People say, "If you know how to cry in mourning, you will cry until all the guests are heartbroken. If you don't know how to cry in mourning, you will only hear moaning." Crying in mourning is also an art. If you know how to cry, you can make thousands of people mourn. If you don't know how to cry, you just cry in vain.
With the development of the times, due to the living environment and narrow houses in big cities, it is impossible to hold funerals at home. People are sent to funeral parlors as soon as they pass away. Some even hold a farewell ceremony for relatives. Some even skip the farewell ceremony and are directly cremated.
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Funerals in big cities have no sense of ceremony and do not reflect a sense of awe for life and death.
Most elderly people in rural areas do not like to go to cities, especially places where they have traditionally been buried. If they have no choice but to go to the city, they will definitely not go to the big city.
The "main bedroom" used to end one's life does not refer to the bedroom, but to the main room of an old-style house, that is, the main room.
There is a difference between the main room and the current living room. The living room in modern buildings can be on one side or on the central axis of the house. The main room must be on the central axis of a house and is the frontmost part, that is, on the central axis.
The big room with the open door.
In the old tradition, when a person dies, the coffin must be placed in the main room. Depending on the direction of the house, the male is on the left and the female is on the right. The male coffin is on the left and the female coffin is on the right. If it is a north-south house, it is male to the east and female to the west.
In the traditional consciousness of the elderly, if a person dies in his own home and can rest in the main room, it means that he has died a good life. Like in rural customs, if a person dies outside, he cannot be transported home to rest in a lattice, so it is not called a good death.
Therefore, what the elderly in rural areas look forward to most is to die at home and be able to take care of posthumous matters at home. If the elderly at home becomes seriously ill and may die, the family will transport the elderly back home as soon as possible.
Transporting old people who know there is no hope of rescuing them home to die, not only their own relatives will not say that their children are unfilial, but others will also not say anything. After all, the customs are there, everyone wants to close their eyes at home, hoping to have children and grandchildren to give them to.
I'm going to die crying, I don't want to be a lonely ghost who died outside.
It is a traditional custom to stop in the main hall, and it is also a traditional custom to watch and mourn.
When an old man passes away in the countryside, if the children in the family do not mourn, they will definitely be stabbed in the back and cast aside. Even if they cannot cry, they will still have to wail for a while.
Therefore, when some elderly people are unkind and treat their children badly, and their children feel cold and cannot cry, they have no choice but to use chili water or cool oil or garlic paste around the eyes to stimulate the spring glands and make the eyes shed tears.
Of course, if an old man who was unkind and unethical, causing his children to be heartbroken, died, and their children could not cry, the public would be sharp-eyed and would not criticize them harshly. After all, tradition says that fathers are kind and sons are filial, and parents are unkind.
How can we make our children be willing to be filial?
The Le family's aunt died young, and even her younger brother never saw her. Now that she can go home and stay, it is the greatest respect that Yueqing and the Le family girls have for her. If no one in the Le family mourns, no one in the village will either.
Poke the spine.
However, everyone did not expect that the Lejia girl cried and cried truly.
When other people cry in mourning, some are real and some are fake. Only a few people feel sad from the heart. Not only do they cry heartbrokenly, but they also make onlookers feel the same.
The girl from the Le family burst into tears when she was mourning. She could express her love and curses without any mistakes. Every word she said in her cry was clear and clear, so that people could hear her clearly.
She held the coffin there and wept bitterly. When she cried so deeply, everyone who heard it felt sad and shed tears and sighed sadly. When she cursed, the crowd was indignant. When she talked about the loss of her daughter, she was like a mother bird losing its young. She cried day and night. Her cry was like
The cuckoo cries for blood, and the sound is like tears. Grandma Zhou, Grandma Zhou Man, and other villagers of the older generation felt the most sympathetic feelings and also cried in tears.
Women of the older generation were familiar with Chen Hongying, but now things have changed, their hearts are sad, and their tears are uncontrollable.
When some middle-aged women hear grief, they think of their parents or children, and are moved to tears.
Not to mention the elderly women in Plum Village, even most of the men in Plum Village were heartbroken. When Lehong Chen Hongying lost her daughter, she almost went crazy. She lost shape in just a few days, and they were shocked to see her.
Zhou Qiufeng cried while trying to persuade her elders, and Sister-in-law Zhao and others also tried to persuade them with tears in their eyes.
When the girl from the Le family cried and complained that her uncle's relatives came back to see her aunt off, Chen Xin, Chen Jie and his wife threw themselves in front of the coffin and called "cousin".
The truth that has not yet been seen, crying that they have lost contact with their relatives back home because they went to other places and were obstructed by villains, and they don’t know the pain their aunts, cousins, and cousins have suffered.
The Chen brothers don't know much about crying, but their daughters-in-law do. The girls from Xiangnan Province are very eloquent and can speak well. They are girls from ethnic minorities, and their wedding customs are similar to those in Jiudao.
