"The key thing is that Han Yan fulfills what he said during the training. I think at this point, I know that Han Yan is a woman who cannot be compared to men.
The attitude of doing what he says and the way he keeps his word is far better than many men in this world, making them ashamed of themselves.
From now on, I don’t dare to look down on her anymore.”
Shang Baifeng said his opinion with a smile.
"So, you originally looked down on Han Yan?"
Xie Liuyun asked deliberately.
"How can I not? I originally thought she was a bit unruly and had a strong temper, so I didn't want to argue with her on some things.
To be honest, reasoning with girls will really give you a headache. Let’s not talk about whether the truth can be explained clearly. Even if it makes sense and is understood, what will happen?
She will still do what she should do, but you can't argue with her over such a thing to the point of ignoring her, right?
After arguing for a long time, what will happen in the end?
Out of your responsibility for her, even if she still insists on her wrong opinions and does things in incorrect ways, don't you have to help her keep an eye on her to prevent her from getting into trouble?"
When asked by Xie Liuyun, Shang Baifeng suddenly felt a lot of emotions, and all of them fell in love with Xie Liuyun.
"Um……"
Xie Liuyun nodded and made a summary based on his own understanding of the situation Xie Liuyun said.
"That means that when getting along with a girl, you should do more and talk less. Don't try to convince her with words, but let the facts tell her what is right and what is wrong.
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This approach will not hurt the natural pride of girls, nor will it hurt each other's relationships and feelings.
Indisputable facts are better than eloquent education, and objective language without purpose is also the most acceptable discourse.
After I graduated from school and went to work, I was exposed to construction sites and mechanical equipment all day long, and what I was busy with every day was working with my face facing the loess and my back turned to the sky.
This kind of environment and experience tells me that every choice and decision you make will definitely give you a result in the future.
And whether the result is good or bad depends on how hard you work before you get a result."
After Shang Baifeng thought about Xie Liuyun's words, the more he thought about it, the more reasonable he felt.
When he was still thinking about the meaning of Xie Liuyun's words, he heard Xie Liuyun say: "About how to get along with others, it is like washing the used dishes after a meal. Soak them in hot water and wash them to remove the grease stains.
The effect is always better than rinsing with cold water.
But this is only for used "oil". Wasted "oil" does need to be cleaned up in time.
Otherwise, it will bring a lot of inconvenience to your life.
Although "oil" is insoluble in water and is slippery and sticky and difficult to clean off, that doesn't mean there's no way to get rid of it.
As long as you simply heat the water and use it with soap powder, you can easily wash away the oil stains attached to the dishes.
This illustrates another truth, that is, it is very important to deal with things in the correct way. If the method is appropriate, you will get twice the result with half the effort, and vice versa if you are inefficient, you will get twice the result with half the effort.
Generally speaking, effective communication can play an unexpected role in many cases.
The truth is simple and not complicated, the key lies in how you figure it out and understand it."
Xie Liuyun's words made Shang Baifeng suddenly enlightened, and he began to reflect on whether his attitude and behavior in getting along with Huang Hanhan were problematic.
"Liuquan, I understand. When dealing with things, as long as you are willing to use your brain, make good use of the things you can use, and adopt the correct approach, you will achieve your goals."
"By the way, understanding must come from tolerance, and being moved must come from sincerity.
We didn't know much about Han Yan at first. Although we never had any ill intentions when getting along with her, one fact that cannot be denied is that we didn't really consider her happiness, anger, sorrow, and joy.
Regarding this aspect, I have not done enough and I need to do some self-reflection.
This time Han Yan served as the temporary head of the General Guard in Anqiu for more than ten days. Without any delay in the affairs of the General Guard, the courtyard was also tidy and tidy as new, in line with Ming Gong's previous requirements.
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The key point is that Hanyan has a positive idea to proactively solve the problem of insufficient functions of existing facilities and turn them into perfect and practical facilities that have been idle for a long time.
For the convenience of future living, she set up a separate kitchen and kitchen without expanding the buildings in the courtyard, which brought direct convenience to our lives.
From this point alone, Han Yan is an example that the two of us should learn from.
This is why Mr. Ming was able to say, ‘It feels a little different to have a woman take charge of the house.’”
"Ming Gong said something like this? Although I didn't hear it, if I had just come back and saw this situation in the courtyard, I would probably have the same emotion."
Xie Liuyun's words triggered a resonance in Shang Baifeng's heart towards Yong Ming's attitude, and also made him think deeply.
"Let's go. Let's go to the kitchen together. I'll carry the kettle to pour water for Ming Gong. You stay and help Han Yan do things.
She won't let you stay in the kitchen. She says she's afraid that you won't be able to cook and will cause trouble to her. But in fact, she doesn't want you to get involved in these trivial things?
Who said that things in the kitchen can only be done by women, and that this is what women should do as a matter of course?
If we men do nothing when meal time comes every day, and just wait for the food to be served, then stretch out our hands and open our mouths to eat, wouldn't we become the "big man" in the family and the "overlord" in the team?
Han Yan and we are members of the same team, and we must never do such disrespectful things."
Xie Liuyun suggested that the two of them go to the kitchen, and then explained why he wanted Shang Baifeng to help Huang Hanhan.
"Liuquan, please stay with me and help Han Yan. I get a little nervous when facing Han Yan, and I am always afraid that she will talk about me."
Shang Baifeng knew that what Xie Liuyun said was right, but he seemed a little embarrassed and begged Xie Liuyun to accompany him to help Huang Hanhan.
Xie Liuyun shook his head when he saw this and said: "It's inappropriate for the two of us to stay in the kitchen. It's too cramped and crowded to cram three people into the small space at once.
This kitchen room is no different from any other place. Apart from the stove, there are also chopping boards, knives, dishes and basins. If you don't pay attention, it's easy for something to happen.
Moreover, we cannot let Mr. Ming stay alone in the training classroom for too long. I will go over and talk with him to discuss the future operations."