But I told myself that I had to tell her about this, and then I said: "Mom, I came back specially to tell you something."
She looked at me in surprise, "Oh? Just tell me."
I said, "Mom, Yu Min's man was in a car accident. He may not be able to stand up for the rest of his life."
The mother looked shocked, "Ah? How could this happen? Laugh, what do you mean? Are you planning to let Yu Min abandon her man now? No, even though she has your child, the two of you can live together.
It's best to be together, but this won't work, we can't do that kind of thing, it will hurt our morality."
I hurriedly said: "Mom, where did you think you were? How could I do something like that? Is that so? I still have a restaurant, right? It's the one opposite the villa we used to live in. I want to
Let Yu Min run the restaurant, so that the lives of her, her children, and her family will be protected."
The mother nodded, "This is a good idea. Our family doesn't lack the money. After all, the child is your own flesh and blood, and you have to shoulder this responsibility. Smile, you can decide this matter. Why do you do it?
ask me?"
I said: "Mom, that's it. Yu Min's man was injured and is in a very bad mood now. We are worried that he will suspect this matter, not to mention that the child looks so much like me. So, my idea is to ask you to go
Sign that contract with Yu Min so that her man will not suspect anything. Of course, the contract is just a formality and we will not accept money from them in the future."
The mother immediately understood, "Okay, that's okay, you ask her to come and sign with me. By the way, you ask her to bring the child. I want to take a good look at the child. That is my grandson.
Why……"
I said, "Okay, I'll just tell her. Let's go home in a few days on the weekend, and then I'll ask her to come with the kids."
Mother never ceases to sigh.
The weekend soon came, and I had already made an agreement with Yu Min to let her bring her children to my house for dinner at noon on Saturday, and sign the contract at the same time.
She has already brought her child back from Jiangbei and has completed the hospitalization procedures at the Provincial Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine.
My mother got up early in the morning to buy groceries and started busying herself when she got home. And she didn't let the nanny interfere at all. She said she would cook a few good dishes herself to entertain Yu Min and the children.
When I saw my mother acting like this, I felt very uncomfortable.
It was not even eleven o'clock when Yu Min brought the child to my house. After seeing the child, my mother hurriedly picked it up and couldn't help but look at it, "It's so similar, he looks more and more like his father when he was a child.
"
I hurriedly said: "Mom..."
The mother smiled and said: "What's the matter? Are there any outsiders at home? Although Xiao Zhang is the nanny of the family, she is just like the rest of the family. Xiao Yu, I am happy, you won't be surprised, right?"
Yu Min blushed and smiled, but the smile was unnatural.
The child does look like me when I was a child, just like a template. Yuanyuan is very sensible now, he is not as jealous as before, and he even took the initiative to reach out and hold his brother's little hand.
I handed the contract I had already printed to my mother, "Mom, please sign this with Xiao Yu."
The mother said: "Why are you in a hurry? Xiaoyu and I will talk first. Xiaoyu, hold the child and go to my room with me, and we will talk."
Yu Min blushed and agreed. I looked at my mother in surprise, and my mother smiled and said to me: "Go and look at the soup in the pot. I will start cooking when I come out."
I could only nod with a wry smile, but I was still surprised: What was she going to say when she called Yu Min in?
When I got to the kitchen, I saw that my mother had not finished washing several dishes, so I finished the previous preparations for her.
After leaving the kitchen, Yuanyuan came to me and asked: "Dad, why did grandma talk to that aunt behind closed doors? I want to play with that little brother."
I said: "You go in, grandma will agree."
The child was very happy, "Really?"
I nodded to him, "Really. Grandma loves you the most. She will definitely agree."
The child went happily. He knocked on his grandma's door and said, "Grandma, my name is Yuanyuan. I want to come in and play with my brother."
Sure enough, the mother opened the door quickly, but she closed the door after the child entered. I was even more curious: What were they talking about inside?
Half an hour later, my mother and Yu Min came out of the room with their two children. I was very curious and immediately asked Yu Min in a low voice, "What did she say to you?"
Yu Min was about to answer me, but her mother immediately said to her: "Don't tell him! Laugh, don't ask either!"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly, but the curiosity in my heart became even stronger.
Mother went into the kitchen. Before she went in, she said to me and Yu Min again: "Xiao, don't ask her, Xiao Yu, don't tell him either."
I smiled bitterly and said repeatedly: "I won't ask, I promise I won't ask."
Yu Min said to her mother: "Let me help you. Brother Feng, hold the child."
I was just wishing for it, so I hurriedly took the child from her hands, hugged it, and then went outside the house. The weather was very good today, the sunshine in the spring was warm, and I specially placed a set of beach sand on the lawn outside the house.
