Chapter 570 The Psychological Counseling Center opened by Song Yingying
Song Yingying smiled and said, "You can get paid to listen to my story!"
"Okay, I'll cover all the milk tea for all employees in the company today." Li Yile laughed.
Song Yingying nodded: "But there is one premise. I will not involve the true identity of my patients, so the cases I mention are all pseudonyms!"
"I know this. You have to protect the patient's privacy, which is what you should do. I'm just bored and want to hear about this psychological counseling case." Li Yi half-reclined on the chair and began to wait for Song Yingying's explanation.
Song Yingying then said: "Then let me listen to an audio for you, about the explanations of some of my patients. Of course, the sound of this audio has also been processed, not the original sound."
Afterwards, Song Yingying played an audio clip on her computer.
Soon, a sound came from the computer.
At the beginning, it was Song Yingying's voice: "Zhang, male, 20 years old, a student of No. 1 Middle School in the city. This student has studied very well since childhood and often ranks first in exams. The following is his original complaint."
After a while, a young man's voice appeared.
"I have been very dishonest since I was a child. When I was in elementary school, I broke my arm and often got into fights with others. People came to my door almost every day. When people came to my door with their children, my father got very angry and beat me.
I was beaten almost every day, but I still refused to change. I refused to obey anyone since I was a child and was very bold."
"When I got to junior high school, I still studied very well, but I still didn't change my bad habits, and I often had quarrels with the teacher. Once, I had a fight with the principal again, and he refused to let me go to school. Later, my father apologized to the principal, and after many twists and turns
, I reluctantly went to school again.”
Song Yingying made an analysis at the end of this paragraph: "After I was admitted to high school, my problems have not changed.
Just one week after entering high school, he and two other people got into a fight with a senior classmate. He was severely punished by the school and received a serious warning.
However, soon he teamed up with others to seriously injure another classmate, causing him to be hospitalized for two months. He incurred a lot of medical expenses and was expelled from the school.
Thanks to all the hard work, I was able to come back to school two months later after writing a letter of guarantee."
Zhang: "After that fight, the two of us were driven home. When I went home, I saw my family members running around all day over my affairs, with frowning faces. I felt very uncomfortable, so I made up my mind to get rid of my old habits and
Write down how to behave in the future in a notebook at home."
"After I returned to school, I followed my instructions conscientiously and was very cautious. In the first few days, apart from exchanging greetings with my classmates, I didn't say anything else. Occasionally, when I was with my classmates, it was not like before.
That way, just saying some superficial things, my classmates said that I have changed a lot.
After a few days, I felt very uncomfortable, and gradually started to talk more, but I was still very careful about my words and deeds. Sometimes I got into trouble with other classmates, and for fear of offending others, I started to make random suspicions.
Sometimes I feel very nervous when I see other people's eyes looking a little strange, or their facial expressions when talking to me are slightly different from before. I also pay great attention to the teacher's expression when he sees me, and I will think wildly if I notice anything at all.
At the same time, I am also very concerned about the opinions and evaluations of my teachers and classmates. If I have a little quarrel with some classmates, I am afraid that they will say bad things about me behind my back, so I work hard to maintain a good relationship with all my classmates.
But some of the bad habits I had in the past could not be changed. I always wanted to show off that I was better than others when something happened. At the same time, after that incident, people in the village also had new changes in their views on me. Therefore, after I went to school again, I was very careful and felt that I was better than others.
If I get expelled and go home again, I simply won’t be able to stay in the village, so I have to think twice before doing anything, and every time I do a small thing, I have to think over whether I should do it or not.”
"Later on, especially during exams, I started to get anxious. If I saw a small crack on the pen tip, I would use transparent glue to fix it. Although it didn't affect my writing, I still felt awkward and kept thinking about it.
I knew in my heart that it was okay and I shouldn't think about it, but I kept thinking about it, which made me very irritable and affected my exam. Later, during the exam, I occasionally felt that the soles of my shoes were a little uneven and my belt was a little tight, and I felt very uncomfortable. I kept thinking about it and couldn't think about it.
Ignore it, but the more I think about it, the more I think about it. In fact, the soles of the shoes are very flat at all, and the waistband is not tight.
From then on, I would think about it in class and not be able to study well. Later, it developed to the point where I would think about it when I saw something dirty or a little thread on my clothes. This problem lasted for almost a year."
"Later, I started to think that other people and things were dirty, and I was always worried that others would infect me with some disease. Once, I accidentally dropped a pen on the ground, and I thought that maybe someone had spit where the pen fell, or maybe someone's
I stepped on it with my shoes, so I felt very dirty. After touching the pen, I didn't dare to touch anything.
Another time, a classmate had an operation. I knew that this disease was not contagious at all, but I was still very worried. Sometimes when this classmate touched me, I became very nervous and wiped the area on my clothes that I touched several times.
rest assured."
"Later, I started to think wildly about questions that I shouldn't have thought about in my studies. For example, 3 is 1/2 of 6 and 1/2 times of 3 6. I doubted it. I knew in my heart that they meant the same thing, but I still doubted it, so I searched for each
I am constantly doubting myself, making me dizzy and uncomfortable. Even when I am buying something, I always doubt my calculations."