Le Ya's uncle's family members started to cry, and Zhou Qiufeng went over to persuade her, crying at the same time. Then everyone cried together about her cousin/sister's misfortune, and scolded the villain for obstructing and harming others.
There was crying for a while, and the women of the Zhou family also went over and cried with her.
Others hurriedly tried to persuade them, seeing that the cries and lamentations over there had formed a resonance and would not stop for a while. Cheng Wu forcefully punched the drums through his arms, and the sound was as dense as raindrops, and the sound was as loud as the sky.
When the sound of the drum subsided, Zhang Laosan began to sing.
Zhang Laosan's first song was a plea for family affection in an elegant tone, telling that he was deeply nurturing by his parents. He originally wanted to grow up and succeed in order to repay his parents' kindness, but his luck was not in his favor. He encountered villains at a young age and his soul was destroyed.
Mourning in a foreign land, from then on the white hair is black. The parents miss their children in dreams, the children miss their relatives together in the underworld, the parents cry heartbrokenly for their daughters, and the children shed tears for their parents.
Zhang Laosan sang in the local dialect, with rhyme and rhythm, which made the listeners cry and the listeners sad.
The singer sang, and Sister-in-law Zhao and others helped the old people such as Lejia girl and Grandma Zhou to sit aside, and brought wet towels to wipe their faces.
Leshan wiped her sister's tears with her little hands, and there were two tears in her eyes.
Zhang Laosan sang to an emotional point, and Grandma Zhou, Grandma Zhou Man, Aunt Pa, Grandma Zhang San and others burst into tears again, and sang one or two sentences together while crying.
This chapter is not over yet, please click on the next page to continue reading! Zhou Qiufeng, Zhou Wei, Sister-in-law Zhao and others persuaded the old man, and they cried again and again.
Grandpa Zhang San's first song made almost all the women present cry. Le Yun felt moved in her heart, hugged her brother and kowtowed three times, then kowtowed to the drummer and several masters, and to the masters.
Kowtow and give a big salute to the singer sitting on the ground.
For four years, the Chen family saw their cousins go kowtowing, and they followed their example, kowtowing to the teacher's team and the singers.
Brothers and sisters of the Zhou family, Chen Xiaozhu and Chen Xiaohe also went to kowtow to express their gratitude.
Don’t blame others for being polite, especially when doing white things. No matter what the matter is, kowtow is the right thing to do. If you do something wrong and make the other party unhappy, kowtow a few times to ensure that the other party’s anger will disappear;
If you want to express your gratitude, you don’t need to say much, just kowtow, people will understand.
Yue Yun, who was born and raised in Plum Village, understands the mystery, so she doesn’t say anything and just kowtows!
She kowtows willingly, without hesitation, hard and sincerely, and every time she kowtows to the end, her forehead touches the ground.
No one inside or outside the hall was unmoved.
The girl from the Lejia family has a noble status and is a rich person that ordinary people can't dream of. She still abides by the customs and rules of her hometown when she returns to her hometown. She kowtows without any ambiguity. She kowtows truly and truly rings her head.
With her sincerity, who can sing without heart?
The singer was flattered, moved and politely helped the Le family sisters and a group of little cubs up one by one, telling them not to be polite.
The singer said there was no need to be polite, but Le Yun was not careless at all. She went around in a circle and kowtowed to everyone, holding her brother in her arms and sitting aside with a group of followers. When Grandpa Zhang San finished singing a song, he hugged his brother again and again.
Go and kowtow.
Zhang Laosan sang the first song, followed by the second one, expressing her sorrow in the tone of a Le family grandma. Although it was not as touching as Zhang Laosan's song, it was still sad to hear.
Le Yun hugged her younger brother and went to kowtow again. The Chen family has been meticulous for four years. If her cousin/cousin kowtows, they kowtow.
The people in the hall sang four songs. The village's drum was paused, a team of teachers played music, and the singers began to sing.
No matter who sang, after every song, Le Yun would hold her brother and kowtow to thank her. Whenever someone offered incense to her aunt, she would express her gratitude.
Each singer sang a song. It was almost eleven o'clock. Village Chief Zhou set off a bunch of firecrackers and announced that the mourning was suspended. The person in charge of the church carried dozens of large woven bags from the warehouse and distributed them to the people sitting with him.
snack.
Children are willing to wait just for snacks.
The host gave out snacks, and the children were the happiest. They all found a place to sit and prepared bags with snacks. They were truly prepared.
Classmate Le invited the handsome man Lan San to go shopping in the county town, and the amount of snacks collected was considerable. She originally expected that if she didn't finish it at night, she would pack the rest and give a snack to each family of those who helped with the work.
Because of sufficient preparation, even if there are nearly a thousand people, each snack is enough to share. Some snacks with slightly smaller portions are distributed in smaller quantities per person. For example, a kind of wife cake, if there are few people, one person can share two snacks.
Or three, if there are more people, change it to one per person.
