Before books were spread in the streets and mobile phones had not become a mainstream product that everyone had, the spread of our experience mainly relied on word of mouth.
The older generation turns their experiences into little stories they hear and tell to the children around them, or to explain their children when they encounter difficulties, or to tell their own life experiences one by one.
Speak it out.
In this way, there is a legacy.
It is precisely because of inheritance that we can have such a cultural heritage. The stone statues and stories of the Twenty-Four Filial Piety still stand in some parks and mountain roads. The wooden table corners and the patina on the walnuts record these histories. Although they have been dusty for a long time, they are still there.
It doesn't have any taste either.
Many people think that raising children is a very difficult thing, and that is exactly the case.
When the child is young, he can be coaxed, beaten, and taught. It feels like the child has grown up in the blink of an eye.
Then he started to be rebellious and disobedient. There were always many conflicts between father and son, and between mother and son. Life became unhappy, and the daily necessities of life had an accompaniment called quarrels.
Why is there such a situation?
Many people don’t understand. Many parents think that I am doing my best for my child, but the child still confronts me at every turn! This is just to collect debts.
Is it feasible for them to use the experience passed down by the older generation to teach the next generation?
Some are feasible and some are not, because many people will become results-oriented after experiencing the baptism of society, but raising children is a process.
Psychology is no longer limited to the psychological problems of adults. The psychological problems of children have also become a separate subject. Slowly, some people began to pay attention to the psychological conditions of children. The original idea of filial sons emerging from the stick began to be cast aside.
In fact, this is a bit of an overgeneralization.
There is a phenomenon that will be remembered by many people, that is, in schools, the relationship between many students and teachers seems to be good, but those bad students, students who were severely punished by teachers when they were in school, do not
Many years after graduation, I still maintain a very good relationship with my teacher, and even give him New Year gifts during the holidays.
After those good students leave school, many years will pass and many of them will forget their teachers and stop contacting them.
Some people say that bad students are more thoughtful, while others say that good students become less innocent after experiencing the baptism of society.
But in fact, people are all the same. When they go to school, no matter they are good students or bad students, they are just children. When they enter the society, their academic qualifications may be different, but sometimes they are indeed the same.
We can see many examples. Some bad students dropped out of school early and did not continue to go to school.
However, those good students went to college, went to graduate school, and then graduated with high diplomas. Finally, after many twists and turns, they ended up working under classmates who had previously gone to work overseas before finishing school.
At this time, some people began to say that going to college was useless, and in the end, no one was doing well.
But even if you don't go to school and dropped out of school with others, can you really get to the same level as others?
not necessarily.
So whether you are a good student or a bad student, those who enter the society are almost the same to a certain extent. One is studying on campus, and the other is training in the university of society.
But why are their attitudes towards teachers so different?
This is the difference between providing help in times of need and adding icing on the cake. The teacher's education may be a bit violent, or it may be as warm as a spring breeze, which may make students very disgusted at the time.
But it still depends on your heart.
Children are always rebellious. If they are not rebellious, they seem to be lacking something. Bad students are actually children who have gone astray. They need someone to guide them, someone to beat and scold them, so that they can wake up and understand what they want.
What exactly is.
Confucius said that there is no distinction between education and distinction, which actually includes a lot of psychological knowledge.
The humiliation and scolding at that time may have passed for many years. After they enter the society, they will slowly discover that the teacher was really doing it for their own good, so they will be grateful and feel sorry for their behavior at that time.
Guilt, and this guilt mixed with gratitude will only make the gratitude stronger.
Then I think about repayment. Many people have gratitude buried in their hearts. They don’t say that a drop of kindness should be repaid by a spring of spring, but they will recognize the other person as their elder, because they know from the bottom of their hearts that everything they did was for their own good.
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In fact, those good students are not ungrateful, but the principles taught by the teacher are just the icing on the cake. They are obedient, they learn, and they follow the rules in exchange for the principles of life. The teacher will be grateful because of their grades.
Well, be obedient and appreciate them.
They won't feel anything is wrong and they will certainly be grateful, but this gratitude will not last forever and will fade away sooner or later.
Because there are no deep memories between the two, after many things have been experienced, the teacher will just become a passer-by in life. Occasionally, when classmates gather together, everyone will talk about the mistakes they made that year.
, embarrassing things, and some things that can leave a trace in everyone's memory.
Who studied well, who had good grades, and who was the most obedient at the time, actually had no deep impression on these people who had experienced many things.
The teacher teaches not only
A student or a person does not just have a teacher. In the complicated life, there are too many things that we need to remember. If there is no deep impression, then this person has nothing special to remember.
We will not remember that on a certain road on a certain day, we passed by an ordinary-looking and ordinary-dressed person, nor will we remember what the bus driver we were the day before looked like, nor will we remember
When I was shopping for souvenirs on my last trip, I wondered how tall the little girl standing next to me was.
One layer of memory covers another layer of memory. Time and trivial matters in life will make many people gradually forget a lot.
For those bad students, the teacher's words at that time may be their guiding light, allowing them to completely walk out of the fog at a certain moment later, but good students may have to face one teacher after another, and
Those strict parents.
They abide by the rules, which are set by the school, set by the parents, and set by the society. They smoothed the edges and corners at a certain moment, and then slowly became ordinary.
Life always requires rebellion, sooner or later. The early ones may just be because of confusion and the need for attention, while the late ones are mostly for ideals, ambitions, and to step into society and make their own way.
world.
At this time, the rules of the past have become a wide net, not allowing you to break through or rebel.
At this time, some parents have become a mountain in front of you, and some rules have become a gap that you cannot cross. What should you do at this time?
I don’t know, because no matter what choice I make, it will be a mistake.
Filial piety, filial piety, filial piety is easy, but obedience is difficult.
Many people are parents for the first time, and even more people are children for the first time. It is the first time for everyone. Everyone has little experience and needs to understand, but it is difficult to understand.
Life is full of contradictions, some can be resolved and some cannot be resolved at all.
Time and age are a gap that cannot be crossed. Older people have social experience that is difficult for us to match at present, and we also have ideas that they cannot understand. Society is constantly developing faster and faster.
The generation gap between the two generations will gradually widen in this process. How to choose, how to act, whether to listen to your parents or stick to your own ideals and ambitions, this is not an easy question to answer.
Will rashly getting involved in a child's affairs make the child a better person, or will it make the child become like you without any pursuits or ideas? After being forced to turn over, think about the end of life.
What is it for?
Or can it really make the so-called good for you become really good?