Although there were several opportunities later, because Gongjian's family came to the provincial capital, so the palace did not appear temporarily, his friendship with Li Xiucai did continue. The two of them would often have a cup of tea in private occasionally.
Or go somewhere to buy things or play. In short, there is not much time, and there is no need to work hard. However, in a short period of time, the friendship between the two became deeper and deeper, so that later Li Xiucai simply invited the key to
Be a guest in your own home.
The reason why he made this decision was also a joint decision between the couple. The most important thing in Lu Xiu's heart was not his studies or his future, but his family, and his family
It only includes one person, and that is his wife.
Many people felt aggrieved for Li Xiucai and felt that his wife was not qualified enough. Anyway, it was indeed his wife's fault that she could not give birth to a son and a half for Li Xiucai. Many people even felt that Li Xiucai's wife
She was really not worthy of her husband, so people often tried to persuade Li Xiucai in private or in public, and simply said this on the other side. In fact, in a sense, it was a deliberate derogation of Li Xiucai's wife.
Whenever you encounter this kind of situation, no matter what kind of friendship he has with the person who said this to him, he will list these people as customers who refuse to deal with him, so he can become Li Xiucai's friend and continue to do so.
If you go on, this is simply a kind of certification of your character.
The agent has a talented mentality. Although his wife did not give birth to children for him, his wife is another confidant of his soul. It can be said that the two of them are extremely compatible. There has never been any reason to live together.
On the contrary, although we have different opinions on certain things, they complement each other and complement each other.
Sometimes you would rather stay at home and talk poetry with your wife than go out and face those common people, or people who would persuade him to marry another person. But for children, Li Xiucai actually
It is in a very natural state. Of course, he has also seen his friends get married, start a business, have children, and have their own families.
, his own future, his own expectations, that kind of joy made Li Xiucai feel envious, but at the same time he also saw that those people valued their children and paid a lot, and at the same time, because of the arrival of this strange life
, the whole family will undergo huge changes, which Li Xiucai is not willing to see.
I once had an old friend who was obsessed with studying, so he neglected the education of his children. Instead, he educated his children so that they could not stand out. He did not even understand the most basic principles of life, so that he was completely
Very desolate, how Li Xiucai felt
This deeply touched his heart. He felt that instead of having such unfilial children and grandchildren, it would be better to live happily with his wife He Hemei as he is now. There would be no contradictions or conflicts between the two of them, and they would not have any conflicts because of each other.
Getting angry over something inexplicable.
The rarest and most tempting thing for Li Xiucai is that he doesn't have to worry about the nondescript guys he educates, or simply crazy guys who have no bottom line. This is not only a serious harm to his family, but also a serious harm to his family.
It is an extremely irresponsible behavior towards society.
You must know that those irresponsible parents often have a miserable life, and they should. After all, they have to bear the greatest responsibility for the evil consequences they have sown. But if this matter can stop at this point, Li Xiucai will not
Will have any adverse reactions to raising a child, but often things are not as he expected and can only be controlled within the scope of a family, and the harm is often greater than what he originally imagined.
This is a little hard to believe, or hard to accept. After all, your parents raised a crazy or inhumane guy, which often caused harm to several families and even the country.
No matter how much parents blame themselves or how much they suffer, they cannot make up for the mistakes they made. After all, when a child comes into the world, it is just a blank piece of paper. How to educate and train this child will not make up for it.
It's his parents' business.
Even though Mencius said that human nature is inherently evil, this evil does not mean that human nature is inherently evil, but that human nature is inherently inclined to evil. He is more inclined to do evil to seek his own interests, rather than that he is born evil.
Yes, there is nothing you can do to reverse it. It is absolutely impossible. So when each child grows up, whether he is inclined towards evil or good depends entirely on the education of his parents.
And often a pair of irresponsible parents, or parents who are completely out of touch, parents who have never thought about how to educate their children after giving birth, in their opinion, the children should grow up on their own, or in their opinion, the children should grow up on their own.
Later, they felt that their way of raising the child was very correct. When they realized that this child
When the child is no longer under their control, or when they realize that the child is embarrassing themselves outside, they tend to blame the child instead of reflecting on the reason why the child has caused such results and is showing such various phenomena now. That is entirely because
This is the result of their subtle training through words and deeds over the years.
Let’s take the simplest example. A group of children are playing there. Some of them are wearing silk and satin, some are wearing muslin, and some are wearing burlap.
There are people wearing all kinds of patched old clothes, etc. These can only represent the economic level of each family and cannot represent any moral issues.
What we want to say is that these children wear clothes of various levels, but the cleanliness is decided by the children. Is it really decided by the children? The children are playing together,
Of course, some children are cleansed, and some children like to move after washing, so children who like to move
Children's clothes will be dirtier and more worn. Of course, quiet children's clothes should be kept cleaner than other children, but overall children cannot control it. They want to keep their own shortcuts.
Within a certain range, after all, they are still children.
But you can tell them apart at this time. No matter what material you are wearing, the cleanliness is universally measurable. When parents see this group of children, after ignoring the class differences in clothes, then
Parents of the same class will definitely pay attention to a table of cleaner children.