In the afternoon, according to the custom of his hometown, Ju An drove his brother-in-law's car and took Dinah, father and mother to the countryside to visit the graves of grandparents. According to the old rules, Ju An and Dinah put some on the graves of grandparents.
Soil, when visiting graves in the countryside
There were a lot of people watching. The cousins in my hometown knew that Ju An had married a foreign wife, so they all gathered at the edge of the ancestral grave to watch the foreign wife kowtow. Dinah calmly followed Ju An's example and kowtowed.
It smells good, but it makes Ju An feel a little unnatural.
After finally explaining the old rules, his father introduced the elders in the family to Ju An. This was a waste of time. Since Ju An grew up in the county town, he only came back during the holidays at most.
His grandparents stayed with him for two days, and his relationship with the family was far less deep than his father's. Ju An just took Dinah to do some errands.
When the sun was about to set, Ju An escaped from his hometown and returned to the county town. During the night, Ju An was woken up by Dinah tossing and turning. He looked at the time on the alarm clock on the bedside table and saw that it was already two o'clock in the night.
He said to Dinah: "Why are you still not sleeping? Is there something on your mind?".
Dinah reached out to turn on the bedside lamp, and Ju An quickly said: "Don't turn on the light." Before she finished speaking, Dinah had already turned on the light and said to Ju An: "I'm thinking about what I saw today.
That little kid named Nini".
"What's going on with her? She's so beautiful and rosy." Ju An said after a pause, not knowing what exactly Dinah was worried about.
Dinah thought for a moment and said: "Maybe this child has mild autism and is at a playful age but has no interest in games. The teacher also said that she doesn't like playing with children very much."
"Autism?" Ju An asked after listening for a while. This is the first time Ju An has heard of this thing. Is there such a disease?
Looking at Ju An's confused eyes, Dinah explained: "Children don't really like to interact with others. They like to think about things alone. In more serious cases, they can't even hear what others say and are immersed in their own thoughts.
”.
Ju An heard that this guy from Yun Tian Wu Di seemed to be talking about me. He didn’t like to deal with other people. What he liked most was to be bored in his own pasture, riding in circles on bean grass: “Is there still such a disease? I
It sounds like you didn't talk about the little girl, but it sounded like you were talking about
It's like me. You just took one look and became a doctor. Besides, aren't there a few retired doctors who are also taking care of the children? If you are worried, just go and have a look tomorrow." Since the orphanage
It was done well. Juana was no longer afraid of Dinah going to see it.
Dinah thought for a moment and then nodded and said, "Then let's go and see it tomorrow. I'll bring her some toys then."
Ju An yawned and said, "Okay! We will go tomorrow morning. After watching the little girl, we will come back to prepare things. We will go to Jiangnan the day after tomorrow, and then fly to Germany for our honeymoon. Go to bed early now, don't
"It's just random thoughts." Then he kissed Dinah's forehead and stretched out his hand to help Dinah turn off the bedside lamp.
Dinah hummed after hearing Ju An's words, and then rested her head on Ju An's arm. The two faced each other, and after a while, Ju An entered his dream again.
After finishing their meal in the morning, Dinah took Ju An to the mall and picked out a stuffed elephant. After buying something, she immediately rushed to the orphanage.
Ju An and Dinah drove to the orphanage. Today, Dr. Liu was the first to see them. He smiled and said hello to them.
Dinah's eyes scanned the yard and she spotted Nini sitting on a small chair. She asked Dr. Liu, "Does the little girl named Nini have mild autism?"
Dr. Liu listened and looked at Dinah and nodded and said: "This one is still a little autistic, but it's not serious. We can only provide them with basic life here. There are some things that we can't provide. I and a few
The teacher also brought Nini home. But you know we are old after all, and we don’t have much energy to focus on one child."
Ju An was stunned when he heard this. It turns out that this guy really has this disease. Can he be considered a disease if he doesn't like to talk? When he was a child, didn't he like to sit on a small bench in the yard and watch ants all afternoon? Could it be that he
Also a little autistic?
Dinah asked in surprise: "Isn't there anyone willing to adopt Nini?".
"Even if someone wants to adopt, they will adopt younger children. Nini is already two and a half years old and has already started to remember things and recognize people," Dr. Liu said to Dinah.
Ju'an understands that many people want to adopt a baby even if they don't have children. Most of them want to adopt a baby. In this way, it is taboo to tell children that you were adopted by your parents. Even if you hear other people say it, you will get angry. In the past,
When the An family lived in a factory dormitory, they met two of my mother's colleagues who were unable to have children themselves and adopted a child. The child was older than
One time, I had a fight with my friend, who laughed at her because she was adopted. She probably heard someone else gossiping about her. When the child came home crying, the man who usually smiled seemed to be angry.
