My heart was shocked, and I became excited at the same time, "Sister, you said it very well. This is the first time I have heard these things."
She smiled and said: "I have told you a lot of truths in officialdom before, but you didn't pay special attention. But those are just theoretical things. To really digest them and learn and apply them, you need yourself
Go and experience it for yourself. Feng Xiao, officialdom is also a lot of fun, much more fun than doing obstetrics and gynecology."
I also laughed, "Really?"
She nodded and then added: "There is also your second weakness, which is that you like to agree to other people's things without principles. This is also very bad. Keeping promises is certainly a virtue, and it is also a good way to interact with others.
Basic principles, because it will attract people around you to follow you and trust you, but commitment without principles is absolutely unacceptable. What is a commitment? In the final analysis, it is still an exchange. What do people give you?
Or you have promised something to you and then you make a certain promise to the other party. This is an exchange in itself. Such exchanges are also very common in officialdom, but commitments in officialdom have the most basic principles, that is
Reciprocity, or reciprocity from a future perspective. Of course, some small things are not included in this, such as those things that you can do with a little effort, and such things cannot be completely called commitments, accurately.
Basically, it is a kind of favor. But what about you? As long as someone asks you to do a favor, you immediately agree, and sometimes you don’t even know what kind of person the other person is. That’s why so many things happen.
Feng Xiao, you have to remember that promises cannot be said easily from your own mouth, because once you make a promise, you will have to use your resources. We will talk about this issue later. Now I
What I want to say is that commitment is a kind of responsibility, but also a kind of burden, do you understand?"
I couldn't help but feel ashamed, because what she said really touched on my biggest problem, and why didn't I feel tired? Every time I was embarrassed by something like that, but the result of the embarrassment was always that I would agree in the end.
.I murmured: "Sister, what you said is indeed true. I am a person with a thin face."
She immediately laughed and said, "Yes, your face is indeed very thin, but when you came to see me, it was never thinner? Haha, don't look at me like this, what I said is the truth. Of course, that's because you know it in your heart
, Sister will help you as long as you ask. After all, you know that Sister likes you. It's better for you, Sister likes you so much, but you let Sister end up helping you with other women. You are really too much."
I was even more embarrassed, but what she said was true, so I felt that everything I had done was really bad, "Sister, please stop talking, I won't do that again in the future."
She smiled and said: "Actually, I don't mean to blame you, because I am willing to help you and do anything for you, because I am happy. But what I want to talk about is another issue, which is the resource issue we talked about earlier.
Each of us has such a social resource in our hands, but some people have more and some have less. The resources in some people's hands are extremely valuable and the resources in some people's hands are of ordinary value. Feng Xiao, reasonable
The most important thing is to use the resources you have and try not to abuse them. As I said before, commitment is a kind of exchange, but the basis of commitment is the resources each of us has, because the result of commitment is ultimately
It is achieved by using the resources at hand. For example, my power and my feelings for you are one of the resources at your hand. I like you, so I will not blame you for abusing my power or my feelings for you.
But what about other people? That’s not necessarily the case, right? In short, there is nothing wrong with making a promise, but you must consider whether your promise is worth it. Worthiness is the most important thing. Of course, you will understand in the future,
In addition to being worthy of this kind of exchange, you also need to pay attention to the timing of the exchange. This issue is too complicated and you won’t understand it even if I talk about it too much now. I hope you will have the opportunity to practice it in the future.”
"Sister, is there anything else? I hope you can tell me more today." I said.
She smiled and said: "It's not good to talk too much about some things, but it may damage your confidence. Feng Xiao, there are many things that you need to understand slowly in the future. Of course, if you really don't understand something, you can do it."
You can come to me at any time. But I do have one last point to tell you. That is, what you need most now is to learn to forget, like a rhino forgetting the grassland, like a water bird forgetting the lake, like a person in hell forgetting heaven, like an amputee.
Forget that you once walked as fast as flying, forget many things in your past like a fallen leaf forgetting the wind, especially forget the guilt in your heart, because a new life is already waving to you."
I was silent for a while, and then said to her with a wry smile: "Sister, your words are like poetry."
She laughed, "This is a sentence I read from a book. I liked it very much, so I said it in front of you. But that metaphor is very appropriate, isn't it?"
"Yes." I said with a smile, and suddenly remembered something, "Sister, I may have to go on a business trip recently. It may take a long time."
