Chapter 1,606 The most terrifying thing in the world is forgetting
After "Father Trapped in Time" was released, it was amazing. Although some people said it was a bit confusing and some couldn't understand it, most of them had various praises and interpretations of the movie.
Especially after it was released in China, the reputation, ratings, and topic popularity were even more exaggerated than those abroad.
Of course, it may also be because Chinese people are more emotional when it comes to family ties.
In other words, compared to foreigners, who may get married and divorced many times in their lifetime, people in China, especially those of their aging fathers' generation, almost always have one couple for their whole life.
Du Xianghai, Li Yi's favorite film critic, used a very Chinese title: "The most terrifying thing in the world is forgetting!"
"Time always comes and goes without a trace. When we were young, our parents expected us to grow up quickly, but they were getting older slowly.
Maybe one day, we accidentally find that our parents' hair has turned gray, and we will feel that our parents are old...
From childhood to adulthood, our closeness to our mothers is far greater than our dependence on our fathers. They all say that father's love is like a mountain. Father's love is so deep and speechless that it washes away the fine ornaments, leaving behind the warmest harbor for the hesitant soul.
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The film's unique narrative style and warm story of father-daughter love have moved countless audiences. Those who have watched the film said: "Both the story and the performance are impeccable." Perhaps everyone who has watched the film
The audience all thought of their families and their elderly father.
"Anthony, that's a good name." At the end of the film, when he murmured this line, we couldn't help but burst into tears. As an audience, it was difficult for us to distinguish between the people in the play and the outsiders.
We have said countless times that we should cherish time and spend more time with our parents, but only when our parents can't really walk up the stairs will we realize that time really does not wait for anyone.
The final destination in life may be like this...
When fathers and mothers grow old, when we also become parents, generation after generation, perhaps this is life.
But it’s scary to think about it carefully.
Additionally, the film speaks with tenderness and sensitivity about aging and forgetting that each of us will encounter. It warmly conveys the deep love of the relationship between a parent and her daughter.
This film is not a so-called family film. It is mixed with elements of a suspense film and even a bit of a thriller. But no matter what factors are mixed in, it cannot be denied that this is a good movie.
The male protagonist, the old father, presents a passionate symphony that infects and perpetuates our lives. Just like the dusk for everyone, it is sinking day by day...
The sunset is infinitely beautiful, but it’s almost dusk! But the fact is that for patients with Alzheimer’s disease, the sunset is not beautiful at all.
Looking back over the years, my father is no longer the upright, seven-foot-tall man. For the sake of his children, he tried every means to change himself and contained his love in every stitch, every letter from home, and every little thing.
Even if the years have turned our temples white, they will still tirelessly tell us how to be ourselves, pave the way to success for us, and let us go on firmly.
I hope this movie can help more people understand and accompany their fathers. The world is big, but family is the biggest.
We all know that birth, old age, illness and death are inevitable, and the movie tells the story of one of the heaviest things in the world - growing old.
What is more frightening than death is the diseases that people face as they continue to decline, and the torture that comes with the natural degradation of body functions. This is even more serious for the current common phenomenon of aging society.
It is a serious problem that deserves attention and concern, and Alzheimer's disease, which has not been overcome so far, occupies a very heavy proportion and has become a vulnerable group that cannot be ignored in society.
Many people say that old age and death are the fairest things. I remember a biologist who contracted Alzheimer's disease in old age and decided to go to Switzerland to end his life through euthanasia. Without any hesitation, he said that he had no choice but to go to Switzerland.
Forget everything about living like a zombie, die with dignity, and do not want to be a burden or burden to your children.
The family has good financial conditions and can indeed receive proper care and at least maintain a certain dignity. However, when you see the father in the nursing home in the film looking for his daughter in panic and crying in the nurse's arms, no doubt this is also true.
The normal way the middle class treats sick elderly people, blames or understands them, involves the actual situation and moral ethics. Every family has its own sutras that are difficult to recite, and there are no absolutes.
How to cure this disease that plagues countless people is a topic that the medical community has been studying!
It is also a problem that many individuals and families are constantly struggling with and brain-wracking. How to take care of it? How to survive? The dignity of life, the past glory, and the ability to take care of oneself, past experiences, and even the most basic understanding, with the passage of time
They are all further disintegrating, deteriorating and passing away. The insignificance and passivity of human beings are like an inconspicuous grain of dust, and cannot tolerate the slightest resistance, until they are finally swallowed up by time, helpless and sad.
Reading the comments, some fans said that if one day, he became like Anthony, then he would choose to leave this world.
This may be a thought of many young people nowadays, but at each stage of life, thoughts will change dramatically.
When you get to that day, maybe you still think like that, but this you is no longer you!
In an Alzheimer's disease training video, an old woman was seen desperately searching for and trying to break through every exit. It seemed incredible to outsiders, but in her world, her young daughter
She was crying hoarsely, but she could only hear the sound, but could not find her daughter. She was so distraught that she almost cried, but she was surrounded by indifferent people. She felt that her heart was about to break.
The same is true for Anthony. He still doesn't understand what happened. He doesn't understand why everyone is lying. Why everyone is denying what happened yesterday. Why is he being questioned by his son-in-law even though he lives in his own apartment?
: "How long are you going to stay here and annoy everyone?"
Anthony loved his youngest daughter Lucy deeply. He remembered that she could draw and was beautiful and lovely, but he did not remember that she had passed away due to an accident. His eldest daughter Anne took good care of him, but he expressed to his face that she only wanted to take over his apartment and stabbed her in the chest.
She even tried to kill her father in her fantasy. He was eventually sent to a nursing home, but still didn't know where he was.
Every day the nurse would tell him again: "Your daughter is in Paris, not in London." He looked at the nurse with surprise, as if she was lying, and the next day he would still forget it, and only Anne's words remained in his memory.