The lion came directly to the door. Ju An watched from the balcony as the whole family got angry and apologized. The kid who was making fun of the person also received a slap on the face from his father.
Old Americans don’t pay much attention to these taboos. Many adopted children knew that they were adopted by their parents when they were young. Even if they didn’t tell them when they were young, usually when the children become adults, they will choose to tell the children the ins and outs of adoption. So tell Dinah, Dinah is not the same
Being able to understand the painstaking efforts of Chinese parents and the differences between the two cultures does not mean that Chinese adoptive parents are bad. It even seems to Ju An that these Chinese adoptive parents love their children more than their American adoptive parents.
Looking at Dinah's confused eyes, Ju An said: "You won't be able to understand this even for a while. The cultural differences between the two countries are too big."
After hearing this, Dinah yelled, then she held the baby elephant in her hand and walked towards Nini. Nini saw Dinah walking to the side, and immediately lowered her little head and played with her fingers, not daring to raise her head.
Looking at Dinah, Dinah squatted down and put the baby elephant on Nini's hand and said: "Nini, do you remember me? I came to see you yesterday."
Nini touched the little elephant in her hand and nodded without saying a word. Then she followed Dinah and chatted a few words with Nini, such as who braided the braids and how beautiful they were. Nini mostly nodded.
It took a long time before two words came out in a low voice. Ju An looked aside for a while and really couldn't tell what was wrong with this little girl. She just didn't like to talk. Can this guy be considered a disease?
Listening to Dinah and Nini talking wordlessly, Ju An began to look at some naughty children around him playing on the slide. Most of them were girls, and a very few boys. They probably all had some physical problems.
Yes, the preference for boys over girls is quite serious in Ju'an's hometown.
Looking at a group of noisy children following Nini sitting aside, it immediately became apparent that they were different. They were not as naughty as the other children. But in Ju An's opinion, there were many quiet little girls.
Okay, then thinking about the little devil Tongtong at home, Ju An feels that Tongtong is more painful.
After waiting for Dinah and Nini to chat for almost an hour, Ju An saw Dinah stand up, walked to Ju An's side and said to Ju An, "Let's go."
Ju An felt as if he was receiving an amnesty, and immediately walked out to the car with Dinah and Dr. Liu saying hello. It's not that Ju An has no sympathy, but that Ju An himself is a man in his twenties.
, I have just gotten married, and I think it would be a big headache to raise a child of my own, let alone someone else’s child.
After Ju An drove the car for a while, Dinah sat in the passenger seat and said to Ju An: "An, let's adopt Nini?".
"What?" Ju An was shocked when he heard this, and he quickly stepped on the brakes. Suddenly, Dinah's body rushed forward. Fortunately, she was wearing a seat belt and did not hit the glass, and then stopped on the side of the road.
Car, turned to Dinah and said: "You said we adopt Nini?".
Dinah looked at Ju An and nodded: "Nini's situation is really worrying in the orphanage. You know that if children with autism are not corrected, they will easily go to extremes when they grow up."
Ju An looked at Dinah looking at him with hope, and said to Dinah: "Are you kidding? If you are worried about Nini, we can find a psychiatrist to treat Nini. If we adopt her, you
Have you ever thought that we will definitely have children of our own in the future, and if something happens to Nini in the future, what will others say about us behind our backs?" Why did you think of this? What a responsibility it is to adopt a child.
Dinah continued to persuade Ju An: "As long as we do something worthy of ourselves, God will forgive us even if we have any problems, so why care about what others say about us. Besides, we are now able to provide better care for Nini.
, why can’t we give her a real home, a complete home with parents, grandparents, and grandparents.”
After hearing this, Ju An smiled bitterly and said, "This is not just a question of ability, but have you considered how much it costs to raise a child?"
"We have received too much from God. We can live a life we love with the people we love. Adopting Nini can be considered a kind of gratitude for us, okay?" Dinah said and gently put her hand on
Ju An held the stall's hand and looked at Ju An with tenderness on his face.
Ju An smiled bitterly and shook his head. This guy had pulled off a beauty trap. It was really hard for him to say anything. Think about it, if he hadn't gotten a bead, he might have spent five or six thousand a month to live in court.
In the nine-to-five life, I eat pancakes and fruit every morning.
While waiting for the bus, I can do whatever I want there like now, but I always want to donate some money to some foundations, but I have never thought about adopting a child, let alone think about it.
It is estimated that it is thousands of miles away. (To be continued...)
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