I deliberately got off work early that day. Before I went to Mr. Liu's place, I asked my secretary to call his home. The main purpose was to find out if the old man was at home today. He has been busy doing that recently.
The reconstruction of an ancient temple sometimes involves going to the mountains, so I was worried that he would not be at home.
As a result, he happened to be there. This was not because I was lucky, but because the road up the mountain had not yet been repaired, it was impossible for him to climb the mountain every day. The mountain was windy and tidal, and his age could not bear it, so he had to go home to live at night.
Before I went to his house, I asked the office to prepare two bottles of good wine for me. I also asked my secretary, Xiao Xu, to go to the canteen of the office to ask if there was anything special. As a result, the canteen got some in the afternoon.
I took the few kilograms of wild silver carp and the wine to the old man's house.
I'm not being polite, I did this to express my respect for the old man. Of course the old man doesn't care about these things, but he also values the respect others have for him. For a person in my position
You should also know the rules, and I also pay great attention to this aspect. Although it is a detail, sometimes details are often very important.
When he arrived at the old man's house, he personally welcomed him out. When he saw secretary Xiao Xu holding something in his hand, he immediately said: "Mayor Feng, why are you so polite?"
I smiled and said, "Just call me Xiao Feng. I am your junior."
He smiled and said: "There are fewer and fewer young people like you who know the rules now. Your father-in-law often praises you in front of me."
I know that he may be with Lin Yi often recently, so I don't feel anything strange. Besides, Lin Yi is generally quite satisfied with me. Also, he does this to make me more popular in Shangjiang City.
Have prestige.
I smiled and said: "Old man, I haven't done well in many places. Please feel free to criticize me from now on."
He laughed and said, "You're welcome, Xiao Feng. Come on, let's go drink tea."
Then he took me under the grape trellis in the courtyard, where a pot of tea and two teacups were already brewed on the table.
He poured me a cup and said at the same time: "This is wild tea that I picked from the mountains. I roasted it myself and dried it in the sun. Try it, it tastes very good. Nowadays, tea gardens spray pesticides on tea leaves."
, this wild tea has no such problem.”
I thanked him and took a sip immediately. Sure enough, the taste of this tea was really different. When I drank it, my cheeks were filled with fragrance. I praised: "What a good tea. It's really a good tea. Old man, I can't believe it."
Your tea-making skills are also pretty good."
I sincerely praised him. He smiled and said: "Not to mention, I have seriously learned this technology. One year I went to Hangzhou on a business trip and visited their tea-making technology in Longjing Village on the edge of the West Lake.
Then I learned a few tricks from the local tea farmers. The most important thing in making tea is the heat. Haha! There are so many things to pay attention to here."
I came to see him today for other reasons, not just to chat, so I didn’t answer his words and just smiled and said, “That’s how it should be.”
He looked at me and said, "Xiao Feng, why did you come to see me today?"
I nodded. I wasn't surprised at all that he was so sensitive. My perfunctory behavior just now reminded him that I probably wasn't here just for chatting. For this old man, he has already reached the point where he is well-versed in human relations.
It is the result of one's accumulated experience.
I smiled and said: "Old man, you are really sharp-eyed. Indeed, I have something to come to you for today. You won't blame me for being too purposeful, right?"
He laughed and said, "Xiao Feng, I know you are very busy. You just became a full-time employee, and Shangjiang is in a critical period of urban construction and various reforms. How can you have the leisure to come to my place for tea and chat on weekdays? You,
Just like your father-in-law said, he is too honest."
I looked at him and smiled: "Old man, are you praising me or criticizing me?"
He laughed again, and then said: "Xiao Feng, to be honest, I really like you as a person. You became the mayor at a young age, and you are able to be neither arrogant nor impetuous, which is very rare.
To win the respect of others is not to use power to suppress others, but to be more humble. You have done this very well. Xiao Feng, I am not flattering you, I have no need at all
.I now understand a truth: Anyone’s excellence is justified and is not just a matter of luck. Okay, let’s stop chatting. Tell me, why did you come to me today?”
I immediately asked: "Old man, I heard that you are very familiar with an old revolutionary named An Lao in our Shangjiang City?"
He immediately smiled and said: "That's quite familiar. This old guy has a weird temper. What? You have something to do with him?"
I immediately laughed because I thought what he just said was somewhat humorous. Then I said: "Old man, I just recently discovered that I made a mistake: since I arrived in Shangjiang City, I gave the job of veteran cadres to
I ignored it. It is said that Mr. An is the most famous old comrade in our Shangjiang City. Of course I should visit him. But I also heard that his temper is a bit weird, and I am worried that he will not see me. In that case, I will be too embarrassed.
