From this perspective, a person's curiosity about privacy starts from here, from curiosity about a strange world, from feeling strange about his own origins.
In fact, even if parents follow the most standard and scientific methods, they cannot fully explain to a young child how a child is born. This is because children can always unexpectedly ask questions that make adults jaw-dropping.
For example, in response to the adult's statement "You came out of your mother's calf", the child will ask: "There is no hole in the thigh? How did I get out of my thigh?"; if you say "You came out of your mother's leg";
When I defecate, it comes out." He will further ask: "Mom, when I defecate, why can't the baby come out?"
What else can adults do to such a question besides being dumbfounded and speechless? As a result, adults' answers will always fail to satisfy children, and the secret of a child's birth becomes the child's first absolute privacy.
With such repeated accumulation, more and more questions and privacy form a kind of pressure, leading to the formation of children's curiosity and desire to explore privacy.
We can even say that human beings are born with curiosity, and are born with a need for privacy. Children snooping on their parents' privacy is a normal desire in the process of growing up. If a person deciphers all the emotional privacy of his parents in childhood, theoretically speaking,
, when this child grows up, he will not be overly interested in other people's privacy.
Only those whose childhood snooping desires were not sufficiently satisfied will crazily snoop into other people's privacy. In other words, adults' snooping on privacy is a relic of children's needs, the result of unsatisfied childhood snooping desires, and a sign of personality.
A sign of immaturity. If we carefully analyze the behavior of adults snooping on privacy, we will have a deeper impression on the above summary.
People are not all interested in snooping into the privacy of other people or celebrities. People seem to be more interested in the negative aspects or negative privacy of others.
For example, the writer Sanmao's love story was fabricated, the singer Li Ming committed suicide by taking pills for love, and Princess Diana had an affair with the captain of the guard. Private rumors spread the fastest. People were angry at the shortcomings of these people, but also felt sorry for them.
They are happy to talk about it and spread it around. They will even say disdainfully: "What kind of celebrity? Bah! Worthless!".
This scene cannot help but remind us of the second stage of children snooping into their parents' privacy. This stage is a stage that focuses on the flaws and negative aspects of the parents. Through "de-idealization", the idealized image of the parents in the heart is eliminated.
, making the image of parents more realistic. But the parents have been replaced by celebrities.
It can be said that people's snooping on the negative privacy of celebrities is a continuation of snooping on the negative privacy of their parents. By understanding the negative privacy of celebrities, people can remove the ideal and perfect aura of celebrities and see a real reality with flaws and advantages.
people.
From this, we can understand that celebrities, like their parents, are also human beings, not gods. They also have flaws of one kind or another. Like their parents, they sometimes become vulnerable and even lose control or lose control.
There are brief moments of mental breakdown; they also have emotions, they can be trapped by love, and they can bow down for a bucket of rice; they can also be overcome by poverty, they can be pessimistic and disappointed, and even want to give up their lives; great heroes or great men.
, there is also a despicable and dirty dark and disgraceful side.
Celebrities are the same as our parents. In some aspects they resemble a saint and heavenly being, while in other aspects they resemble a villain and the devil. By peeking into the privacy of celebrities, we take the stars, saints, and gods that symbolize our parents from
The altar wrapped in privacy was pulled down and brought down to the same level as us ordinary people.
This leads us to a conclusion that seems cruel but is very real. Those people we used to be superior to are actually just like us at heart. By peeking into privacy, we have to face the disillusionment of the myths and ideals of our parents, others, and celebrities. Initially,
, the disillusionment of this ideal will make us very painful, because the perfection of our parents or celebrities was, after all, the pillar of our lives.
However, after the pain is over, it will make us sober, so that we will no longer feel too inferior when facing our parents and celebrities, and will make us take back the hopes and expectations we have invested in our parents and celebrities, and return them to ourselves.
Bear the pressure of your own life and control your own destiny by yourself, not your parents and celebrities. It can be said that a large part of our self-confidence is born from the denial of parents and celebrities, and the accompanying self-affirmation
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Therefore, it is natural and human nature to like to pry into privacy.
Not all snooping desires for privacy stem from the need for growth and maturity. There are also a very small number of people who satisfy a twisted and perverted primitive desire through the process of snooping into other people's privacy. The more typical one is sexual addiction.
