I suddenly laughed out loud, "Love? Are you going to lie to a ghost? Shiyu, if you really have love for him, I won't say anything and I will never advise you again. You are obviously deceiving yourself."
She was silent for a moment, and then suddenly said to me: "Okay, I admit that I don't love him. But Feng Xiao, are you willing to marry me? You are already married, and you are still sleeping with me, and I am definitely not the only woman.
.Feng Xiao, you didn’t agree to persuade me because you couldn’t bear to leave me, right?”
The anger in my heart was rising, but it immediately subsided. Because what she said was right, I really felt a little uncomfortable when she was like this, and... I was also a little jealous.
"I'm sorry, maybe I shouldn't say that." She glanced at me again and said in a low voice, "But Feng Xiao, let me tell you the truth. I feel that I am still young and can afford to gamble and spend money.
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"Have you ever thought about your father? How embarrassing will it be for him if you do this? He is the president of the university, how will he meet his leaders and colleagues in the future?" I asked her, secretly feeling uncomfortable for President Zhang.
"I'm living for myself, not for him." She said lightly.
"Shiyu, you're wrong to think this way!" I immediately increased my voice and tone, "Your parents gave birth to you, raised you, spent so much money to send you to study abroad, and later passed various
The career pursuit of a relationship that is as satisfying as possible. Then who do you think they are living for? Poetry, I think we should not only talk about the principles of life, but also from our duty as children, we should fully consider our parents.
.Your father loves you so much, but what did you give him in return? It was sadness, embarrassment, and the death of his career! Maybe you think my words are too harsh, but I don’t think they are too harsh at all, because
I'm telling the truth. Your father is now the president of a university and is a high-level leader. What you do will only make his superiors and colleagues look down on him. Those people will think like this: You don't even care about your own daughter.
No, how can you manage a unit well! Shiyu, you received a university education abroad. You may not fully understand the thoughts of most people in the country, but let me tell you, many people in our country have this kind of thinking.
Do you understand? Shiyu, maybe you will also be a mother in a few years. Can you think about this issue from your own perspective? Just now you mentioned my problem, and I think you are right about that matter.
It's my fault. But what you are doing now has nothing to do with what happened between us. Shiyu, if your boyfriend is only thirty years old, no, I think it is understandable even if he is close to forty years old, as long as he is older than your father
It's okay if you are young. In this case, your father may be more understanding and accepting. But now...hey! I'm sure that even if you marry him, it won't last long. A gamble like yours is simply not possible.
It’s worth it. Your so-called boyfriend has already become famous, but what about you? Once such a gamble fails, you will have nothing and your reputation will be ruined. Is it worth it for you?”
My words are really serious and heartfelt. I really hope she can listen.
However, she said this: "How can I know whether I can succeed if I don't gamble? Didn't my father succeed after gambling once?"
I was immediately surprised, "Your father? What did he bet on? How did he succeed in his bet?"
"Feng Xiao, why did you say that just now? Why are you so sure that I won't be with him for a long time?" She did not answer my question, but asked me this way.
I had no choice but to put aside my problem for the time being, so I said: "It's very simple. You are too far apart in age. Whether it is communication, habits, physiology, or the perspective of looking at things, they will be different. As the saying goes, there is a generation gap in three years. After marriage,
You will find that the generation gap in language is really a problem, because you may not be able to communicate at all, and you will often have conflicts because you love to play, but the other party likes to be quiet. This is only one aspect of the problem. In addition, you two
Their living habits are probably different. Maybe you like to sleep in because you are young, but he likes to get up early and likes a fixed lifestyle. But you are different. You are very energetic and want the other person to accompany you all the time, but his
If your physical strength is not as good as before, and you cannot satisfy your fun-loving habit, you will easily become empty. Poetry, there is something I probably shouldn’t say. You are right, I am not just a woman like you, but I tell the truth
You, you are the most powerful woman in bed that I have ever met. I think I am still relatively young and my skills in bed are pretty good, but in front of you I am no match for you. Every time I have sex with you
After the love ends, I will have backache for several days. Shiyu, I don’t know if you have slept with him now, but he will definitely not be able to bear you. This is inevitable. Therefore, I think your marriage will definitely not
How long will it last? You should understand if you think about it carefully."
