My first meeting with her felt very good. She has a lively personality and speaks generously and appropriately.
Some people say that each of our bodies emits something similar to a wave with a fixed frequency. When the frequency of this wave of two people is roughly the same, the two people will easily get along with each other, and they will also be happy when they are together.
You will be in a happy mood.
Now I feel that the waves on both of us have roughly the same frequency.
The two of us held hands together and laughed at the same time.
I immediately asked her if she had ordered anything. She shook her head and said with a smile, "I don't know what you like to eat? I'm going to order it when you get here."
I smiled and said, "Let's order our favorite dishes respectively. Of course I'm the treat."
She immediately laughed, "This is a good idea. Are you treating me? Okay. Who said you are a man?"
I immediately laughed, and at the same time I felt that she was really good, and there was nothing artificial about her words or actions.
Then the waiter was called, and I asked Guan Qin to order first. She ordered two light dishes, and I ordered a piece of boiled beef tenderloin and mapo tofu. Then I ordered two more vegetarian dishes.
The food came soon. She looked at the food on the table and smiled, "Except for the vegetarian dishes, everything you ordered was spicy. You like spicy food very much, right? And...hehe!"
You also like to eat tofu. Professor Feng, I like to joke, won’t you be angry?”
I laughed and said, "How is that possible? I wasn't a doctor before? Such a joke can't be called a joke at all."
She couldn't help laughing, "Yes. We have too few male doctors in the obstetrics and gynecology department. If there are any, they are like treasures. Our department recently got one, and we joke with him every day."
I smiled and said, "Fortunately, you didn't joke with me much before."
She looked at me in surprise, "Why?"
I smiled bitterly and said, "I guess it's because I used to be boring, and I seldom communicated with my colleagues on weekdays."
She was very surprised, "You turn out to be a very boring person? You can't tell at all?"
I smiled slightly and said to her: "Once a person changes, sometimes even he can't imagine it will happen so quickly. Although the inherent characteristics of a person are important, the environment and external forces can sometimes have a great impact on a person.
For example, I heard that you studied abroad for two years, and I feel that your character is very obviously influenced by Westerners."
She nodded, "You are right. Actually, I used to have a boring personality and never liked to interact with others."
At this time, I immediately asked her: "Professor Guan, can I ask you a personal question?"
She glanced at me and said, "You want to ask me why I'm still single, right?"
Just now, when we were talking, I had already noticed the ring on her finger, and it was obvious that she had also noticed the way I looked at her finger several times. This is a woman who seems cheerful and single but is also very attentive.
I nodded and said: "I'm sorry, maybe I shouldn't ask you such a question, but I think that my scientific research project and the matter of taking care of graduate students in the future may delay you a lot of time, so I'm worried that this will affect your future.
Personal emotional life.”
She immediately chuckled, "You can rest assured that I am a celibate and will never consider getting married in this life."
I looked at her in great surprise and couldn't help but ask, "Why?"
She smiled faintly and said: "Why do women have to marry? Why can't women have their own ambitions and careers? I don't want to rely on men, let alone become a decoration around men. That's all."
I seemed to understand, and then I looked at her and said: "This seems to be what Lin Qiaozhi said. It seems that you admire her very much, right? But Lin Qiaozhi is indeed worthy of worship. She personally welcomed more than 50,000 little lives into the world.
She had no children of her own. People respected her as the 'Mother of All Babies' and commented that she was the greatest mother in the world. But it is difficult for a woman to be like her."
I'm telling the truth. I heard that in Lao Xiehe, if female doctors want to choose major departments such as internal medicine, surgery, obstetrics and gynecology, they are not allowed to get married. Nurses in Xiehe are not allowed to get married. If they want to get married, they must resign first.
In addition, there are many regulations, such as nurses must eat and live in the dormitory. If they go out, they must return to the dormitory before ten o'clock in the evening. If guests come, they can receive them in the living room, and male guests are not allowed to go upstairs.
Of course, it is no longer so strict. Female doctors and female nurses are not prohibited from getting married. The nurse building will not close until 12 o'clock in the evening. Even if it is later, you can ask the building manager to get up and open the door. Male guests can also come in after registering.