When Li Yi heard this, the audio ended.
He asked Song Yingying: "Why is this? Why did he become like this?"
Song Ying has explained: "He suffers from obsessive-compulsive disorder, and the typical feature of obsessive-compulsive disorder is the coexistence of conscious self-compulsion and conscious self-anti-compulsion. The conflict between the two causes the patient to be very painful. From the situation reported by the student, we can see
It turns out that he suffers from obsessive-compulsive neurosis, that is, obsessive thoughts accompanied by obsessive behaviors."
Li Yi didn't know these professional terms, so he asked Song Yingying to keep it simple.
Song Yingying shrugged, "Simply speaking, obsessive-compulsive disorder is a stress-type neurosis that is often caused by major real-life events."
"After Zhang was expelled for fighting, he faced the triple pressure of school, family and villagers' opinions on him, and developed a strong repentance mentality. Therefore, since returning to school, he has been very cautious in dealing with others, and he is completely different from before.
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"But because his problem has been around for a long time, he is worried that he will not be able to overcome it and will once again arouse the dissatisfaction of his classmates and teachers. Therefore, he is very sensitive to the reactions of teachers and classmates, so he strengthens self-restraint. The more he restrains himself, the more he worries about other people's opinions and the crux of the conflict.
As a result, as the pressure increases and conflicts deepen, conflicts and conflicts deform, from worrying about other people's opinions to paying attention to one's own objects and related body parts, and later to suspicion of others, and finally to concern about others.
Doubts about learning content.”
"In fact, the formation of obsessive-compulsive symptoms often takes the background of obsessive-compulsive personality. He originally had a cheerful, bold, nonchalant, and informal personality. After experiencing that incident, he tried to change his personality. Because the way of change and improvement was incorrect, he went to the opposite direction again.
On the other extreme, the personality becomes sensitive, suspicious, withdrawn, rigid and timid, which results in obsessive personality traits.”
After listening to this, Li Yi felt very surprised.
He originally thought that the most obsessive-compulsive disorder was that he would click on a message on WeChat; he would click on a red dot in his circle of friends; he would withdraw and repost if he made a typo.
But he didn't expect that classmate Zhang would actually become obsessive about himself because of the fight.
He continued to ask Song Yingying: "Are there any similar cases like these?"
Song Yingying nodded and continued: "These days, a company clerk said that in the five years since she started working, her interpersonal relationships in the workplace have become worse and worse, and even her mood when she returned home was not good. Recently, she has even
Her best friend also had a conflict with her, and she didn’t know what to do to change everything. When she returned home and talked to her husband, he suggested that she talk to a psychological counselor.”
Afterwards, Song Yingying played another piece of audio.
The voice was that of a girl with a northern accent. She let out a long sigh: "I think I am a person who is easy to get along with and is good to others. However, as time goes by, I find that the people who have a good relationship with me will become more and more...
Far away. I can’t figure out why this happens. I have been working in this unit for five years. My colleagues who used to get along well with me are now unwilling to be with me. Especially my best friend Yueyue, who works in the same office
Sitting there, you are also very cold to me now."
Song Yingying asked Tingting: "What happened between you and Yueyue?"
Tingting replied: "Yueyue came later than me. When she first arrived at the company, she didn't know anyone. I thought I should take care of the newcomer, so I helped her a lot, so our relationship became better and better.
I am a good friend. I am really good to her and I always consider her first in almost everything. But for some reason, some time ago, Yueyue started to alienate me. I was very angry and asked her why she was alienating me. She actually refused to admit it and even
Said she thought it was good."
After listening, Li Yi directly gave her thoughts: "Everyone needs a certain distance between people. She is indeed very good to others, but if the distance between each other is too close, the other person will feel
My personal space has been invaded, and I feel uncomfortable and want to keep distance from you."
He raised his head and asked Song Yingying: "Am I right?"
Song Yingying nodded: "That's true. Anthropologist Dr. Hall divided four types of distance into interpersonal relationships: public distance, social distance, personal distance and intimate distance.
The range of public distance is 3.7-7.6 meters, suitable for unfamiliar conversations and informal situations; the range of social distance is 1.2-3.6 meters, suitable for ordinary workplaces or more formal relationships; the range of personal distance is 0.45-1.2
Meters, suitable for familiar but not too close relationships; the range of intimate distance is the smallest, within 0.15 meters, and there may be skin contact between each other.
Everyone has their own standards and feelings about distance, and they have a certain degree of flexibility. In public places where private space cannot be considered, people's requirements for distance will be relatively reduced and they will accept the current status; however, in public places where there is enough space,
In public places, people's requirements for personal distance will be adjusted according to their inner feelings.
Compared with the external spatial distance, the inner "spatial distance" is more important. In the external space, what friends need to maintain is "personal distance"; while in the internal space, what friends need to maintain is "respect."
Approach the other person based on their feelings.”
Listening to Song Yingying talking about these professional terms, Li Yi even felt that she should have opened a psychological counseling center long ago.
