I didn't notice the other meaning contained in her words, "Really? People always change."
She shook her head and said: "It's different. Every move you make now shows a calm charm, you really look like an official. Feng Xiao, you seem to be completely different from the one I knew before."
I immediately felt embarrassed, "Haha! Actually, I'm still me. At least in front of you, I'm still the same me, because I won't hide anything in front of you."
Her face immediately turned red, "Feng Xiao, you should save these sweet words to say to other women."
I knew she had misunderstood me, so I hurriedly said: "Tong Yao, what do you mean I don't have anything else? I just really treat you as a friend. Don't get me wrong."
She was startled, and then said: "I know. Stop talking, let's eat. I stewed chicken and cooked fish. Anyway, I made a lot of dishes. Hehe! Originally, I wanted to make a few more dishes.
Then it suddenly occurred to me that there were only two of us, how could we finish eating if we made too much? So I started to be lazy."
I went to the wine cabinet to get the wine and said, "Yes. If you cook too much food, you will definitely not be able to finish it. Then I will have to throw it away. Wouldn't that be a disappointment to you today?"
Already?"
Immediately, I sat down at the dining table, and she started to go to the kitchen to serve the dishes. Soon, the dining table was filled with the dishes she cooked. I used two wine quilts to pour wine.
"Maotai? That's great! Feng Xiao, I can only be corrupt like this when I come to your house." Tong Yao said to me with a smile.
I couldn't help but laugh, "How many leaders today don't drink this wine? This is the reason why Moutai and Wuliangye distilleries exist."
She smiled and said, "It seems to make sense. Today's leaders seem to wear brand-name clothes, high-end watches, and eat and drink of the highest quality."
I also laughed and said, "Such things may seem abnormal, but they are actually very normal. Otherwise, why would those people be officials?"
She looked at me and said, "So, is this also the purpose of your becoming an official?"
I was startled, then shook my head and said: "No, I'm different, I really want to do something. And there should be more than one person who has the same idea as me. For example, I have a classmate, his name is Kang Demao, and he is now
The county magistrate of my hometown. He should have similar thoughts to mine. I believe there are many people who have the same thoughts as us. Tong Yao, I may not be right to say something, so don’t be angry. What I want to say
Yes, if the organization allows you to be an official, you should have the same idea as me. Because you are different from other people. You are actually a very upright and simple person."
She immediately stopped talking and her face was silent. After a while, she raised her glass and said, "Maybe. Feng Xiao, don't talk about those things. Those things are already very far away for me. Come, let's have a drink together. For
...For what? Hee hee! Tell me."
I raised my glass and touched it with her, and then said: "It's very simple, just one sentence: for friendship."
She looked very happy immediately, "Yes, that's right. Come, let's drink to friendship."
I was startled, "Cheers?"
She smiled and said: "Feng Xiao, I think you are so stupid sometimes. When I say cheers, I mean cheers. Cheers is just the action of clinking glasses we just made. It does not mean to drink up the wine in the glass. Haha! You
Yeah, I think you're really interesting sometimes."
I took a small sip, then put the glass down. Then I said to her sincerely: "Tong Yao, I am indeed stupid sometimes, and I know this completely. But I only do this in front of my friends, because I
I don’t want my friends to think I’m fake. If it weren’t for someone else today, I would definitely look at how much others drank before considering how much I drank. Tong Yao, do you understand what I mean?”
Originally I didn't want to say such things, but her words clearly meant she was looking down upon me. For me, I may not care about her criticizing me, but I couldn't stand her contempt for me. The only reason is
One, because I am a man. And now that I am changing myself, I especially hope that I can be different from the previous me in her eyes. This is the dignity that I must have.
Many women don’t know that as a man, what he needs and cares about most is his own dignity. What is a man’s dignity? In fact, in the final analysis, it is to be looked up to by others. Being looked up to by others makes men feel proud from the bottom of their hearts.
Emotions. Maybe my explanation is not scientific, but I think it is absolutely true. Some people say that being an official or having money will give you the dignity of a man. This concept is actually not accurate. Being an official or having money is just a man.
A small part of dignity. What men desire is to be respected by others, especially by the people they like. Some people say that a man’s dignity is actually a man’s face. This sentence is not entirely correct. A man’s face is just a
It's superficial, but dignity is something deep inside. Kang Demao's inferiority and sensitivity are actually the result of his excessive pursuit of dignity. And I am in the same situation at the moment, because I think being looked down upon by Tong Yao is the least of my abilities.
A time of dignity.
Dignity, this word is very simple, just two words, but it contains very rich things. In ancient and modern times, whether they are emperors or ministers, whether they are rich or poor, as men, they all have a common characteristic
, that is, sometimes dignity is more important than one's own life.
