6. The debate on whether Xie Daoyun is a good match for Chen Caozhi (wonderful)
Book friend 090606045653623 believes that Xie Daoyun can only be Chen Caozhi’s friend, not a good match, for the following reasons:
——Actually, from any perspective, to “love” a character like Xie Daoyun is really——well, it requires a lot of courage. To put it bluntly, people like her, in modern times, have a little bit of emotion.
If it doesn't go well, then he is a kind of person like Miejie Shitai.
Some people say that Miss Lu has no character. Character?? Haha, girls with character can appreciate and pay attention to them, but personality is not something you should apply to your boyfriend/husband. In the book, Miss Lu never reveals herself in front of Cao Zhi.
Didn't she understand the difficulties faced by the two of them? No, she revealed her thoughts to her stepmother and to Cao Zhi's sister-in-law, showing that she was aware of the difficulties she was facing from the beginning, but would never let them go.
Cao Zhi is worried.
There is a passage in the book that describes the reunion between Cao Zhi and Miss Lu, the third grandma. The two of them murmured in whispers. They did not talk about poetry, books and mysteries, but only talked about trivial matters in their hometown and the scenery of the lakes and lakes in their hometown. This is what two people love each other.
The way to get along. Doesn’t Ms. Lu not understand calligraphy and painting? Doesn’t she understand the Book of Songs?? Obviously not.
In contrast, Xie Daoyun, let me be honest, it would be up to you to get along with Xie Daoyun. When you are in a good mood, come, play chess, and argue, just like you play video games and football with your friends.
, yes, interesting; but will she find it interesting to talk to you about Run'er or the lakes and islands in her hometown? - Of course, the author can turn around and say that Xie Daoyun "listened with great interest with a smile on his face."
, Unfortunately, if it is based on the character, it is actually impossible. A character like Xie Daoyun is the modern Hillary and the ancient Wu Zetian, and is not a good partner.
Although Chen Caozhi attracted two beauties due to his talent, for Xie Daoyun, it was because she felt that Chen Caozhi was smart, knowledgeable and eloquent. In addition, she, the most beautiful woman in the world, was not convinced, so she kept looking for Chen Caozhi in the beginning.
Cao's "competition" went from initial "confidence" to "admiration" and finally a good impression. In other words, if Chen Caozhi just played a good flute that day and failed to conquer her in theory and chessboard, then Xie Daoyun also
She thought that this person was just a soso. Xie had a sense of attachment to Chen Caozhi, and felt that only Chen Caozhi's "talent" in the world could match hers. In fact, she later used arguments to intimidate her
If a retiring suitor meets a talented man who is equally handsome, knowledgeable and eloquent, he will probably accept it - what Xie Daoyun is looking for is a "proud man of heaven" who is stronger than her.
However, let’s take a look at Miss Lu. She and Chen Caozhi got acquainted because of flowers. For Miss Lu, she didn’t think about whether this person was a talented person or better than herself. For her, Chen Caozhi
In the beginning, he was just a rare friend who liked flowers as much as she did (this is very different from Xie Daoyun. Xie has been "forcing" and "forcing" himself to be Chen's friend, even though it is not realistic at all, and Xie can't.
She is willing to face her true inner thoughts rather than facing reality. Her "uninhibitedness" is just an escape. From the beginning, Lu only regarded Chen as a "like-minded" friend. When Lu found out that she fell in love with Chen, Lu
The one who can face himself and reality frankly - the one who is closer to modern people is not Xie, but Lu!!!)
I'm off topic. I mentioned above that Lu and Chen had a common interest in the beginning. Ms. Lu didn't care how good Chen Youming was at debating. She just liked chatting with Chen about trivial matters, rather than Xie's "Brother Chen, tonight
Let's debate the speech." - In fact, when Chen Lu met, Lu's painting skills were far superior to Chen Caozhi's, but Lu didn't care. In one chapter, Lu even deliberately hid himself
The painting prevents people from comparing her with Chen. Note that the two have not yet confirmed their relationship at this time. At the same time, Xie, who is pretending to be Zhu Yingtai, has been thinking about how to defeat Chen in Go and imagining what happens after defeating Chen.
As far as "Chen can take the initiative to come to her to play chess, she can remain somewhat reserved" - it is really clear at a glance what the two are a good match for.
Of course, if you insist on arranging a story of a talented man matching a talented woman, that is not a bad idea. But to use the words I talk to my friends in real life, the reason why those "strong women" are often single is not that they are not gentle and considerate, nor that they are not
Beautiful - the fundamental reason is that being with them is tiring! These women themselves are certainly very strong and will continue to make progress. As friends, we appreciate and admire them. However, they will also ask for their boyfriends/husbands
, must be better than them, forcing you to work hard all the time--not that we men should find a lazy and idle woman, but that a enterprising man will have his own arrangements, and
At the same time, I like my partner to believe in me wholeheartedly. At the same time, as men, when we work hard, we also hope that even if we fail, our wives can be by our side without caring.
Back to the story, if a man who is more handsome, smarter, more knowledgeable and eloquent than Chen Caozhi appears, will Xie still refuse to marry? Maybe Yes, maybeno.
She won, what happened to her? She changed her mind and said I was joking, just for fun??
On the other hand, let’s see what Miss Lu said under the heavy pressure of her family: If I hadn’t met Mr. Chen, I might have married him. But now that we have met, xxxxxxxx (I won’t say those disgusting things: D, everyone should
Very impressive)
Some people say that Miss Lu has no character, but Chen Xie should be together??
