Chapter 1111 On the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Chapter 1111 On the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Nan Mengyu didn't dare to expect her mother-in-law to be so kind to her. She knew that although she had soft ears, she also had a soft heart and would not be too bad.
Gu Dongxing sighed: "Don't you still have Min Xing at home? If she really can't get along with you, let her live with Min Xing in the future. We just need to give her money to raise a dragon every month."
Nan Mengyu suddenly raised her head: He actually has such an idea?
"Aren't you afraid of being said to be unfilial?"
Gu Dongxing shook his head: "I have to do my career, and I also often participate in the tasks of the folk culture research association, so I am destined to not have both. I rarely go home, and I can't live with her by my side.
Although it is said that many men marry just to have someone to take care of their parents, I think that men owe their parents a favor, but women do not owe their parents a favor. Women are willing to fulfill their filial piety for men because of their love for them.
If a man loves, she is willing to use her love for him on his parents. Therefore, a woman's filial piety to her parents on behalf of a man should not be regarded as a due. Men should be grateful to women for this.
Because a woman doesn’t owe a man’s parents, what she owes more is the kindness of her own parents!
Just like the two of us, you don't owe my mother, on the contrary, my mother owes you a favor.
All along, it was my mother who was looking for trouble, and you have been tolerating my mother. I can't force you to tolerate my mother without limit. So, I can only say that if you get along, live together, and if you don't, live separately.
If my mother had no other children, I would hire someone to take care of her, but my mother is still smart. Naturally, she will be responsible for taking care of her. And I can only take care of her when I come back.
, the only thing left is to provide money to support her."
Nan Mengyu looked at Gu Dongxing, and she didn't expect that he could actually think about her like this.
Moreover, his ideas are quite advanced.
At this time, the word "filial piety" is like a big mountain pressing on the daughter-in-law's head, making them breathless.
Some people say that a woman never has a home of her own in her life. When she was a child, her home was her mother's family, and when she grew up and got married, her home was her husband's family. She just didn't have her own home.
Therefore, if a woman takes care of her parents, she will be scolded for only caring about her parents and not her husband's family.
But in fact, who can say something fair for a woman? A woman has been raised by her parents since she was a child, but her mother-in-law has never raised her for a day.
After a woman gets married, she is required to honor the man's parents, but cannot honor the parents who raised her. How cruel is this to a woman?
But in fact, a man's parents are just a relationship formed because of the man. In real terms, what kind of kindness do the man's parents have to her? What she should really repay is the kindness of her own parents in raising her.
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Some people may say that if the man's family gives a certain amount of gift to the woman's family, doesn't it mean that the man's family has bought his daughter-in-law back?
But in fact, the man's family gives betrothal gifts, and the woman's family gives dowry. These are the elders' support for the younger generation to start a family. At most, whoever supports more will not be able to say who buys whom.
Of course, some women accept the bride price but do not give the dowry, and some men confiscate the daughter-in-law’s dowry when the woman marries into the family, but this is not the mainstream. More often, the man gives the bride price, and the woman not only returns it all, but also pays for herself.
Pay a lot of dowry.
Therefore, if you give birth to a daughter, you will be scolded as a loser!
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem. In fact, the most fundamental reason is that the daughter-in-law does not owe her mother-in-law a favor, but society requires the daughter-in-law to be filial to her mother-in-law, and does not recognize the daughter-in-law to be filial to her parents!
Once a daughter-in-law is not considerate to her mother-in-law and takes too much care of her parents, she will be criticized. Men will hate her, and even her children will hate their mother being filial to her parents, thinking that it is just an external act.
family.
But they have all forgotten that the so-called maternal home is the home of your wife (mother) who raised you since childhood!