There are chairs and a big parasol.
I carried the child there. Yuanyuan followed me out. He stood in front of me, tilting his head and looking at me. He looked so cute. I smiled and asked him, "Why are you looking at me like this?"
"
The child asked me seriously: "Dad, do you really want to know what grandma and Aunt Yu said?"
My heart suddenly moved: Yes, wasn't the child inside when they were talking? Immediately, I said to the child: "Then tell me quietly, don't let grandma know."
The son said: "Yes. But, Dad, you have to reward me."
I shook my head and said: "I can't reward you for this matter, because I am your father and you are my son. Tell me what you know. This is what you should do. Of course, you don't have to tell me.
"
I believe that things like this must not be exchanged for rewards. In that case, it is actually cultivating children's habit of informing.
There are many problems in our education, and one of the biggest problems is that teachers intentionally or unintentionally cultivate the habit of informing students.
The main job of many student leaders is to inform.
However, few people think about such issues: In our entire education process, what kind of moral concepts should we teach students? Teach them to learn to whistle-blow from an early age and benefit from whistle-blowing? Teach them to learn from an early age
Are you going to cling to power and give up your own principles?
A classic Hollywood film about the growth of middle school students is called "Knowing People by Smell". The general plot of the story is this: a poor high school student suddenly faces the biggest test in his life: either betray his classmates or expose him.
The fact that they had played pranks on the president so that they could go to Harvard and get a scholarship or be kicked out.
Such a huge test made the child almost unbearable, but he insisted on one thing: "I will never betray anyone." When he was about to be expelled, a lieutenant general who lost his eyes during the Vietnam War came to his school to
A wonderful speech about loyalty and faith saved his fate.
The blind general said: "If our schools educate children from an early age to betray their friends, and let them think that betraying and informing can gain benefits, and let them get an education that destroys their character and integrity and becomes an elite, then the foundation of our country will be destroyed.
will begin to decay."
This is something contrary to our education. For decades, we have been instilling this into our students: In front of authority, individuals should give everything for free, from spirit to body. Unprincipled obedience is in our system
Above all else, it is also implemented in early childhood education, student education, adult education, and vocational education.
Scientists once conducted such an experiment: hanging a bunch of bananas on the heads of a group of monkeys in a cage. The result was that if any monkey touched the banana, all the monkeys would be beaten. Later, any monkey would be beaten.
If you touch a banana, all the monkeys will beat it.
The banana hanging in the air is not called a banana, but collective interests, national interests, and people's interests. This false banana fooled everyone. The monkeys therefore share the same hatred and naively and firmly believe that personal interests are really tied to
If you touch those bananas, you are violating me.
Even if you watch the bananas being enjoyed by the guards in a big way, you will mentally agree that you have your own share there after all. And any monkey who dares to try to get his own bananas will be punished for violating the interests of the group.
, suffered abuse from managers and isolation and group beatings from monkey groups.
Our education has been criticized by many parties, but it has never been changed. Why is this? Because this kind of education is the best way to control monkeys. There are monitors and students on duty in the class, and captains and student union presidents in the school.
Children begin to fear and admire power from an early age.
To establish the absolute authority of the teacher, the teacher makes his favorite students the class cadres, and obviously gives different attention and preferential treatment to the favorites, thereby stimulating them to express themselves, compete for favors, and use blacklists to obtain information that they do not know.
Lists, instigating children to write small notes to report, everything is for the convenience of management.
From the beginning of the formation of the world view, constant encouragement and harm have prompted monkeys to develop awe and obedience to authority. Their fear of authority has become a habit, and their respect for power has become instinctive, and they have no ability to persist independently in the face of right and wrong.
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In primary school, whoever is the most active can be the squad leader. In middle school, whoever studies the hardest and cooperates with teachers the most can join the league early and become a class leader. In college, whoever is the best at messing with teachers and making friends, whoever
You will have the best chance of joining the party, participating in student union work, and then getting better recommendations for graduation.
Because the facts clearly tell them that the only chance to escape the lack of bananas is to become the monkey that managers like more, or to be promoted to managers. This will become the ultimate truth given to them by the entire education.
What about the basic good qualities that should be part of human nature, the basics of morality, and the basic good qualities of a nation? When a nation collectively becomes informers, monitoring each other and waiting to be betrayed, faith, honesty, integrity, these are the must for the progress and civilization of a nation.
What will happen when the cornerstone becomes the first thing that must be destroyed?
Maybe they have forgotten that in the past when the country was closed to the country, a disabled and sick nation might be able to live alone, but in today's globalization, under the silent gaze of human beings' shining eyes under the sky, a nation with moral decay
What will be the fate of a nation whose faith has collapsed, a nation that does anything in the dark? (To be continued)