedly, "How am I an expert? I was not a psychiatrist before."
Secretary Yang smiled and said: "Okay, why are you being so modest? You are all experts in this field, I am not. You all say the same thing. Aren't we just chatting? Let's talk casually. We are discussing academic issues anyway.
.right?"
Minister Wu immediately said: "I really don't know much. I think the effect of others' persuasion will definitely not be good, unless it is a superior or elder that I respect very much. In this way, perhaps I can achieve a great effect. Walk through it yourself
Coming out is easier said than done..."
I laughed and said: "Great... Haha! This word is used well. Minister Wu is right. In such a situation, perhaps only the words of superiors or elders that you respect will be effective. However,
Then again, things like this, especially after a person reaches a certain level, the level of the superiors will be higher, and it will not be easy for them to hear the problems of one of their subordinates. The elders...
.. People clearly know that this person is your elder, so who would argue with him? Right?"
Secretary Yang smiled and said: "Yes, this seems to be a strange circle."
I also laughed, and then said: "However, if my superior is really concerned, he should still know something about the situation. In fact, there is another situation here, that is, others do not dare to report it to their superiors. Secretary Yang, what do you think?
Thinking about it, if you had such a problem, would I go to your previous leader to report it to you? Aren’t I asking for trouble? So, this is how the strange circle is formed.”
He patted his thigh lightly, "Yes. That's the problem!"
Minister Wu asked me: "So Mayor Feng, how do you think a person can get out of such a state?"
I said: "Perhaps, you will suddenly wake up only after temporarily losing the aura of power? When a person holds power, there will definitely be many people around him, and his ears will be filled with all kinds of noise all day long.
Filled with such flattering words, you will slowly think that you are omnipotent, and then your ego will begin to inflate. Therefore, if a person wants to get out of it, he must temporarily leave that environment and let his ears change.
You have to be quiet. Or if you lose that kind of power temporarily, those people who often flatter you will disperse. In fact, those flatterers are the worst. They have only one purpose in doing so, and that is
Seeking their own personal interests. When they think that this person no longer has much value, these people will certainly not do that again. In the end, such people are villains, and they will then look for the next target.
At this time, we will feel the loneliness and loss after losing power. At this time, we will force ourselves to think about some problems, and then we can slowly return to ourselves."
Secretary Yang shook his head and said: "I don't think it's quite right. I've come into contact with so many leaders, not every one of them will have self-aggrandizement? It's terrible to hear you say it like this."
I shook my head and said: "Secretary Yang, you misunderstood what I said. I don't mean that everyone will have such a situation, but that it is easy for us to have such a situation after we have gained absolute power. And once it does happen,
It is difficult to get out of self-inflation. You are right. In fact, many people are relatively rational. In the final analysis, this is self-prevention and self-alertness, which is very important. As long as a person is always cautious and walks on thin ice,
In this way, we will not fall into the vicious circle of self-aggrandizement. In fact, each of us will have some self-aggrandizement to some extent, including you and me now. For example, if someone does not address your job title, but directly addresses you
Will you feel comfortable if I call him by his name? It must be uncomfortable, right? This is actually a kind of self-inflation. But most of us can control our self-inflation to a certain level.
Within the range.”
A few of us were chatting like this at first, and the two of them smoked a lot. Later, Minister Wu’s wife came to invite us to have dinner. She kept laughing when she was at the door, "You guys smoke too much, I still
I thought there was a fire in here."
We all laughed. I smiled and said, "These two guys almost turned me into bacon."
Minister Wu smiled and said: "We completely ignored you and only focused on puffing away at you."
I smiled and said, "It's okay. I smoke without spending any money. It's a good deal."
We all laughed and left the study, and then went to sit at the dining table. The table was already filled with dishes, which were very rich. And I could smell the rich aroma of various dishes, and my mouth watered immediately.
Minister Wu's woman said to us apologetically: "Boss, you two leaders, we didn't prepare much today. You can just eat whatever you want." Then she looked at her man and said reproachfully: "It's him who didn't tell me earlier."
