She became even more angry, "He didn't give me an explanation at all! He said he was busy and couldn't talk to me more at that time."
I asked again: "So, what happened next? You didn't talk on the phone anymore?"
She said: "I didn't want to call him. He called me and I didn't want to answer it. Think about it, by then he had already thought of a reason to defend himself. Why should I listen to so many words? Feng Xiao, I thought
Let me ask you, do you still want my child?"
I was shocked, "Dingxiang, how can you joke about something like this? The child is so old, how can he not do it?"
She began to cry, "But, Kang Demao, he is like this now, how can I entrust him with my life? What if I give birth to a child in the future and the child does not have his biological father by his side, then wouldn't I?
Did you harm the child?"
I didn't expect that she would think like this, and at the same time, I felt that there was something really wrong with her psychology: now she has become so sensitive and fragile, and also so suspicious.
After thinking about it, I said to her: "Dingxiang, maybe you are really wrong about this matter. Have you ever thought about it? The superior that Demao mentioned is probably a woman. There are more female officials now. At the county level.
It is also possible for officials from regional agencies or prefecture-level cities and provinces to go there. Nowadays, more and more officials from provincial departments go to the lower levels to serve as leaders. Isn’t this the case in Demao itself? Also
, De Mao has just started working in the county and has not yet been elected by the National People's Congress. In other words, legally speaking, he is not the real county magistrate yet. He is currently just an acting magistrate. So he must be very busy recently.
Of course, it is very hard for you to have a child, and you need your husband's care and protection at all times. But you should also understand his current difficulties? As a man, after family, career is more important, don't you think?"
She doesn't speak.
I continued: "Dingxiang, in addition to the most basic trust, husband and wife should also support each other. Now that Demao is going to work in a local area, this is a very important step in his life. I won't say more about some things.
You should know. For him, he may value his career more in the short term, and you should understand this. Don't always talk about divorce or not having children because of trivial things. Such anger will eventually end
It’s actually the two of you who are hurt. Okay, I won’t say much else, just think about it yourself. By the way, if you need it, you can come to our hospital and I can ask our psychiatrist to help you.
You should do some psychological counseling. I think your current situation is very necessary."
She immediately said: "I don't need it. I have no mental problems. Feng Xiao, what do you mean by this?"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly, "Dingxiang, you are still a university teacher, so why do you have such misunderstandings about psychological counseling and counseling? You are pregnant with a child now. On the one hand, you are worried about the child's health, and on the other hand, you are afraid of what will happen to your family.
, this shows that your current mental state is very anxious and stressful, and you really need help in this regard? If it were in a developed Western country, people would have gone to a psychiatrist long ago. A person has psychological problems
When you are depressed or anxious, what you need most is to release those depressions and anxieties. This will be more effective only under the guidance of a professional doctor. How come you, a university teacher, are so backward in concept?"
She pondered for a moment and then said: "After the Spring Festival."
I said, "That's okay. Just call me anytime you need me."
She immediately said: "Feng Xiao, there is one more thing, but I just want to tell you this matter quietly. You must not tell it to De Mao."
I was very happy when I heard that she changed the name of Kang Demao, "You tell me, I'm listening."
She said: "Demao's parents are living in our house now, and I am not used to it at all. They don't take a bath for several days, and it takes several days to clean the house. That's fine, but the food they cook is either spicy or spicy.
It's sweet and tastes bad. Also, they often don't flush the toilet after relieving themselves. Demao's father often spits on the floor... Anyway, there are many bad habits. I, I really can't adapt to it.
them."
I couldn't help but smile bitterly. In fact, I had thought about this problem before, but I couldn't remind Kang Demao at that time. I said: "Dingxiang, after all, they are De Mao's parents, and they are also your parents. They are
Coming from the countryside, they have been living like this for decades, and it becomes natural to get used to it. This cannot be said to be because they are not used to it, because they feel so comfortable. So, I think you can remind them, but the attitude must be good.
, in short, the point is to the extent that they can accept it. In addition, you can help them with some things, such as flushing the toilet, etc., isn't it just a matter of turning on the switch? "
She immediately said loudly: "So disgusting!"
I think so, "You should tell De Mao these things in private. It would be best for him to tell his parents."
She said: "Why didn't I say that? But he criticized me every time and said that I was so harsh because he looked down on his parents. By the way, one time his father smoked in the living room. Do you know what he smoked? Earthy.
Tobacco! It’s the kind of tobacco that is wrapped in tobacco leaves and smoked directly. You don’t know, the smell is so overwhelming! Demao was there at the time. I immediately felt sick after smelling the smell and hurried outside the house.
.Do you know the result? Demao later criticized me and said that I didn’t give his father any face! Feng Xiao, do you know? I almost went crazy since I was pregnant with this child. Especially after his parents came.
, I really feel that I can’t bear it anymore…”
I don’t know what to say. I know Kang Demao relatively well. He is a person with a very strong self-esteem and cannot tolerate anyone talking about his and his parents’ shortcomings. In the final analysis, this is actually a form of extreme inferiority.
performance. Now, I am beginning to feel uncomfortable for Ding Xiang. Yes, I don’t know what to do if I encounter such a situation.
After thinking about it, I said to her: "Dingxiang, I think you should have a good talk with Demao. After all, you are husband and wife, what can't you say? It's best if you talk to him about this kind of thing, Demao."
He will definitely listen, because you are his wife. The key to the problem is the way you tell him. Haha! Do you know under what circumstances men are most obedient? "
She immediately laughed and scolded me: "Feng Xiao, why are you so bad? I'm talking to you about business."
I immediately couldn't laugh or cry, "Dingxiang, where are you thinking? What I mean is that men are most obedient when women are the most gentle, when they are acting coquettishly, and when the pear blossoms are raining. Do you understand?"
I think you must have lost your temper directly at him before. How about that? I'm right, right? Lilac, do you know? Your method is the stupidest and least effective."
She was still smiling, and it seemed that she was in a much better mood now. She said: "But I always can't help but lose my temper at that time. What should I do?"
I said: "Psychologically speaking, people most of the time only lose their temper towards people who feel safe. Because in front of that person who feels safe, your subconscious knows that the other person will not leave you. The nonsense at this time is actually
A kind of dependence. Haha! Lilac, do you understand? That's it, we are talking on mobile phones. Using this mobile phone for too long will be bad for your health. By the way, I am here to wish you a happy New Year during the Spring Festival.
"
She smiled and said, "There's no need to pay New Year greetings. Let's have a meal together then."
I agreed repeatedly and hung up the phone immediately. Now, I felt very happy in my heart, because I thought I had temporarily eliminated the fire in Kangdemao's backyard.
Two days later, it was already the day before New Year's Eve. During these two days, I took the time to pay New Year greetings to Director Zou. After thinking about it for a long time, I went to buy him cigarettes and alcohol, and there was still a piece worth of money.
Nearly 30,000 yuan worth of watches. I figured it out, nothing should happen to him, so there shouldn’t be any risk in me giving him something like this. (To be continued)