Chapter 1,353 Dad will hear everything you say to Dad.
Things like movies are actually quite strange sometimes.
Movies like "Obscure" can be said to have authentic European and American styles in terms of their background and environment, but on the contrary, after being screened in China, they received more applause.
It is undeniable that there is a filter labeled Li Yi's movie.
But it is true that Chinese people are more likely to have that kind of emotional resonance when it comes to family-related movies.
To be honest, in European and American countries, fathers like John in the movie "Obscure" are actually not that common.
Because many people may not even know who their father is, this can be seen everywhere in countries where freedom is prevalent in Europe and the United States.
But on the contrary, in China, such fathers really abound.
Therefore, Li Yi finally figured out why, in his memory, "Obscurity" was unknown after it was released in Europe and the United States, but was mentioned by many people in China.
This is probably the reason.
This can be seen from the comments of domestic fans.
"It reminds me of my father. I remember that I was going to take the college entrance examination, but I never saw my father when I went back. I felt very sad. When my mother told me that my father was busy at work, I complained, when would he not be busy? But the college entrance examination
After it was over, I realized that my father was too sick to get out of bed. He hid it because he was worried about affecting me. When I saw my father lying on the hospital bed, he apologized to me as soon as he saw me. At that moment, I
Tears streaming down my face!”
"Yes, what is different from mother's love is that my father is always unknown. My father talks very little. In the past, he rarely interfered with his studies and was always silent. Later, when I heard my mother talk about it, I realized that it turned out that
It’s not that dad doesn’t care, it’s just that he’s not good at expressing himself. I heard from mom that once I won a prize in an essay competition, my dad took my certificate and looked at it all day long.”
"I miss my dad..."
"Although it is a foreign language film, there is no sense of alienation at all. Everything is so warm and sad. My father is always calm. He actually doesn't care about his own death. In other words, he is more worried about death than death.
What will happen to your son after you die?"
Li Yi's favorite film critic, Du Xianghai, will naturally not miss Li Yi's new film this time.
"To be honest, both "Obscure" and "Pumping Heart" always feel like they have a special sense of familiarity. I don't know if it's my imagination.
Although the two movies have completely different themes, I always feel that they are both oriental at their core!
Although the father in "Obscure" is adapted from a real incident in England, I went out of my way to get relevant information from Europe and the United States. In Western countries, divorce is a very common thing for many of them.
And there is another data that shows that in Western countries, a very large proportion of newborns are born with a blank in the father's column. If they are black, then it can be said that this proportion is even greater! Many children
He didn't even know who his father was when he was born.
Why do you mention this? Because what I want to say is that fathers like John in "Obscurity" are not common. I am not talking about terminal illness, but about such a father who loves his son so deeply.
It is not common in Western countries.
But if you put John into the identity of our countrymen, then you will find that everything seems to become natural.
I believe no one will find it strange. Such fathers are truly extremely common in China.
Back to the movie itself, the movie "Obscurity" tells the story of a single father who entrusted his 3-year-old son with a terminal illness before his death.
In the story, we saw the father's process from being angry to accepting death calmly. We saw the father and son's process from quarreling and throwing things to reconciling. We also saw the father running around in various families and working hard.
The hard work of finding a warm home for my son.
Perhaps this aspect makes the movie a little different for Chinese movie fans.
Because adoption is also rare in China, which is indeed different from Western countries.
Our fathers and mothers here, if they encounter such a thing, their first choice will definitely not be like John. Most of us will choose to leave our children to our most trusted friends, or relatives and friends.
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This is also the more interesting part of this movie.
In fact, the whole film is not so much about the father looking for a home for his son, but more about John letting his son make his own choice.
Although from the beginning of the movie, we have already had a premonition that the ending of this story of father and son separation must be irreversible and tragic, we still see hope and feel warmth from this slow, sad story. The reason why it heals
We were attracted by the director because the director allowed us to see a young and helpless "big-eyed cute" who has complete and unimpaired love for his father. We also saw a "tough guy" father who struggled with a poor life and at the same time had a "submissive and willing attitude".
Soft side like a "Ruzi Niu".
As the plot progresses, we see that both father and son have clearly gained the motivation for life from the love given to each other. It is like a difficult journey that has become warm and vivid because of a rainbow. Yes.
Yes, although there are too many unsatisfactory things in our life, although this road may be full of muddy and bumpy roads, for the rainbow-like warmth and the dependent and trusting eyes of our loved ones, we must
He would shake his head and move forward with a smile.
As for those five families, many people have said many things. Here, my personal understanding is that the new home John wants to find for his son actually determines his choice from the beginning, or in other words, little Mike's.
choose.
This chapter is not finished yet, please click the next page to continue reading the exciting content! Although John is not rich, he is hardworking and serious enough. In his world, apart from work, there is probably only Mike, so he can devote himself to
The love is on Mike.
Therefore, although he himself does not have the kind of family that deliberately pursues such consent, in fact, he already has such an idea subconsciously.
So for the first family, in my personal opinion, the real reason why John chose PASS was because he discovered that they might invest their father's love and mother's love in little Mike, but these are all prerequisites!
Moreover, a family like theirs can be said to be a very high-quality family among adoptive families. They have many choices, so for them, Mike may be just one of many choices, but definitely not the only one.
