I was secretly surprised and looked at him, "You mean, your sister-in-law took the initiative in this matter? Why? Your wife is not her biological sister?"
He answered me: "Later I also asked her why she was so nice to me. She told me that I gave her the money to go to college and I found a job for her, so she was always grateful to me.
.Actually, I know. The main reason is that her sister is too strong. My little sister-in-law feels that I am pitiful, so she gives me so much tenderness."
In fact, I know that this problem is not that simple. Many aunts are because they are unhappy in marriage or love. They see their sisters living so happily, but they are not. They are also sisters, why?
Will the sister meet someone better than herself? With this kind of comparison mentality, she will regard her brother-in-law as an imaginary lover, hoping that she will be the one who is loved, and will fall in love with him over time. Also, some people say that there is a genetic element in this.
Due to factors, sisters often fall in love with the same type of men. But that’s not necessarily the case. In the final analysis, things between men and women are still a matter of “love.” Who can explain clearly many of these things?
I sighed and said: "Originally, I was going to criticize you today. Forget it, what is the use of criticism on such a thing? Your most critical question now is how to deal with this matter next. First, you
Will your wife continue to quarrel with you? Secondly, what about your aunt? After all, this matter has been resolved. It doesn’t matter that you are a man, but your aunt will still have to get married and have children in the future. You
It should be clear that things like this will soon be known to many people. Who will marry her in the future? Moreover, if she continues to work and live here, it will definitely cast a shadow on your woman's psychology. This
You have to handle this matter well. If it gets worse, I won't be able to help you."
He didn't speak. I looked at him in surprise: Could it be that this guy is really a lover? Could it be that he would also perform a drama that only wants beauty but not "kingdom"?
I asked him tentatively: "Is it possible that you really want to divorce your woman? Are you willing to abandon your wife for your little sister-in-law? Are you even willing to give up your current career for this?"
He sighed and shook his head, "I don't know..."
I was suddenly stunned: I didn’t expect this guy to really have such thoughts. I looked at him and said, “Brother, you have to think about this matter. Think about it carefully, if you really want to have sex with your aunt
If your sister continues to be well, from now on you and her will have no choice but to completely break away from your entire existing family, including your own parents, your father-in-law and mother-in-law, your children, your career, all of which will become your
Eternal past, that is to say, all your efforts in the first half of your life will be ruined. That's all. Have you ever thought about it? You and your sister-in-law can really grow old together? You can guarantee that you and your sister-in-law will live together forever.
In the next five, ten, or twenty years, your aunt will no longer touch her right hand with her left hand? I think you and your current wife did not expect that the current situation would occur when you got married, right? Then
You are just as passionate as you were back then, right?"
He still didn't speak.
I suddenly became irritated and said, "Okay, you can figure it out yourself. I'll give you three days to think about this matter."
Immediately, I stood up and found that he was still silent and in a state of despair. I couldn't help but regret a little: this person was so unable to take up and let go of his own emotional issues. It seemed that I had misjudged him before.
I think any one of us may waver or hesitate on personal emotional issues. But his situation is different. After all, he is facing his wife and aunt now, and he should make an immediate decision on such an issue.
, the longer the time drags on, the smaller the room for recovery in the future. If he can't even judge such an outcome, it completely shows that there is a problem with this person's decision-making ability. The emotional problems of each of us are very complicated, and I completely
Admit this, but he should realize one more thing: if some things cannot be decided immediately, they will end up being a mess in the end.
However, when I saw his hesitant look just now, I couldn't help but wonder: Could this guy's sister be a fairy? Otherwise, why would it be so difficult for him to let go of her?
Now, I'm still a little angry in my heart: Secretary Xiang Rong was the one who guaranteed this matter, and now it's fine, but this guy doesn't understand my painstaking efforts at all, and is still so hesitant! In this case,
From now on, even if I really want to help him, it will be difficult for me to speak for him again.
Whatever he wants, under the current circumstances, his personal destiny is actually completely in his own hands. I sighed in my heart.
As his superior, I can be regarded as doing my best to be benevolent. In fact, until now, I still don’t think this is a quality problem. I always think that it is really difficult to distinguish between good and bad things between men and women.
Explain your mistakes clearly.
Fortunately, the director called me the next day and told me that he and his wife had reconciled. I happened to be free at this time, so I said to him: "Come to my office and tell me
, I have something else to ask you."
Although this matter is not a big deal for me as the mayor, I really value this director. Our current transportation work in Shangjiang City is very important, and I especially need this person to do those complicated tasks.
And now it seems that he is still a person who can control his emotions and career.
At least so far, I have never met anyone who would give up everything for the so-called love. Sometimes I think to myself, if there really is such a person, I will definitely admire him from the bottom of my heart.
, because I can’t do it, and I also believe that most people can’t do it.
Now that he has made a decision about his own matter, I should remind him to further handle the next few things. Otherwise, he may still be dragged down by the sequelae of this matter. In that case, no matter what
It is very detrimental to his personal future and to our next transportation work in Shangjiang City.
When he arrived at my office, he was alone.
At first I thought he would bring his wife, but now it seems I was wrong.
Although I have studied psychology and have some understanding of other people's thoughts, I still often make mistakes.
In fact, I also know that even experts in psychology cannot grasp the true heart of others. Psychology only studies the laws of the psychological development of ordinary people. (To be continued)