If I ever said: "I won't go to Paris, I will always be in London."
I once saw on the news that an old man walked across countless blocks to arrive somewhere and waited all day.
He didn't even know what he was waiting for, but he just had to wait. Later, his daughter came to look for him and found out that he was keeping an appointment, an appointment that had already passed twenty years ago!
But he had long forgotten that he had already fulfilled this agreement! But that person was no longer there.
I want to talk about some of the things I learned after watching the movie.
First of all, when we lose our memory, we also lose our life!
The movie uses an almost thriller format to bring us into Anthony's "dislocated" memory.
Daughter, son-in-law, caregiver, doctor, daughter's boyfriend... When you can't control your memory, and you can't even recognize your own relatives, the gap formed by the memory in the brain is like falling into hell.
It is this bit by bit of love that we can remember in life, the people and memories we want to remember make up our life and meaning.
In my opinion, the real horror of Alzheimer's disease is not that life is gradually withering away, but that when memories become blurred, those elderly people begin to lose their grip and cannot remember everything they were once proud of. No matter it is
Apartment, family or time.
Secondly, when we are born, as babies we hold our hands tightly and want to hold on to everything. However, life is just a journey that teaches us to gradually let go.
Just like the father in the movie. Even as he gets older and his memory begins to blur, he still remembers what he wants to grasp:
I want to hold on to the house that I have worked hard for all my life; I want to keep my little daughter who has passed away; I want to keep his watch;
I want to keep those beautiful memories of my loved ones...
In the end, he found that nothing could be saved. He even forgot his own name and whether he liked coffee or tea.
Thirdly, if you only miss those things that have been lost and ignore what you have in front of you, you will eventually find that even those things you have will be far away from you.
The father in the movie always talks about his little daughter, missing her as an excellent painter, missing her always acting coquettishly with him. But he doesn't like the eldest daughter who has been silently taking care of him...
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He even maliciously speculated that his daughter only took care of him because she wanted to plan his property.
Treating one over the other without truly caring about the person in front of you will only hurt those who truly love you.
Then, you are busy because of life, painful because of pressure...and the so-called hard work, in turn, is also a kind of happiness, because it means that you are still young and strong!
One of the most poignant scenes in the movie was when an old father who was over eighty years old learned that his only relative, his eldest daughter, was about to leave the city. He stubbornly said that he did not need anyone's company or comfort.
After his daughter left, he went to the supermarket to buy something. He stood alone in the kitchen and hummed, stuffing the plastic bag into his pocket, but he didn't know what to do next. He stood there blankly, confused.
Rather than being busy because of life, what is really sad is having nothing to do, no direction and life goals, and the sense of being not needed by society.
Also, don’t forget to thank the people around you who love you.
Sometimes we are always stingy in thanking the people we love the most.
The eldest daughter in the movie has actually been doing her best to love her father. Under the doctor's advice and her husband's complaints, she still couldn't bear to send her sick father to a nursing home...
The impatient husband called her and rushed home. After she put on a sweater for her father, her father casually said to his eldest daughter: "Thank you, Annie, for everything you have done."
Although there were only a few words, my daughter burst into tears instantly.
In fact, those meticulous efforts and unrequited love are the most precious things in this world.
It is actually understandable that some children suddenly give up after taking care of their elderly parents for this type of Alzheimer's disease for a long time.
Because the father who is trapped in time not only traps himself, but also traps the people around him!
Finally, the most touching scene of the movie happened at the end, when Anthony finally began to realize that he was in a nursing home. The old man, who was over eighty years old, cried tremblingly, like a child, he had no sense of security. Not only
Because I lost everything I had in the past, because I was abandoned by my loved ones, and because I felt helpless towards reality.
Finally he said: "I miss my mother...I want my mother..."
I suddenly remembered a sentence written in a book I read recently: "Emotional experience is the basic factor that shapes our personality. Babies rely on their mothers not because they feed them, but because they hold them and sing to them.
Stare into their eyes."
When we can still love our father and mother, when we can still hug them, chat with them, stare at them and accompany them, please don't be stingy anymore, because the only fate we have is to meet in this life.
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This chapter is not finished yet, please click on the next page to continue reading the exciting content! The long-lost song "Father" suddenly sounded in your ears!
Slow down time and don't let you grow old again. I am willing to spend my life in exchange for your longevity.
But every time this song plays, I feel that my father is getting older.
Back to the movie, in fact, the movie does not tell the story entirely from the perspective of his father Anthony. In addition to the perspective of Anthony's "father", there is another hidden perspective in the story, which is the perspective of his daughter Anne, as a caregiver.
.As her father's only daughter, her responsibility is irrefutable, and her pain must be real.
In the movie, there is a scene where Anne wants to strangle her father. Some people say that this is her father's deranged hallucination, but in my opinion, this is undoubtedly Anne's fantasy. In fact, the daughter is also a human being. Anthony is trapped in time, which is painful and terrifying.
She lived every day happily, but to whom did she tell Anne's pain?
Her pain originated from her father, but this pain could not be eliminated. Her sister died in an accident, and she lost her external support and could only take care of her father alone.
Her father's temper became increasingly erratic due to aging, and outsiders would even accuse her, saying that she wanted to rob his apartment, so she pretended to take care of him, and viciously cursed her daughter. Anne could only endure it silently, who could really accuse a slowly
An old man who has lost his mind?
Understanding our lives from these two perspectives, we will have completely different understandings. We may be born differently, but the end point is the same. Everyone has to face loneliness at the end of life. There is no
Who can help you resist this destined loneliness? We can only try our best to live our own lives. When the self slowly dies, we can only accept it. In the end, we are all trapped in time.