She asked me: "Where are you going? What are you doing?"
I replied: "Principal Zhang asked me to go abroad. Actually, he asked me to go see his daughter. Now, I really don't want to go. But he is the principal after all. What do you think I should do?"
She pondered for a moment and then said: "Go ahead, you might as well go out and relax now. But I think he can't just ask you to go out and see his daughter, right?"
I was startled and then said: "That's what he said at that time."
She asked: "When did it happen?"
I replied: "It happened more than half a month ago."
After thinking for a while, she said: "Don't worry, I guess he will still look for you. Maybe when he asked you to go out, he just wanted you to go see his daughter on his behalf, but now... Feng Xiao, you
Now that my wife is gone, I'm worried that he may have other ideas."
I shook my head violently, "Impossible. I won't agree."
She smiled and said, "Didn't you say that he is the principal?"
I was stunned again, but I found her smiling strangely, and I immediately understood, "Sister, stop talking. Didn't I already say it? I am willing to be Governor Huang's secretary."
She smiled and said: "It seems that you have not fully understood that leaving that place of right and wrong is the wisest choice until now. As a person like you, it seems that only persuading you with women's affairs is the most effective."
I couldn't laugh or cry, I was extremely embarrassed, "Sister..."
At this time, her cell phone was ringing, and she hurriedly ran to answer it, "Oh, I understand, I'll be right back."
Then she came over and said to me: "The provincial government is holding an emergency meeting tonight and I have to go right away. Please help me wash the dishes. Don't wait for me. I don't know when I will be back tonight."
I suddenly became worried, "Sister, is this going to be a big deal?"
She smiled and said: "Of course it is a big thing. If it is not a big thing, how can we hold an emergency meeting at short notice now? Something happened to the chemical plant in the east of the city. The governor and the deputy governor in charge will go to the scene in person to direct it immediately.
For disaster relief, I am the secretary-general, so of course I have to go."
I immediately felt relieved and asked her: "Wouldn't our hospital also be busy?"
She nodded, then smiled and said: "It's none of your obstetrics and gynecology business anyway. So you can just stay here and help me wash the dishes. I'm going to change clothes right away. The smell of hot pot on my body is too strong."
She came out quickly, wearing a very ordinary thick gray dress, "Let's go, close the door for me when you go out."
Then she left in a hurry, and the sound of a car's motor could be heard outside, and then the sound quickly faded away.
I was the only one left in her villa. I felt bored and felt too lonely in such a big space, so I unplugged the microwave and put away the leftovers and dishes.
Put it away in the kitchen.
It took me more than an hour to clean and put away those things, and then I cleaned her home again. To be honest, the cleanliness of her home was a bit bad. So it is not a big deal for a single woman to live in a place that is too big.
A good thing.
Before leaving her house, I went to the car and brought some air freshener and sprayed it around her house. I bought the air freshener when the car was new, and the smell of the leather seats in the car was too strong. I didn’t expect that thing to be in her house.
It came in handy today.
When I finished all this, it was already past ten o'clock in the evening. I suddenly wanted to see my son, so I immediately called Lin Yi. He told me that he happened to be at home and asked me to come over quickly.
As a result, when I arrived at his house, I found that the child had just fallen asleep, so I took a look at the child and was pulled into his study by Lin Yi.
There was already tea he had brewed on the coffee table, and he immediately poured me a cup, "Are you okay?"
I then asked him in turn: "Are you okay too? Especially Aunt Shi, isn't she fine?"
He sighed: "We can't let her have some free time. Once she has some free time, she will think of Xiaonan and cry. Isn't that right? Her sisters have invited her to play cards."
I suddenly looked sad and said, "Yes, she must feel uncomfortable."
He waved his hand towards me and said, "Let's not talk about this anymore. What's going on there recently that you want to tell me about?"
I didn't know what he was asking about, so I said: "As for my two projects, the current funding..."
But he immediately interrupted me, "Those are two small projects of yours. It doesn't matter even if you lose money. My several big projects here are the most critical. Don't worry, I will take care of your two projects in the future."
The relevant profits will be transferred to your company's account. Don't talk about this matter, you should believe that I will not take advantage of you."
I suddenly felt embarrassed, "I didn't mean that...since you said it, I won't say anything else. One more thing, I have agreed to be Governor Huang's secretary today." (To be continued.)