On Bai Ling's first day in Beijing, no guests came to disturb him.
But on the second day, Princess Han ordered people to deliver things to Bai Ling, and there was an endless stream of guests in the Bai Mansion.
Of course, not all guests are qualified to visit at this time. This is also the rule among nobles.
Many people who are not qualified can only ask the butler to come to the door in person and deliver the gifts to the concierge without disturbing the owner, but it also shows respect.
As a money-lover, Bai Ling naturally refuses to refuse anyone who comes. This is also laying the foundation for future courtesy exchanges and ensuring that he will not be excluded by this circle in the capital in the future. Generally speaking, it is a good thing.
It was a bitter experience for Bai Xing and Liu Xing. Every day they followed several girls to count the gifts and added page after page of the dowry list for Bai Ling. The two tired little girls couldn't stop at all. They wanted to go out to visit the capital.
impossible.
"Tonight is a family dinner. Don't be restrained just because the old lady is here. You can eat and drink when you should, and make as much trouble as you want. If you really can't let go, wait until the old lady is full before you start making trouble again.
Mrs. Qin looked at the girls at the table, all of them straightened their bodies and sat down, and smiled kindly.
As the oldest elder, Mrs. Qin had no intention of putting on airs, but at this time she could only speak to break the tense situation.
Mrs. Yang's class was not as high as Mrs. Qin's. She smiled and agreed when she heard this and did not dare to mention the rules.
In addition, Baicao is pregnant now, and Bai Ling is about to marry into the Han Dynasty Palace. It is not easy for her to get into trouble, so she has to pretend that she can't see anything.
But Mrs. Yang's eyes when she looked at Baicao were a little more complicated. She really didn't like this granddaughter-in-law, but whether it was the trace of blood in Baicao's belly or the fact that Baicao had a powerful sister, Yang
The old lady can't do anything to her anymore.
"What the old lady said has gone deep into our hearts." Bai Ling said generously: "To be honest with the old lady, when we have dinner together in private, we don't have any rules, and we don't like to be bound by them.
.It’s just that there are elders around, so everyone takes out the rules they learned in the past and shows off their behavior, even after eating, they are exhausted.”
"I just like your true temperament, otherwise I wouldn't have promised Xuerou to the boy from the Liu family." Old Madam Qin said with a smile: "They are all from the past. The Qin family has not had such a status before, and I am not one of those high-ranking people.
Naturally, a daughter from a wealthy family can't hold back. So over the years, whenever I have the chance, I go back to my hometown. I don't have to deal with this and then deal with that. It's too tiring."
"The old lady is a sensible person and lives a chic life. I would like to propose a toast to you." Bai Ling followed the stick after beating the snake, and immediately raised his glass to pay tribute to the old lady Qin.
Mrs. Qin was not polite. After drinking a glass of fruit wine, she continued: "Today, we are just having a simple meal as a family. We don't talk about or pay attention to those things in the court. Let the men fight for their rights."
In the future, as women, we are responsible for managing the backyard and making ourselves happy.
You sisters are all capable and can stand upright at any time. This is what a woman should be like.
Today I will rely on my old age and tell you a few words from my heart, which is also a tip for you so that you can live more comfortably in your husband's family in the future."
"Old madam, please speak, I am all ears." Bai Ling straightened his back and made a posture of being taught.
"It's not necessary to listen carefully. If you think it makes sense, just think about it for yourself. If you think it's wrong, just pretend you haven't heard it. Although this is the experience I have gained for most of my life, in the eyes of many people, it is a fallacy and cannot be tolerated.
." When Mrs. Qin mentioned some people, she even looked at Mrs. Yang specifically.
Mrs. Yang's smile was a little awkward. She just pretended that she didn't see Mrs. Qin's eyes. She didn't know if it was appropriate to say what she had originally planned.
"You will suffer losses if you don't listen to the old man's words. The junior has always felt that this sentence has a certain truth, but it is not absolute. However, what the old lady just said, the junior agrees very much. Please give the old lady some advice!" Bai Ling said with cupped hands.
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"It saves effort to talk to people who understand, and you don't have to beat around the bush." Mrs. Qin smiled a little more happily.
After drinking a glass of wine, Mrs. Qin looked at the juniors at the table and said: "Baicao is already married, so you don't have to listen to what I say, otherwise your mother-in-law will think that I am nosy. The other girls,
You can all listen to it and see how right it is."
"Yes." The sisters responded in unison.
Mrs. Yang was a little restless. She didn't have much friendship with Mrs. Qin, but she had a certain understanding of her way of life.
"It is not easy for a woman in this world. From the moment she is born, she is regarded by her mother's family as a daughter raised by someone else's family. After she gets married, she is treated as an outsider. If she is lucky and her mother's family loves her, she can live for more than ten years.
Relaxing days.
But after all, the days after marriage are longer, and it is not easy to live in your husband's family without a husband who really cares about you to protect you.
There are also the three obediences and the four virtues, which are all constraints for women. If they fail to do one thing well, people will make irresponsible remarks, and the husband's family will also have reasons to divorce his wife..."
Mrs. Qin was talking and drinking. She told the truth. She did not choose to say something nice because Bai Ling was about to get married.
It is precisely because of this that the Bai Ling sisters listened more carefully and agreed very much.
"I am not telling you this to scare you, but I want you to understand that in this life, there will always be unsatisfactory things.
Many women may accept their fate, which is the so-called "marry the chicken and follow the chicken". But I don't want you to be like that, living for a man all your life and forgetting who you are. Such a life is too boring, and sooner or later you will become
How can a man have a crush on you, the kind of woman he hates?
No matter at any time, don't overly accommodate others. No one has the obligation to keep you inferior to others. After all, people's hearts are made of flesh. They will feel pain and have their own bottom line.
If you like to do something, you should keep doing it. Whether it is to make yourself less lonely or to give yourself a way out, don't give up easily.
You don’t want to think about what if one day, the man who said he would protect you all your life suddenly stops letting you rely on you. You should also think about the children you have after you get married. Just treat them as a model and don’t let them.
They take the humble path."
After Mrs. Qin said these words, she turned to look at Mrs. Yang, who had a dark complexion, and said kindly: "You and I are both old people, and we should look away from some things. Young people certainly have
When they are impulsive, there are things they don't do well, but without these stumbling blocks, how could they grow?
But as elders, it is not what elders should do, other than to secretly support them from behind and put obstacles in their way.
Old sister, do you think what I said is reasonable?"
"The world is like this. If you have to go against the world, is it right?" Mrs. Yang disagreed.
"The way of the world?" Mrs. Qin sneered, "The way of the world is also made by people, and is imposed on the world by those in power. Old sister, you are also from a famous family, don't you know that the way of the world has gone through thousands of changes, and there are too many changes in the world?
Are there too many changes? When people are alive, they have to look forward. Do they really want to be entrenched in ethics?"
"Etiquette, justice and integrity are of course the most important thing." Mrs. Yang replied.
"If this is really the case, why did the Yang family become estranged from their distant relatives in those years?" Mrs. Qin's tone was very calm, but she did not intend to let it go. "My position does not conflict with yours, and I will say this.
, it’s also for the sake of the children. Think about whether your life was satisfactory when you were a daughter-in-law!"
Mrs. Yang almost got up and left, but she saw Mrs. Qin raising her wine glass, "Old sister, I shouldn't have said these words, but I am also a grandmother, and I only want the best for my children.
After a few words that went too far, I apologize to you for this glass of wine." (To be continued)