When it comes to holding wedding events, even today, people's understanding and practices are not consistent.
Some people want their wedding ceremony to be grand, ostentatious, lively, and even creative, but they are unwilling to spend more money on the banquet.
Some people would rather have a simple wedding ceremony than treat the relatives and friends who come to congratulate them badly. They must make the banquet better so that relatives and friends can't say anything.
In fact, in terms of our national conditions and the sophistication of people, it is obviously the most unethical approach to only focus on face and not on lizi.
Because no matter whether it’s red or white, it’s not for the family.
Why do guests come? It’s about favors. So this kind of thing is essentially an opportunity to stabilize the family and deepen friendship. The focus is on social relations and communication.
Moreover, there is a difference in whether we do red things or white things.
Grave affairs often come unexpectedly, and most of the things done are of a "spending money" nature, not to mention that the host's family is deeply in grief. Therefore, even if the banquet is simple, such as cooking noodles and so on, relatives and friends can often understand.
(Note: "Stewed vegetable noodles" is not something like "lentil braised noodles" or "chowder fried pancakes". It is the name of a banquet organized by Kouzi Kitchen. The simplest banquet noodles are made of four stir-fried vegetables and braised noodles or
It consists of noodles with fried bean paste. As for "waiting for a table", it means that it is not popular.)
But on the other hand, you should be well prepared for a happy event.
If the host spends all their energy and money on ostentation, inviting many relatives and friends is just the icing on the cake to make themselves happy, but the banquet is relatively simple. On the contrary, the more extravagant the affairs will be, the more people invited, the more bad things will happen.
Because don't let people behind the scenes complain about the slow guest, and ridicule the host for being a donkey dung egg with a smooth surface. Maybe there will be people who don't sit down at the table after paying the courtesy, and walk away with a sullen expression.
Even if it doesn't reach the level of such a break, if the guests make a few perfunctory remarks and leave early, making the scene quickly turn cold, it's just trying to be dignified but losing it. Why bother?
Of course, everyone knows that it is best to do both.
But this requires a lot of money. Not only must we do what we can, but we must not cause famine for this. More importantly, even if we have the economic strength, we must not go overboard.
As the saying goes, things should be done for the sake of relatives and friends, and one's own satisfaction comes second. If wealth presses people in and alienates them, it is also putting the cart before the horse.
Therefore, how to master the balance is the most important thing.
There are not many occasions when every aspect of a happy event like the Hong family's is held with such dignity, so that guests from all walks of life can be satisfied.
This would never have been possible if it hadn't been for the expert management of Li Fu and the cooperation and support of Hong Yanwu who devoted financial resources and manpower.
Even the two of them paid great attention to details that ordinary people wouldn't think of, which resulted in such good results.
For example, why do Hong’s liquor and wine have to be beaten in a jug? This is an example.
In fact, this is because Hong Yanwu refused to lower the quality. He insisted on "sponsoring" the highest standard of drinks. For example, the head seats at several tables were served with Maotai, and the rest were served with Duwuliangye.
But the disadvantage of this was that it was too ostentatious. Revealing it would not only invite criticism, but it was also the behavior of the nouveau riche. So in the end, Li Fu followed Li Fu's idea and put the wine into the pot and served it to the table.
The advantage of this is that high-level people can still drink it. It still feels elegant and subtle.
Like Xu Manli's father, Xu Jingshun, who used to be a wine merchant in Shanxi, he tasted the wine right away. The old man naturally nodded and smiled, joking with his son-in-law.
"Okay, it seems that your Hong family has completely recovered. Are you willing to use such fine wine to entertain guests? Well, it is still in the wine pot. Well, this is the taste, and it is worthy of this wine."
Hong Yanzheng quickly apologized to his father-in-law.
"Isn't this a major event in the second child's life...Hey, actually I don't care, it was all done by the third child. By the way, I have specially left two bottles for you at home. You can bring them with you later."
But even though ordinary people don't know the goods, they only know the taste, but they can feel at ease.
For example, the old man in the east courtyard turned his attention to other aspects and kept talking to Uncle Bian.
"Look, the Hong family is really shrewd. One bottle of Laobai is enough to divide two or three pots. Don't look at so many tables. How many bottles can't be used? You said that when our two sons were doing things, why did we
Didn’t you come up with this idea? No wonder their family is rich and they have to know how to save."
