It is absolutely impossible to say that he has not regretted this incident. After all, after seeing that his son has gained a reputation for studying, he has gone out and is very respected outside. Not only can he
Even my son who was studying was receiving nursery rhymes, or was flattered and complimented unanimously by people who were similar to them. At that time, my grandfather felt a little uncomfortable in his heart.
He remembered that his son's husband once told him that his son still had a little talent in reading. If he worked hard and became a scholar, there should be no problem, but it would require a lot of effort on his part.
It took a lot of effort and hard work. At that time, I didn’t take this thing seriously.
He took the matter seriously and thought more about his son's suffering. He didn't want his son to endure such a hard work that ordinary people could not bear, so he gave up his son's study path. After all, being a scholar didn't mean much to him.
It was an amazing thing, after all, he had seen a lot of those poor scholars.
It sounds nice to those people who say they are scholars, but in reality, only they can know what their lives are like. More than once, he has seen the poor and impoverished scholars, each one of whom had to spend the few money they had at home.
He sells his belongings in a pawn shop to make a living. After all, in his opinion, he can't support himself if he can lift his hands but not his shoulders, and he has no main business to rely on. He really can't get on the stage, even if he passes the exam.
Scholar, so what?
It is because of this that when you know that your son's talent is limited, no matter how hard you try, he can only be a scholar. For a family like theirs, there is no hope at all.
The family does not have much land in Chu itself, so there is no tax exemption based on the reputation of a scholar. The most important thing for their family is that the income from the shops is enough to feed and drink for generations. From this point of view, he is fundamental
I don't worry about how my son will live in the future.
After all, as long as he accumulates a lot of family property for him, even if he does nothing in the future, he will be able to live a comfortable life just lying around and eating at home. The principle he has always pursued is to satisfy his son and satisfy him.
To live a life comfortably without worrying about anything is the greatest love a father can have for his son.
Of course, this has always been his belief, but it was only when his son had grown up and wandered around with nothing to do every day, and spent more time at home eating and waiting to die, that he felt a little regretful.
He didn't expect that he just wanted his son to live a smooth life, but he developed a lazy temper in his son who didn't want to do anything. Now his son lives a more relaxed and comfortable life than he does, and he has to go out every day
He went to various shops to check accounts and business conditions, and dealt with various merchants, hoping to get better prices and supply of goods. But as for his son, he really didn't do anything and just stayed at home.
For his son to stay at home and not go out to explore, and did not suffer any hardship. If this was the case when his son was young, this father must have a loving heart and look very satisfied. But when his son was young,
Already in his 20s, it was supposed to be the time to start a family and start a career. The father finally regretted it. He didn't know if his original love for his son was wrong. How could the son he taught finally change?
Now that he is like this, this is not what he wants his son to look like.
But it's too late to talk about anything at this time. After all, his status in his son's mind is no longer the upright one it was when he was a child, nor can he decide everything about his son with just one sentence. Now even if he
He pulled his son in front of him and spoke earnestly.
When he talked about life, about Shi Ye, about starting a family, etc., his son could wave his hand and completely ignore his existence. He even said that his son could turn around and leave if he was anxious. Although he would not contradict him, he would still
Completely ignoring his status and authority as a father in the family.
At this time, the father had to start to reflect on whether his method of educating his son was very biased. Why could other people's sons be well educated, and this time they could inherit their father's business and keep the family business? But when it came to him,
How did my son's place become like this? He thought hard but didn't feel that he had made any mistakes. However, he realized that the method he had chosen in the past was probably problematic, so he
I began to slowly observe how other families educate their sons.
He wouldn't know if he didn't observe it. Once he observed it, he was really shocked. Only then did he realize that it was common for children to be tired of learning when they were young. There were very few children with outstanding talents who could show their prominence in reading early.
Children like this can start studying hard on their own without any urging from adults.
A child is basically a child whose parents are in high school or in other words. They probably owed debts in their previous life, and they are here to pay off their debts in this life. Such good children are not found in every family, and it is even said that such children are definitely rare, and they can
Parents who meet such children must have accumulated a lot of money in their previous life.
But generally speaking, everyone is still like their own sons. When they were young, they would complain and say things like not wanting to study. But obviously, since most families have the ability to provide for their children to study, they don’t have the ability to do so.
It is said that because of a few complaints from the children, the children will be stopped from studying.
Of course, some sensible parents will persuade their children to reason with them, let them understand the importance of reading, and then slowly guide their children's interest in reading. This method is of course the best policy, and such children will continue to study in the future.
Achievements in this aspect are also expected. Anyway, according to this grandfather’s survey, a higher proportion of children in such families can achieve success in reading.
On the other hand, it may be due to limitations of their own construction or education. Some parents simply cannot persuade their children how to study, or tell them that only by studying can they have a future.
, but they will also adopt another method, that is, high-pressure methods, whether it is beating or scolding, or methods, they are all methods to force their children to continue studying.