But the inscription by Wu Yingkai hanging on the wall of the nurse building, rusty and gray, seems to still be telling the tradition of yesterday.
In fact, this illustrates a problem: no matter how noble and great a person is, he cannot force others to be like him in that way. What I said to Guan Qin just now was actually to remind her of this.
She smiled faintly and said, "Professor Feng, let's not talk about this anymore. Okay?"
I quickly apologized to her and said, "I'm sorry."
Her words and her expression just now seemed to make me understand something: she, a celibate, seems to have nothing to do with her ideals. However, it is indeed impolite for me to ask someone such a question.
She smiled and said, "It's okay. I sometimes have a weird temper, so don't mind."
I smiled and said, "I think it's okay. If you don't have a temper, you won't be a human being."
She immediately covered her mouth and smiled, "What you said...well, it seems to make sense."
I felt that we couldn’t continue talking about such things. The previous conversation we had was just to harmonize the atmosphere. After all, it was the first time we met. Then I said: "Professor Guan, since you have read my previous
Now that I have written a thesis and have some understanding of my scientific research project, I will only bother you with the next application. Of course, I will write the outline of the application, but I also want to hear more of your thoughts and opinions.
I think this matter is more important than applying for a master's degree. If our scientific research projects make good progress, there will be no problem in applying for a doctoral degree if you appoint a full professor in the future."
She said: "I think your project is very good. The most important thing is that it is very practical. But do you know? You missed a good opportunity. If you had insisted on continuing the research, this topic would have won a national award.
There is definitely no problem, and the research on this topic is very advanced in the world. But now... As far as I know, scientific research institutions in Japan, the United States and other countries have already conducted preliminary scientific research on your topic.
It worked. It’s such a shame.”
I was stunned immediately, "Really?"
She nodded, "Yes. I have been checking relevant information in the library recently. At present, foreign ultrasound technology has been applied to clinical treatments, such as pregnancy termination, abortion and pregnancy reduction surgery, etc."
I suddenly realized the reason why she suddenly brought up this topic, and then said: "You are right, I did delay the prime time of researching this topic. It was just the right time when this topic was raised.
In fact, this project was proposed by a non-medical scientist, but he thought that the technology might be useful in medicine.
Later, I discovered some problems during the research process, and then I thought of further research, that is, I discovered the prospects of ultrasound technology in the treatment field. Unfortunately, I later engaged in administrative work, so I just
This topic has been delayed for a long time.
At that time, I also thought about finding someone to continue the research on this project, but as you know, applying for scientific research funds is a very complicated matter. In addition to the researcher's reputation, there are many related factors. Of course, there are
There is also a kind of selfishness on my part, because I am reluctant to take out this project of mine casually.
Professor Guan, I just heard you talk about this matter, and I seem to understand something: I have been looking for a collaborator for some time, and you only agreed to this matter now, and then you said that you had checked a lot of information.
Haha! Professor Guan, do you have new ideas about this topic? That’s why you decided to cooperate with me?”
She looked at me and said, "Professor Feng, you are really amazing. You are right. When I was reading your previous papers, I found several clinical cases. I found them very interesting. Professor Feng, you were
Are you planning to research the subject in the direction of tumor treatment?"
I was surprised in my heart because I didn't expect her to be so careful. I nodded, "Yes. My idea is to use ultrasound intervention to wrap the tumor first, and then use other methods to make the tumor disappear slowly. After the tumor
In the treatment of cancer, including surgery, the most common problem is diffusion. This method can solve this problem. This is my initial idea."
She said: "This is indeed a promising topic. However, I think clinical trials should be conducted on a variety of diseases, especially in gynecology. For example, pelvic cysts, as a common gynecological disease, currently have traditional surgeries for this disease.
The recurrence rate after treatment is high, the price is expensive, and the patient suffers a lot.
If ultrasound-guided interventional treatment is used for patients with severe pelvic adhesions, postoperative recurrence, and poor drug control with a history of multiple surgeries, the effect should be good. In addition, pelvic inflammatory masses and ectopic pregnancy should be treated.
It has very good results. Professor Feng, my idea is to start with obstetrics and gynecology first, and then expand the scope of the research. This seems more realistic and can easily produce results."
I think her idea makes sense, "Yeah. I agree with your idea." (To be continued)