A kind person like her should help others.
Li Yi suddenly thought of something and asked: "By the way, wasn't there a boy who said he wanted to chase you before? Isn't there any further information?"
Song Yingying rolled her eyes at him and said speechlessly: "If I don't feel anything, I just don't feel anything. It's impossible for me to fall in love with a boy who doesn't feel anything, right?"
Li Yi smiled and said, "I don't know what kind of boy you like."
Just when he was about to complain, his phone rang, so Li Yi stood up: "Okay, you go ahead and I'll come back to you another day."
After saying that, he walked out.
Song Yingying looked at Li Yi's leaving figure and muttered: "Don't you know what kind of boy I like?"
"Master Xing? It's really you!" Li Yi was quite surprised when he heard that the other person was Zhou Xingchi. You must know that Master Xing has always been his favorite actor!
"Xiaoyi, I went to the cinema to watch your new movie Journey to the West today. The quality is very good. It's really surprising. I am now a fan of yours..." Zhou Xingchi said with excitement and smile in his tone.
Praise Li Yi for being so good.
These words really don't sound like much to Li Yi. After all, since his debut, his acting skills and works have been receiving attention and recognition from all parties. Many big stars and even CCTV news have praised him, so he has long been accustomed to it.
But if what Master Xing said to him was known to other people in the circle, their jaws would definitely drop!
After all, Mr. Xing has a rather withdrawn personality and a relatively hard-working personality. All the actors who have worked with him think that he is difficult to get along with. It is extremely difficult to hear compliments from him!
But the compliments he said to Li Yi were simply more than what he had said to everyone else in his life combined. How could he not make people crazy!
"So, I hope you can agree to participate in my next work as the leading actor, which is called "The King of Comedy". I think the leading role must be you, and I sincerely invite you!" Zhou Xingchi praised Li Yi.
After talking about it for a while, we finally got to the point.
As soon as these words came out of his mouth, Zhou Xingchi suddenly became nervous, fearing that Li Yi would reject him.
"Okay!" What he didn't expect was that Li Yi agreed without hesitation.
Because when he heard the name "The King of Comedy", he recalled that it was a classic movie with a score of nine or more.
"What?" Zhou Xingchi felt a little unbelievable. After all, Li Yi was famous in the industry for being very picky about accepting roles. He had heard about it, but he really didn't expect that the other party would agree so easily!
"I said I do!" Li Yi thought he didn't hear clearly, so he repeated it again.
"Okay, okay! Great! Great!" Mr. Xing laughed happily, and then asked with some doubts: "Xiaoyi, I heard that you are very strict in selecting scripts, like
Zhang Yimou, Director Chen and other great directors invite you, but you often reject them. Why do you agree before I even show you the script before I open my mouth?"
"Hahahaha, that's because I have been a fan of your movies since I was a child. I like all your movies. I am naturally very willing to have the opportunity to cooperate with you. I don't worry even if I don't have to read the script!" Li Yi
boasted casually,
"Hahahahaha...Okay, okay! Just promise, just promise!" Zhou Xingchi was even more happy and excited, laughing heartily.
Like Li Yi, after Zhou Xingchi became famous, he was used to hearing praises. There were many people who said nicer things than Li Yi. If Li Yi had said what he just said, he would not have felt anything if it had been said by anyone.
But when these words came out of Li Yi's mouth, he was extremely touched!
Later, Zhou Xingchi said that he was busy filming The Mermaid recently, and the script for the next "The King of Comedy" was actually not completely written.
Li Yi's talent is not limited to being an actor. He is also an extremely good screenwriter, director, and even a songwriter. Therefore, he hopes that Li Yi will not only star in "The King of Comedy", a movie he has been planning for many years.
, you can also participate in its production.
Li Yi naturally agreed to this, which made Zhou Xingchi overjoyed.
"But, I have a condition! If I can't agree to this condition, I won't act!" Li Yi suddenly rolled his eyes and smiled slyly.
"You can make whatever conditions you want, as long as I can do it, I will definitely comply with it!" Zhou Xingchi, who was in high spirits, said without hesitation.
"Except for you, Mr. Xing, no one can fulfill my conditions!" Li Yi said with a smile.
"I hope Mr. Xing can come out and at least make a cameo in "The King of Comedy"!"
This request immediately made Zhou Xingchi feel a little embarrassed. He also knew that Li Yi had good intentions. After all, in the years since he completely turned behind the scenes, countless movie fans have been looking forward to him starring in movies again.
Without hesitating for too long, Zhou Xingchi took a deep breath and said with a helpless smile: "Xiao Yi, to be honest, no one dares to use this condition to "blackmail" me. Even if they did, I would definitely not agree.
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"But who said you are the one who said this? I can understand your mood, okay, I will promise you!"
Seeing that Zhou Xingchi agreed to his conditions, Li Yi was also very happy, and everyone was happy.
The two chatted for a while and then hung up the phone.
Li Yi decided to tell the staff of Guoke Film and Television this news, because they were about to collaborate with the comedy master!