The following is the opinion of book friend Anxiang Yingxiu that Xie Daoyun is not a good match for Chen Cao:
Xie's feelings for Chen were gradual. At first, Xie just appreciated Chen Caozhi's music. After arguing with Chen, Xie MM's competitive spirit was completely aroused. The two gradually deepened their friendship as classmates.
There are some people who may not leave a good impression on you when you first meet them, but as you gradually get to know them more deeply, you will understand their connotation and background. It is obvious that Xie is such a woman. During her studies,
The reason why she is so arrogant and does not interact with her classmates is certainly related to her aloof character and her noble dignity, but it is also related to her disguise as a man. Therefore, she cannot interact with too many classmates unless necessary to avoid exposing her flaws.
Xie Guao is sharp-tongued and unforgiving, but after in-depth interactions, Xie slowly reveals her true nature. Her disguise is only for people she doesn't appreciate or like, but for those she admires,
She still has a very kind and friendly side.
Some people say that Xie Daoyun's love for Chen Caozhi was just because of Xie's views on mate selection, and she wanted to find a man who was better than her. I really found this funny when I read this. I dare this reader to regard the Jin Dynasty as the 21st century. Women in the past
Marriage mainly depends on the right match. The Xie family is a noble family, while Chen was still a humble commoner at that time. No matter how you choose a spouse, you can't choose Chen Caozhi. Xie Daoyun, a noble family member who has been educated by Xie An since she was a child, she initially dated
When I met Chen Caozhi, I didn’t get to know him as a woman, but because I loved music and appreciated Chen Caozhi’s talent. It had nothing to do with so-called mate selection.
It was also a deviant thing in the Jin Dynasty for women to modify their bodies to study. Xie Daoyun wanted to hear Chen Caozhi's flute and get to know him. She could only get to know him through modification, and some people actually criticized Xie MM for this, saying
It's really ridiculous that she doesn't see people with their true colors.
It was only after an in-depth relationship with Chen Caozhi that Xie Daoyun turned from admiring Chen Caozhi to admiring him. Such emotional changes are beyond an individual's control. Xie Daoyun did not expect such a result at the beginning.
Some readers said: "But for Xie Daoyun, it was because she felt that Chen Caozhi was smart, knowledgeable, and eloquent. In addition, she was unconvinced by the beautiful girl of heaven, so she repeatedly approached Chen Caozhi to "contest" at the beginning.
The initial "confidence" turned into "admiration" and finally a good impression. In other words, if Chen Caozhi just played a good flute that day and failed to conquer her in theory and chessboard, then Xie Daoyun thought that this person was just a soso.
." The attraction of talent is indeed a very important factor. If Chen Caozhi did not have such talent, of course he would not be able to attract Xie Daoyun. Because Xie Daoyun was originally attracted by Chen Caozhi's music. He was only attracted by him.
Is being attracted by someone's talent, admiring and appreciating the other person's talent a sign of attachment to a strong person? This reader's opinion is really difficult for me to understand. The reason why Xie Daoyun talked and argued in Wuyi Lane was to refuse marriage, and even more
It was to fulfill her vow to "be a lifelong confidant" to Chen Caozhi. Otherwise, as a woman from a big family, how could she escape from marriage? This was a way for her to deal with her family's request for her to get married. Assuming that it was true
There are people who argue better than her. Just because she is forced to get married does not mean that she will love her husband. In ancient times, marriage is not the same as love. Therefore, whether she obeys or not does not mean that she will love the other person.
The reader also said: "To be honest, it's up to you to get along with that Xie Daoyun. When you are in a good mood, come and play chess and argue, just like you play video games and football with your friends.
Yes, interesting; but would she find it interesting to talk to you about Run'er or the lake or island in her hometown?" To be honest, it's obvious that you are not Cao Zhi. In the article, Cao Zhi is thanking you
Feelings are not unknown, and they are not unfeeling either. Several times, Cao Zhi sighed that life was enough with Xie Daoyun as a confidant. In Chenjiawu, when Xie left, Cao Zhi said goodbye.
Xie is not the only one who is reluctant. In Volume 2, Chapter 34 of Affection, Xie Daoyun comes to Chenjiawu again. When Chen Caozhi sees MM Xie, whom he thought he would never see again, the book says: "
Suddenly I felt heartache and just shouted: 'I see Brother Yingtai again'." The subtle emotions between the two of them in this chapter are very well described, which proves that Chen Caozhi is not indifferent to Xie. And afterwards,
The cooperation between the two in Wu Yi Lane, the mutual appreciation and sympathy between the two, and the tacit understanding between the two, although this kind of relationship is not love, it is no less than love. And the reason why Xie Caizhi has no love now
, I think it’s because Cao Zhi loves Lu Weirui. It’s not because this reader said that Xie is not suitable to be a wife. Because the article mentions Cao Zhi and Xie’s relationship many times, except for the first few times, after that
They are all very pleasant. Besides, no matter how talented a person is, he is not a god. How can he only discuss high righteousness and turn a blind eye to life? Even Confucius, a saint, has a humorous side to life. Isn't it possible that Xie Daoyun can't discuss moisturizing?
Are there any topics like my son or the lake or island in my hometown? In the article, because of his diligence and studiousness, he has long been compared with the literati and poets in history. He is not an ordinary mediocre person or someone who pretends to be gentle and steals from posterity.
Traveler. Chen Caozhi and Xie Daoyun are together. They have similar interests and hobbies. Assuming they are a couple in love, why can't Xie be a good match for Chen? Of course, this is just a hypothesis. Currently, Chen Caozhi loves Lu Weirui.
, his friendship with Xie is greater than love. As for how it will develop in the future, it is a matter for the three idiots, and I am happy to see how it works out.