Later, when Lin Yi's Jiangnan Group was destroyed, I asked him why he did such things, and he told me: "For dignity."
Of course, this is something to say later. However, as a man, as long as a man still thinks that he is a man, then he will definitely take his dignity very seriously. Of course, there is a certain difference: when
When a person is fighting for survival, he may put aside his dignity, but he will definitely cry secretly for the loss of dignity. The reason is simple: if a person is criticized by his boss or criticized by his colleagues,
When he is being ridiculed, he will definitely feel very painful in his heart. However, most people will endure it in such situations because they are not yet in a stage where they need to pursue dignity.
If a person still knows how to maintain his dignity in extremely difficult circumstances, if his luck is relatively good, then this person will definitely succeed or become a great man. Therefore, the reason is very simple,
Dignity is so important to a man. It is the most important thing in a man's life, and sometimes it can even surpass love.
It's a pity that many women don't understand men. They may ridicule his incompetence in front of a man, or even make a fuss in front of a man's friends, causing their men to lose face and dignity without knowing it. This is actually the case.
The greatest folly and sorrow of women.
Dignity and freedom are always the eternal themes that men pursue deep in their hearts. This belief exists in the bone marrow of every man, and the difference is: some men will endure it, either as a last resort or because they are incapable
to express this need of oneself.
(Some friends may think that this paragraph of mine is too redundant, but as long as you pay attention, you will know that the most substantive things promoted by each of my books are actually only two points: human dignity and freedom. More than one
Publishing editors have asked me the same question: What is your book about? I gave them the same answer: I write about freedom and dignity. I hope my friends can encourage each other.)
Because of this, I answered Tong Yao's question very seriously in front of her. I wanted her to know: a man's dignity is more important than anything else. However, I will not explain it too clearly to her, because she is
A smart woman doesn't need me to explain too much or too clearly. Of course, my purpose is also very simple and clear, that is, I hope she will be happy in the future.
She looked at me and said, "I'm sorry, sometimes I speak too directly. Don't be angry?"
I laughed immediately, then raised my glass to her and said: "Here, let me toast you. There is no reason for this glass of wine. I just want to say something to you, but this sentence must be said after we have drank.
.”
She looked at me and couldn't help but smile, "You are really different from before. You seem to speak so well."
I said: "Don't say that. Of course, if you don't want to listen to what I'm going to say next, you don't have to drink it. But I can assure you that what I'm going to say below will definitely help you."
She looked at me in astonishment, "Since you said so, I have no choice but to drink. Hehe! I came to you today just to drink your wine, why don't you drink it?"
Immediately, we both clinked the wine glasses again, and then each took a small sip. Then she looked at me and smiled, "Tell me, don't you try any more tricks?"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly, "Tong Yao, you are beautiful, smart, and to be honest, your real characteristic is that you are very simple. You speak very directly and generally don't consider other people's thoughts. Such a personality is very difficult in front of friends.
It has advantages, but it is a disadvantage when it comes to work.”
She looked like she was hesitant to speak, so I quickly stopped her and continued: "Don't speak for now. Listen to me before speaking. Tong Yao, you must want to say that you have been expelled from the police force now anyway."
Now, it doesn’t make any sense for me to say these things in front of you. In fact, that’s not the case. Tong Yao, to be honest, I don’t know why, but I always feel that you will have a chance to re-enter the police force in the future. What are the specific reasons?
I can't say, but one thing I have always felt is very clear, that is, your matter this time is not big, because you are starting from work anyway. Of course, there may be a process involved,
For example, let's say you take the civil service exam again in the future. No matter what, I think your current difficulties are only temporary. I'm very confident about this. Therefore, I think there are some things that I must say to you now, and maybe I won't in the future.
Let’s talk again, because I’m worried that I will never have such an opportunity again in the future. Today we were drinking together, and it was in my home, and I feel that I can say anything under such circumstances.”
She looked at me, "Feng Xiao, what exactly do you want to say? We have just started drinking, why do you sound like you are about to get drunk?"
I suddenly felt that I spoke too much, but I thought that I spoke too much in the previous explanation, because I didn’t want her to feel sudden or unacceptable after hearing what I said later. I said: "Tong Yao, maybe
Well, maybe I did say too much before. Well, let me tell you what I really want to say to you. In fact, in the final analysis, it is just one sentence: I hope you will pay attention to what you say at work in the future.
Be tactful and try not to speak out the truest things in your heart. The reason for this is very simple, because not all the people you face are your friends. Haha! Do you think my words are unacceptable to you? "
She said: "You are right. Of course I accept it. But you may be wrong. I am not who you think."
She was very serious and sincere when she said this to me, and did not look like she was angry at all. (To be continued)