So, you can imagine what will happen to Mike when he fails to meet their expectations?
The same is true for the second family. They have adopted a girl. In fact, it is not a hint that if they find that after adopting Mike, they find that Mike cannot satisfy their desire for a perfect son, maybe they will still
Go ahead and adopt the next “Mike”!
The third family, in fact, I believe anyone who has watched the movie will find that such a family is a deformed existence. It is difficult not to make people secretly suspect that they have an ulterior motive for adopting so many children! Of course, even if there is not,
But in such a family, everything seems to be fair and just, but what is the difference between Mike and staying in an orphanage?
As for the last couple, I believe there is no need to say more. As John said, even if it was a rabbit, he would not let them adopt it.
Why single lady?
If you think about it carefully, it is not difficult to find that she has many similarities with Mike.
She is not that rich, but at least she can afford Mike, and Mike is one of the few choices for her.
The difference between her and John's ex-wife and Mike's mother is that Mike's mother abandoned her after giving birth, while she was forced to give up after giving birth. One gave up voluntarily, and the other was forced to lose. Between the two
It's the complete opposite.
In addition, this is also Mike's choice. In fact, Mike also longs for a mother's love, and apparently he found a little bit of it in a single woman.
Of course, there may be one more thing, and that is my thoughts as a father.
As a father, John initially hoped that his son Mike would lose his memory forever, but in fact, which father would really hope so?
But no matter which family Mike goes to, it is conceivable that he will gradually begin to forget this father.
Only if a single woman comes to adopt Mike, then she will allow, or rather hope, that Mike can remember his father.
So at the end of the film, the father left many envelopes for his son. Like the son's favorite red candles, those envelopes were also red, filled with the father's blessings to his son. Yes, of course, the father could not accompany him.
The son witnessed these shining moments together, but he wished that he was present. He hoped that the son would still look back at his father at every important node in his life. As the old woman said in the film, her mother believed that "people are
Air, not soil."
I think, just because people are air, we believe that the people we love will not just become clay and stick to one place after death, but will always surround us and accompany us. Yes, people are tangible, tangible
Things are perishable. But thoughts are intangible, and the intangible is eternal. If you think of me, then all things are me: the flowing clouds in front of you are me, the fish swimming in the river are me, and the fragrance of the soil in the rain is me.
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The son in the film has always wanted to raise a puppy, but his father, who is tired from working every day, cannot add another burden to the family. However, at the end of the film, the father resolutely sells the truck and stays with him.
His son went to an expensive amusement park to play. He also bought a goldfish for his son, and the goldfish tank clearly had the word "puppy" written on it in his son's immature handwriting.
Maybe we all want to ask for more from our parents, a colorful pen, a Disney ticket, a family trip, a lifetime of uninterrupted love... But just as sometimes we can't get the puppy we yearn for, our fathers don't.
They are not almighty gods: they will also be prejudiced by their employers and unfair in society. They are not even the winners in this society, but they will buy a goldfish for us with as little money as possible within their ability.
Compared with puppies, goldfish are not so lively. Goldfish can only swim slowly in a round, transparent tank, which symbolizes that our father can only swim slowly and dullly in this day-in and day-out work.
They are not very lively and often depressed, but the goldfish is always safe and peaceful. This is what our parents gave us: a life that lacks passion and vitality, but is stable and worry-free. And we may be that fish.
The goldfish in captivity swims in the transparent and uninterrupted water waves, is treated tenderly, and feels the same invisible and uninterrupted love.
In fact, after seeing so many new parents, the one who impressed me the most was also the last group. They firmly believe that children are the stepping stone to their own success. They have everything that rich people have, and the next step is to find a child to continue their meaning.
They are eager to prove to the male protagonist that they love children, all out of necessity, the kind of "I must find a child to love, otherwise my life will be incomplete."
This may have become the original sin of parents' selfish love, and they consider everything for themselves.
But sometimes, love itself can probably transcend the existence of ordinary meaning of life.
There is nothing wrong with shaping one's own meaning through certain identity responsibilities. It is easier said than done, and many people cannot even do this. But sometimes, parental love is difficult to fully define in terms of meaning. That is really
A kind of pain that comes from the heart and cuts into the flesh.
It was the ordinary and ordinary companionship that the window cleaner father couldn't let go of every moment.
Speaking of ordinary, the texture of the whole film is particularly like a diary. The climactic scene between father and son has never shown the inseparability, but the emotion is hidden in the son's eyes at the end of the film, which may change in the next second.
Crying for hugs. Just like John imitating his son to play childish games in the end, but bursting into tears.
But this is not important, because all the love, reluctance, sadness, and longing are hidden in the gaze. The audience will cry in the dark heart or in the subtitles after watching it.
But then again, the journey of finding new parents for his son actually made the father finally let go of death. The real necessity came not from the pursuit and desire for meaning, but from death.
This is how the father finally explained his death to his son. One day, I will leave my body, but I will enter the air. I will always be with you and love you.
If you want to talk to me, you can tell me, use your heart, dad may not be able to answer you, but dad promises you, dad will hear every word you say to dad!
We don’t know whether the soul exists or not, but we do know that when we miss someone, we always hope that he can hear us!”