.Haha! Old man, I heard that you have a good relationship with him, isn’t this? I have no choice but to ask you to come forward."
But he immediately began to ponder, "This matter... Xiao Feng, let me take the time to meet with him first and then talk about it. Well, or so. I will invite him over right away. Today
Let's drink together in the evening. But Xiao Feng, this old guy hates people who show off, so you have to be prepared for him to ignore you in a while."
I smiled bitterly and said, "Old man, do you think I'm the kind of person who's putting on airs?"
He immediately laughed, "I didn't express it clearly. What I mean is that this person really dislikes the frivolity of today's officials. What I'm worried about is that he thinks you are too young and will think that you...
.Haha! Forget it, let’s not talk about it. As long as I’m here, he won’t go so far.”
I don’t know why, but at this moment, there was a kind of panic in my heart. I said: "Let my driver take you to pick him up?"
He shook his head and said: "No. By the way, you'd better ask your secretary and driver to leave first. I'll just take a rickshaw to pick him up."
His words made me understand immediately: If I brought the driver and secretary with me today, the old man would regard it as a pretense. And I also realized that when he went to invite the old man later, he would definitely not
Will tell him I'm here.
Thinking of this, I immediately said to him: "Old man, let me leave for a while, and I will come back after you invite him. It's as if I suddenly met you and him today. What do you think?
May I?"
He thought for a while, then nodded and said: "This is better."
Then I said that I would take him to the outside of An's hometown in my car, but he firmly disagreed. He said, "It's not far, I'll be there in a moment."
So I left with the driver and secretary. Taking this opportunity, I walked around the city and sat in the car.
This city has changed a lot compared to when I first came here. At that time, the city gave me the impression of being dilapidated, quiet, and chaotic. Now, the dilapidation and chaos still exist here.
But it's changing.
After the improvement of urban traffic and hawkers, there are no longer parking spaces on the streets and hawkers selling goods at will on the roadside. The traffic lights on the road have also become standardized. The city now at least looks better than
I felt much more comfortable before.
This incident also illustrates one point: everywhere and everything must have rules and regulations. The beauty of a society should first be based on rules.
When it comes to rules, some people may be disgusted with them. However, wherever there are groups of people living, they need to be restricted and restricted by rules. For example, a family has family rules, a state has national laws, and even two or three people share the same
The working department or team must also have minimum behavioral rules to restrict, guide and standardize. Otherwise, "there will be no rules and circles". In the final analysis, rules are systems or charters that are stipulated for everyone to abide by. Rules
Under these rules, everyone will be restrained and feel uncomfortable and uneasy. However, we never know when we will suddenly discover that the rules will become extremely kind and beautiful.
An American teacher took students to visit a museum. The teacher asked the students to keep their hands in their pockets during the visit and announced that if anyone took their hands out during the visit, regardless of whether they touched things or not, the visit would be suspended.
.During the entire visit, the children's hands were always in their pockets. Western children can do what they like within the limits allowed by the rules, but going beyond the rules is not allowed, because your freedom must not affect others.
Freedom, advocating and adhering to rules, in the final analysis, show the degree of civilization of a country.
There is also such a story: a professional Taekwondo player had a dispute with an ordinary person. The professional player abided by the rules of the game and only hit areas that could not cause harm; but the ordinary person did not understand this and hit the player on the head.
Stop, the Taekwondo player was unfortunately sent to the hospital, and the miserable ordinary person who didn't follow the rules was finally punished by the law.
Although this incident may seem ridiculous on the surface, the essence it reflects is profound. Is it really wrong to follow the rules? Will it definitely bring negative consequences to oneself?
In fact, the final and most objective answer to these questions is: it is correct to abide by the rules; those who do not abide by the rules, like the ordinary person in the story, will surely be punished with the most severe punishment by the rules.
In our real life, rules are everywhere. Those basic rules of all life make our society and our lives more harmonious, inclusive and orderly...
These rules are like every drop of water eventually gathering into an orderly river. At the bottom of this surging river of rules, some are still sharp-edged and some are smooth and rounded.
"Unwritten rules" are also rules, but such rules are extremely harmful.
The so-called "hidden rules", as the name suggests, are invisible, not explicitly stipulated in the text, and are established by convention, but they are widely recognized, actually work, and people must "follow" them. Because of their wide scope, they are also
People agree that it can cause huge harm: destroy fair competition, destroy real rules, destroy social order, and there is no such thing as justice and fairness... These dark, shady so-called "rules" make it impossible to truly safeguard society.
When the rules of order become a fiction, disorder of order and loss of fairness and justice will inevitably follow. The more people recognize it, the greater the harm.
Unfortunately, the situation in our society is exactly like this today. Hidden rules prevail, but explicit rules are often ignored. (To be continued)