Many of us often dream and even wake up from nightmares. Some people are also worried that nightmares will bring bad luck to them, causing psychological fear and uneasiness.
In fact, dreaming is a normal psychological phenomenon that occurs during sleep. Under normal circumstances, the nerve cells in the brain are in a state of inhibition during sleep. This inhibition process is sometimes complete and sometimes not complete. If it is not completely inhibited,
, there are still a few areas of nerve cells in the cerebral cortex that are excited, and people will have dreams. Because the activity of a few cells loses the control and regulation of the entire cerebral cortex in the awakening state, certain fragments of memory become active without restraint.
There may be all kinds of strange dreams that are different from normal psychological activities. At this time, if the nerve cells related to language and movement are also in an excited state, not only will dreams appear, but sleep talking or sleepwalking will occur.
The latest relevant foreign research shows that about one-third of a person's life is spent dreaming. Nightmares are not directly related to good or bad luck. Regarding the content of dreams, it is generally believed that the main ones are: first, thinking every day;
Dreams occur at night. Some people like to watch some thrilling and terrifying videos or novels. These stimulations form memory representations, and once they enter the dream state, they are prone to have related dreams. Secondly, dreams often reflect our
The subconscious mind is the anxiety, fear, or desire deep in our hearts.
The meaning expressed by my dream is very obvious: anxiety and desire.
According to traditional or superstitious beliefs, having a lot of garbage at home in a dream represents a sign of getting rich. But this is not the psychological explanation. From a psychological point of view, if I dreamed about a lot of garbage at home, it is because I
Subconsciously, I am dissatisfied with my current life status, and I am even more worried that my boss will see my poor living status: single, personal life is in chaos. Because of this, it appears in my dream that I want to try my best to clean up but...
But the situation cannot be cleaned up no matter what. In other words, I know clearly in my heart: I cannot solve or avoid the chaotic living situation I am currently experiencing.
From this, the following dream can be easily explained: First, in my heart, I long to be appreciated by a greater leader. Second, I hope that the leader will pay more attention to my talents and ignore the things you have in my life.
Check.
The meaning expressed by this dream is actually that simple. Of course, only I know what I feel in my heart, because these are my most real thoughts. Although I don’t deliberately think like that on weekdays, such thoughts
It already exists in my subconscious mind.
This, after all, is still an anxiety deep in my heart.
After I woke up, I thought about it for a long time in bed. Until I got up, I still couldn't let go of my dream, because I knew in my heart that I couldn't overcome the problems I had. For example, I
Relationship with Lin Yu.
Now, I am trying to reduce the chances of meeting her and being alone with her as much as possible, including the last conversation between Secretary Rong and me. I never told her. But I know that if I completely cut off from her from now on,
Relationship, that is simply impossible.
I can only sigh in my heart. But I also know that many people actually have the same helplessness as me, but the helplessness each of us faces is different.
But there is one thing that makes me very happy: Liu Baobao never called me again or sent me another text message. I know that it was actually my words that night and my early departure that played a role.
.My performance that day made her understand something in her heart: I have no other meaning for her at all.
There was one thing I didn't expect: my cousin, whom I hadn't seen for many years, came back from the United States, and he called me directly.
He is my uncle's son.
To a large extent, my destiny has something to do with my uncle: if he hadn’t had to let me go to medical school, maybe my life would have been in a different situation. Of course, there is no possibility in this world for anyone.
It is impossible for fate to happen again.
My cousin is only one year younger than me. After graduating from high school, he was admitted to Fudan University. The year he graduated from college, he was admitted to a university in the United States to study as a graduate student. There was no news after that. I only know that my uncle and aunt also went to the United States.
, their family has never had any contact with us since then. Because of this, I had no way to notify my father when he passed away.
So, I was very surprised when I received this call from my cousin, and I was also very pleasantly surprised, "How did you know my phone number?"
He told me: "I went to the hospital where you used to work, and the leader of the hospital told me your phone number. Brother Xiao, you are very powerful. I heard that you are already the mayor."
I was even more happy, "Are you back? Tell me where you are now? I'll pick you up right away."
But he told me: "I am on my way to Jiangbei Province now. I will go there to do some things. I will come back tomorrow."
I felt a little disappointed because I really wanted to see him right away. I said, "Well, give me a call before you come back tomorrow and I will pick you up."
He said: "Tomorrow afternoon, I will go directly to your house then. I haven't seen my uncle and his mother-in-law for many years."
I suddenly felt sad, "My father has passed away. Where is my uncle? Is he okay?"
He said in a surprised voice, "Huh?...My father and my mother both passed away. Hey! Let's talk about it after we meet."
He hung up the phone, and I stayed there immediately: No wonder, I said, why we haven't contacted each other for so many years. This world is really cruel sometimes, and such cruelty can only be felt after the death of one's own relatives.
It feels so real, and such a reality will make people feel a deep pain in their hearts.
The next day I went to the provincial capital to do some work. Anyway, I had a lot of things to do with the departments in the province. Now, I am already familiar with the departments in the province, and my relationship with the heads of the major departments is also good.
Getting along very well.
In the beginning, I always invited them to dinner, but now, whenever I go to their place, as long as they have nothing special to do, they will invite me to dinner. At 11 o'clock in the morning, I went to the provincial business office
After we finished talking about the matter, the director of the Provincial Commercial Committee asked me to have lunch. But today I refused because I thought I would have something to do in the afternoon.
I went home for lunch at noon, and that’s when I told my mother about my cousin’s return to China. My mother was very happy and excited. She asked about my uncle and aunt, “It’s true that they have been away for so many years. Why?
No news at all? Could it be that when they went to a foreign country, they didn’t even have basic human relations? I heard that foreigners have a very indifferent concept of family ties, is that true?"
It was difficult for me to answer her questions like this, and I didn’t know how to answer them for a while. I said, “I don’t know what the specific situation is. I just had a phone call with my cousin yesterday, and he said that he
I have to go to Jiangbei for business and won't come back until this afternoon. Mom, when he comes, just ask him slowly."
My cousin called me just after three o'clock in the afternoon. He told me that he had already set off from Jiangbei and took a long-distance bus. I told him that the long-distance bus from Jiangbei takes about two hours.
Sometimes I will drive to the long-distance station to pick him up.
He said politely that it was not necessary and asked me to tell him my home address and he could just take a taxi there. I suddenly felt that he was as polite as an outsider and said to him with a smile: "You haven't come back for so many years.
I've passed by and the road is unfamiliar, so I'll pick you up."
He didn't say anything else.
This is often the case between people. Even if we are close relatives, as long as we do not interact with each other for a long time, our relationship will become unfamiliar and we will become just like strangers.
I drove out after four o'clock in the afternoon. My mother went out to buy groceries and she hadn't come back yet.
I know my mother is very happy today, and she will definitely cook a lot of dishes. For people of my mother’s generation, they always like to cook a lot of dishes at home to express their enthusiasm. Because of this, I didn’t cook a lot of dishes tonight.
The place to eat was arranged in the hotel, and the driver was not brought along.
In front of my cousin, I am his brother, not an official. If I appear in front of him as an official, it will make him think that I am fake, and it will also directly affect the relationship between us.
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Of course I don't want this, because in my eyes, family love should be more important than other things. Some people say that many people show indifference in front of family love. In fact, I am also like this many times.
However, I also know that indifference is actually just an appearance. Most of us still care deeply in our hearts. And many times the so-called enthusiasm is actually pretended, and pretended enthusiasm will make people feel more fake.
Only then did the mother stop nagging. (To be continued)