Uncle Bian is quite fair. "Look what you said, they will give you a refill after you finish drinking this. Besides, this wine is so good. How can you get a good wine for three yuan? Why do you want to waste it? You should try to waste as little as possible.
And those red ones, beer and soda, which ones have you not drank? Are these cheap?"
In addition, after Li Fu served a bowl of seaweed soup to the head of the table in accordance with the rules, announcing that the banquet could be dismissed. When the Hong family presented the guests with gifts, the return gifts they distributed also had the same purpose.
For example, the Hong family will take away the "happy" steamed buns and some dried fruits, wedding candies, and wedding cigarettes to the guests in the name of "leftovers from the banquet" that have been packed into portions.
In addition, each guest was given a ticket for "Xiyingmen" at Caishikou Cinema at 7:30 that evening.
This not only brings good luck, but also makes people feel that it is a favor without any expense. It can also make guests feel at ease and accept it happily.
Aunt Shui was a bit confused. She really believed the Hong family's kind words. After returning home, she opened the red paper envelope and screamed.
"Hey, there are so many good things left. If I had known, I would have asked Xiao Wu for an extra pack. Oops, what a big loss."
Shui Qing is a sensible person.
"Don't be ridiculous. Do you really think these things are leftovers? They were all prepared sincerely. If those things on the tea table were not shared among everyone long ago, what would be left? Besides, just
Are you still at a loss? You eat until you are full and you still drink. You also drink a lot of wine, right? Those things belong to others, but your belly is your own."
Aunt Shui was unhappy. She had her own reasons. "It's not because of you. I originally planned to pay two yuan. But who asked you to make your own decision and pay ten yuan, and also gave me a gold and silver bed sheet. Besides,
Lan'er didn't come today, and I didn't come back no matter how hard I ate... Oops, I felt really uncomfortable when you said that. I said don't be angry with your mother, and hurry up and get me some starter water.
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This is how you deal with the situation and treat your guests. The Hong family will never disrespect those who help.
For example, for the chefs at the restaurant, Li Fu not only settled the money before the guests left, but Hong Yanwu also gave Master Pang two extra cigarettes, and the other chefs each received one.
This is very beautiful to Master Pang and the others. It is a completely unexpected gain.
Moreover, despite the fact that brothers Li Fu and Hong Yanwu had been busy all day, they actually watched others eat and drink. In fact, they were not at a loss because the kitchen had set aside a few tables specifically to express gratitude to them afterwards.
Not to mention, Hong Yanwu also invited a projectionist from the Cultural Palace to come to his home to show open-air movies in the evening. In addition to "Xiyingmen", there is also "Romance on Lushan Mountain". Since many people no longer work in front of the theater, everyone
Still very interested in this.
But it's not over yet. The last thing has to be done in the early morning of the next day.
No, at half past four in the morning, Li Fu got up early and went to wait outside the gate.
Who are you waiting for? Waiting for the street sweeper. Just to give someone a pack of cigarettes and a pack of candy to say thank you for your hard work.
This is also very particular.
In the past, the Hong family only had to hold weddings and parties to celebrate together. Not only did the neighbors take the initiative to congratulate, but some poor people on the ground often came with gifts in different forms, so as to ask for the family's title and reward.
The Hong family always agrees happily, hoping that happy events will go smoothly and everyone will be happy.
The most important of these are the four types of people who usually deliver water to their homes, take out dirt, clean toilets, and watch the streets at the door. This is because their workload will inevitably increase during weddings.
So this time is no exception. Li Fu came forward to express his gratitude on behalf of the Hong family.
This matter is actually very necessary. When the cleaner saw the firecrackers and confetti everywhere on the ground, he wanted to curse in his heart, but now he changed his words to auspicious words. Not only did he promise that it was nothing, but he also promised to clean it up.
, and also asked Li Fu to go back to the house and rest quickly.
Therefore, what is truly commendable about the Hong family's work is reflected in the word "thoroughness". They always maintain the word "property" while everyone is happy, and they appear solemn and polite to everyone.
It may not be completely guaranteed that you will not be hated or envied by others, but it has certainly made most people think highly of the Hong family.
How nice is this? Everyone is comfortable. Isn’t that the whole point of celebrating a happy event?