A sexual deviant psychological disorder.
People with this kind of nymphomaniac tendency are more interested in collecting and snooping on other people's sexual privacy. They focus on the details of sexual privacy, and even exaggerate it to make the plot and content of the privacy full of pornography and sadism.
When they describe sexual privacy to others, they appear to be elated, lively, salivating, and extremely intoxicated, as if they have experienced it themselves. They will carefully and repeatedly read all the details of sexual privacy, even to the point of reciting it word for word.
come out.
This kind of person, after publicizing other people's sexual privacy in a big way, will gnash his teeth and denounce those people as husbands and wives. In this way, it seems that he is a defender of morality, defending the purity of sex and love, and being selfless
To cleanse away the mud and turbid water in human nature.
He will even use his rich imagination to process all kinds of simple sexual privacy into dramatic, erotic, and provocative sexual content. In street tabloids, many incredible sexual privacy stories are prevalent.
, is the product of the existence and need of nymphomaniac. In Starr's report on the Clinton scandal, the excessive detailed description of the sexual intercourse process, which has little to do with the investigation, may also be an indirect product of the nymphomaniac mentality.
No wonder Lewinsky lamented, "I feel like I have been raped by the public."
Of course, I don't think Guan Qin is the type of person with a mental disorder. But now, I suddenly realized a problem: I have to find a way to stop her from talking nonsense when she goes back.
This issue is a big deal to me, because once this matter is rumored, it will probably have a huge impact on my becoming a regular employee. Because what happened to me this time is ultimately a kind of damage to the organization.
cheat.
This is very likely to happen. For people in the officialdom, there will always be people around us who are hostile and jealous of us. Especially me, who has reached the position of mayor and the level of the main office at such a young age.
Therefore, at this time, I suddenly felt a deep worry in my heart.
As expected, Guanqin didn't continue to ask me about that matter. She answered me: "Tomorrow we will go to the Department of Medicine of the University of Sydney together. We will go to the Sydney Opera House in the afternoon or evening."
I said: "You can go to Sydney University alone, I want to take a rest."
She looked at me and said: "Mayor Feng, I think the best thing is for you to go with me. Then we can take some photos, including a photo with a professor from the Department of Medicine of the University of Sydney. That way it will be easier for you to talk when you go back.
Yes. What do you think?"
Her words seemed to convey a message to me: she would not tell others about my incident because she was thinking about me.
But I think her reminder to me was kind, and I immediately realized that her reminder was very important to me. I should have been able to think of such a thing, but I ignored it due to my laziness.
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This laziness of mine comes from the extreme pleasure I have had with Hong Ya in the past few days. Gentleness will wear away a person's will and make a person numb and inert.
So I am very grateful to Guan Qin for reminding me, "Dr. Guan, thank you. Okay, let's go together tomorrow. When is the return trip of the tour group?"
She replied: "The day after tomorrow in the afternoon. We can stay in Guangzhou for one night and return to Jiangnan the day after tomorrow."
I asked her: "The travel agency won't arrange it like this, right? If you stay in Guangzhou for one night, their costs will increase, and the air tickets after midnight will be cheaper."
She asked me: "You don't want our tour group to have an impression on you, do you?"
I immediately understood that she was actually reminding me again. It would be safer if we stayed in Guangzhou for one more night and then returned to Jiangnan alone. Because I did not participate in the tour group's activities, people
They won't pay attention to me, and when returning from Sydney to Guangzhou, they usually won't notice me because the people on the plane are not just people from this tour group.
Her reminder seemed to be hinting to me once again: she would keep it a secret for me.
I immediately felt relieved. However, I was still a little uneasy. I was thinking: How can I clearly express to her her intention to keep my secret secret in a way?
Let’s talk about it tomorrow. I couldn’t find a suitable way to do it at the moment, because I couldn’t directly tell her the real purpose of my coming here this time. Of course, I have realized that she would not believe what I said before, unless
She is a fool.
Guan Qin and I chatted for a while, and then I said that I would go find the tour guide to arrange a room for me. Guan Qin said that she had asked the tour guide to arrange the room, and then she handed me the room card.
It's different when you have female colleagues. Their attentiveness always makes people feel warm. (To be continued)