One sound."
Minister Wu laughed "haha", "It's okay. They are very casual."
I laughed and said, "You have such a big table without preparation. If you were prepared, would it be okay?"
They all laughed. Minister Wu's wife laughed and said: "Mayor Feng is really good at talking. By the way, Mayor Feng, I heard that you used to be a doctor?"
If someone asked me this question, I wouldn't mind it, but she is Minister Wu's wife after all, and I used to be such a professional, so I would be more or less embarrassed, but I still answered her: "
Yes. It’s a pity that now I have abandoned my major and stopped doing my real job.”
Secretary Yang then smiled and said to me: "Mayor Feng, you doctors have a lot of jokes, right? Tell us one. Don't use any color."
I knew he was trying to change the subject. Secretary Yang is indeed different. He can easily control some scenes, let alone such a small scene now? I said with a smile: "Don't tell me yet.
, I suddenly remembered a joke. It was a real thing that happened when I was in college. There were six people living in our dormitory at that time. About our sophomore year, we discovered that something was not right in the dormitory, because we
Every time I changed out of clothes, I was surprised to find that they were washed and dried outside the window sill the next morning, but I didn’t wash them. At first, a classmate in the dormitory discovered it, and then we
Everyone else noticed this problem, but none of the six of us knew what was going on. A few days later, one of our classmates had diarrhea one night, and he got up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet. Now we finally understood what was going on.
It turns out that there is a classmate in our dormitory who suffers from sleepwalking. He has some mysophobia on weekdays. As a result, he gets up every night to clean up the dirty clothes in the dormitory, wash them and hang them to dry. But after he wakes up,
But we didn’t know it at all. After our classmate quietly told us about this, we started to feel funny, but we immediately made a decision: we must not tell that classmate about this. Guess what the result was?
"
Secretary Yang smiled and said: "It's very simple. From now on, you will change your clothes often and don't even wash them yourself. Is that right?"
I smiled and said, "If the answer is correct, ten points will be added."
All laughed.
Minister Wu's wife laughed for a long time, and then said: "It's great to have a classmate like that in your dormitory. Why didn't I meet a female classmate like that when I was studying?"
I immediately said: "Actually, many things are like this. While we gain benefits, we often face risks. Although he washed our clothes for us, we never knew it. In fact, we often
In danger."
Minister Wu asked me: "What's going on?"
I said: "Our sleepwalking classmate grows watermelons at home. One night, a classmate in our dormitory suddenly woke up in the middle of the night. When he woke up, he suddenly saw that classmate patting a classmate on the head, and he
He also held a knife in his hand. He patted the classmate on the head and said: It's not cooked, it's not cooked... Then he patted the head of another classmate. The classmate who woke up was frightened.
He didn't dare to scream because he was worried that he would wake up the sleepwalking classmate and accidentally drop the knife in his hand. Therefore, he didn't dare to say anything and hurriedly pretended to be asleep.
.As a result, the sleepwalking classmate quickly photographed him. He was extremely nervous, and then he felt the classmate's hand slap on his head. He was so frightened that he almost jumped. Fortunately, he heard it immediately.
The sleepwalking classmate was saying: Not cooked enough, not cooked enough..."
I'll stop here because the joke is over.
At this time, Minister Wu’s wife asked me: “What is he doing with the knife?”
I replied: "His family grows watermelons. When he was sleepwalking, he thought our heads were watermelons. If he thought they were ripe, he would immediately cut them into pieces."
She was startled, and the chopsticks in her hand suddenly fell to the ground, "Oh my god..."
We all laughed. I then said: "Fortunately, our heads are all solid, no matter how he shoots them, they won't feel cooked, otherwise we would have been clicked by him."
Minister Wu's wife was so frightened that her face turned pale. "Mayor Feng, I will never listen to you talk about your hospital again. It's too scary."
I hurriedly said: "I won't talk about it anymore, I won't talk about it anymore." (To be continued)