Children’s favorite chili strips, hot dogs, and Lux bars are all available.
When the children got their favorite spicy strips, eight out of ten immediately tore off the seal and gnawed on one. The spicy strips were so spicy that they still couldn't put it down and ate them with gusto.
Lan San, the handyman, was like a brick, moving it wherever needed. He also helped distribute snacks. He didn't understand why he had to purchase so many snacks at first, until after the meal, the men, women and children who had not come to Lejia for dinner also came. At a glance
They were all covered in black heads, and I had to sigh with emotion at the foresight of the little Lolita.
Also because Lan San and Mr. Li cleared out the ready-to-eat snack stocks in two supermarkets, and also scanned the stocks of several store assistants. The amount of snacks was staggering, and it only took two hours to get the snacks.
There were many types and quantities of snacks. Everyone got a big pack of snacks, including four bottles/box of bottled milk and small bottled milk, two cans of eight-treasure porridge, four packs of instant noodles, bags of plums, and ready-to-eat snacks.
Dried fish, etc., as well as hot dogs, the bags are heavy on the hand.
After the snacks were distributed, the children who had gone to Lejia to play had lost all their excitement and were tired of people, so they went home in groups.
Most parents of young children are on the same page as their children. When the cubs go home, the adults will naturally go home too.
So, waves of men, women, old and young, each holding a snack bag, left Lejia one after another, and the crowd dispersed like a tide.
Villagers from several neighboring villages further away also formed groups and left.
Before they went home, they sent a representative to talk to Village Chief Zhou, saying that they would have to come later to take Leya up the mountain tomorrow, or that they might not be able to come to take Leya out tomorrow because of something else.
This means that if you don’t come to Lejia for breakfast tomorrow/or don’t come tomorrow, don’t include them, otherwise the kitchen staff will include them when making the budget and cook a lot more breakfast/lunch tables, that is,
It’s tiring, but it also costs food.
Village Chief Zhou noted down each village one by one that he specifically said he would not come to Lejia for dinner tomorrow morning.
Representatives from the township hospital and school also said goodbye to Village Chief Zhou when the villagers had dispersed. They also specifically said that due to work reasons, they probably would not be able to send Le Ya up the mountain tomorrow, and expressed their deep apologies.
Village Chief Zhou thanked him and made a memo.
As the villagers dispersed, only a limited number of people stayed at Le's house to stay up late. Tables were set up in the kitchen for midnight dinner. When the diners sat down, there were a total of twenty-eight tables. Some of them had to sell livestock and were waiting for Liu.
Lu and others went to their house to kill pigs and also stayed to eat.
The women who had eaten dinner at midnight helped clear the tables. Some young and middle-aged people from several houses knew that Brother Zhou, Liu Lu and others were going to kill pigs and buy chickens and geese. Those with cars drove or followed them to help.
Village Chief Zhou noted down the names of people who were willing to help. People who are willing to help are kind-hearted people, and the owner cannot neglect them. After completing the work, they must give a thank-you gift.
The people who went shopping at starry night set out. The women washed the dishes and sorted out the uneaten dishes. After their work was done, some people went home to relax for a while, and some stayed to accompany their family members to watch the funeral.
Generally speaking, teachers don't stay up late. The teachers who came to Lejia didn't even go to rest. They all stayed up late with their masters.
There were many singers accompanying the host's family at the vigil, and they sat at five tables. After eating and resting for nearly an hour, Cheng Wu beat the drum, and the singers started the evening performance of singing filial songs.
They will contract the time for the second half of the night, which means they will sing songs in the middle of the night so that the mourning hall will not be left alone.
Leshan was still growing, so it was not advisable to stay up late. Leyun clicked on his younger brother's sleeping point, hugged him, took his cousins to kowtow to the singers, and then handed his younger brother to Mr. Yi to be sent to the south.
Sleeping on the third floor.
The four little brothers of the Chen family, including Chen Xiaozhu, Chen Xiaohe, Zhou Tianhong, Zhou Tianlan and Cao Qingyue, also refused to go to bed and followed him the whole time.
Cao Bingyue was still a child, and Le Yun also clicked on her sleeping point, and Cao Qingyue sent her to sleep at Grandma Zhou's house. Grandma Cao, Grandma Zhang San and other elderly people were all staying at Le's house to stay up all night.
Naturally, Mr. Yi and Mr. Yan did not go to bed and were chatting with their masters in the main room of the North Tower of Lejia.
Le Yun went to the temporary large kitchen in the backyard and the kitchen in the south building to check it out. She took tools and dismantled the window of the refrigerator room in the north building facing the backyard. She climbed into the refrigerator room through the window and moved 30 boxes of ingredients to the kitchen in the south building for later use.
She was moving things, Zhou Qiufeng and her cousins were packing some things in the warehouse, Le's father and cousins were guarding the mourning hall, and when a singer sang a song, the three of them went to kowtow to express their gratitude.