She was silent again. I sat there and sighed slightly.
"No, what I decided will not change." She said stubbornly after a while.
"Shiyu, why are you doing this?" My voice seemed to be whining.
"My father gambled a lot back then, and I want to gamble too. My father said that he would sever the father-daughter relationship with me. Now I can only rely on this man. No one else can be relied on!" she said.
I looked at her in shock and found that her eyes had begun to shed tears.
Now I know that she is actually in pain inside.
But I still think she is a girl who pursues dreams too much, and even her pursuit is too unrealistic and too risky. In my opinion, her so-called gambling is actually a moth flying into the flame.
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Did Principal Zhang ever gamble like her? What did he gamble on? How did he gamble? Now I am very curious.
In our family relationships, fathers have a great influence on children, and many studies have shown that children's behaviors are closely and directly related to their fathers. Some foreign research institutions have carefully studied the role of fathers.
made some surprising discoveries: since birth, there is an undeniable connection between father and baby; babies as young as six weeks old can tell the difference between the voices of their mother and their father;
The differences in the caregiving methods of mothers and fathers are revealed; babies are born with a drive to find a connection with their fathers. When they begin to speak, the word "dad" is often said before "mom". The reason for this is not yet known.
; Toddlers often clearly show their need for their father. They will look for their father, ask for him when he is not around, are extremely surprised to hear their father's voice on the phone, and will learn about every aspect of their father's body if possible.
parts; teenagers express their need for their father in more complex ways, competing with him and challenging his values, beliefs and, of course, his limitations. For many sons and daughters
It is said that only the death of their father made them realize how strong and lasting their need for their father was.
In addition, the father will affect the daughter's future marriage life. Because the father's male image has a subtle influence on the daughter. Because the father has established the initial male image in the daughter's mind, the father has a great influence on the daughter's future mate selection. And
Blindly pampering and satisfying any child's needs without restrictions will lead to excessive needs and even distorted personality of the child.
I think this is what Zhang's poems say now. For example, she talked about her father's career gamble. Although I don't know what it is exactly, I can tell one thing: that thing
It had such a profound impact on Zhang Shiyu's mind that she now adopts such unscrupulous methods to get what she needs, without even considering any consequences, including the harm to her parents.
Although I am a father now, I still don’t have that sense of urgency because my child is still very young. Recently, I try to take time to play with my child for a while every day to let him feel that I am a father.
The existence of this father. What worries me very much is that what my children lack most now is maternal love. Therefore, deep down in my heart, I still feel dissatisfied with Chen Yuan. Although I clearly know that all this is not hers.
Responsibility, but this dissatisfaction with her will still emerge from the bottom of my heart occasionally.
At this time, I suddenly remembered something: Zhang Shiyu seemed to rarely mention her mother in front of me. Could it be...
"How did your father gamble back then? Can you tell me?" I couldn't restrain my curiosity and asked her immediately.
She shook her head and shed tears, but did not answer me.
"Where is your mother? I rarely hear you talk about your mother. I only remember hearing you say that she likes to play mahjong. Doesn't your mother care about your affairs at all?" I finally asked the second question in my heart.
Doubtful questions.
"My current mother is not my biological mother." She said with a faint voice.
I understood immediately. I asked why she rarely mentioned her mother. So I asked again: "So, where is your biological mother? Shiyu, I'm sorry, maybe I shouldn't ask you this question."
"My mother was very beautiful. My father was an ordinary physician at that time. Once my father took my mother to attend a gathering of a leader in the Department of Health. It turned out that the leader fell in love with my mother. What happened next?
Can you imagine it? I was only eight years old at that time, the age when I just understood some things about adults." She said with an indifferent expression, as if she was talking about other people's things.
Of course I understood, but I was still a little surprised, "Your father was a general doctor at the time. How could the leaders of the Health Department invite him to such a party?"
When I asked this, I immediately understood, "Did a certain leader of the hospital take him there at that time?" (To be continued)