He knew his sister very well. She had few demands on herself, but she had extremely high demands on those around her.
Everything is done on a whim, sometimes windy and sometimes rainy. As the pocket becomes more and more bulging, the temper becomes more and more crazy, and it becomes more and more disappointing.
"She needs a very good environment and a variety of books to educate her, otherwise the fox's tail will be exposed."
Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "She has been out of school for so many years, and she hasn't gotten a book for who knows how long. It's not easy!"
Cheng Tianyuan whispered: "I have told her countless times, but she just didn't listen to her heart. She is a person who will never turn back completely unless she is in a desperate state."
As the saying goes, it is easy to change a country but hard to change its nature.
Her bad shortcomings are deeply ingrained, and unless the environment is extremely difficult, she will still not know where she went wrong or what needs to be corrected.
Xue Ling shook his head: "That's all, I've already advised A Heng to take into account Auntie's feelings as much as possible. He also gave me tens of thousands of yuan, planning to secretly give it to Auntie and Uncle Zhilan to celebrate the New Year. I'm mentally hurt.
If he is traumatized and can be comforted with money, it will be of some benefit. In addition, I also gave him a trick and asked him to buy two elderly insurance policies for his aunt and Uncle Zhilan."
"Insurance?" Cheng Tianyuan asked, "For the elderly?"
"Yes." Xue Ling whispered: "There are very few insurances for the elderly. This kind of insurance is mainly for the elderly to fall, accidental injuries and the like. I bought it for all our parents. All we need is our ID number.
.I asked him to show his filial piety to his aunt and uncle Zhilan."
Cheng Tianyuan smiled bitterly: "It's not easy for A Heng to be caught in the middle."
"There's nothing he can do." Xue Ling shrugged: "He loves his daughter-in-law and marries himself. Fortunately, Uncle and Auntie Lan have a better attitude and have always been very tolerant of the younger generation."
Cheng Tianyuan whispered: "It's all Fang's fault..."
"It's because of her personality, so there's no reason to blame her." Xue Ling comforted her and said, "Maybe if the environment changes in the future, it's not necessarily that she will change."
Cheng Tianyuan shook his head: "Unless we let her go through all the trouble again and become completely miserable, I'm afraid it will be too difficult."
Xue Ling ate green vegetables and couldn't help but smile bitterly to explain Xiao Jiaxue's sadness.
"As soon as A Heng left, Jiaxue came and went straight to my office. Her eyes were red with anger. Before I could speak, she wiped her tears while crying and complained that her husband had too many problems..."
"Isn't it possible?" Cheng Tianyuan said: "Isn't that foreigner in love with her?"
"Yes." Xue Ling explained: "But life is not love. When you are in love, there is nothing better than being in love with each other. But marriage is different from love! Marriage is firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea, and there are a lot of worries every day. Foreigners' outlook on life and
The concept of consumption is very different from ours. Jiaxue couldn't bear it, so she came to talk to me."
Cheng Tianyuan pricked up his ears curiously.
Xue Ling had no choice but to continue: "Foreigners pay more attention to themselves in life, and pay more attention to freedom and personal space. They should have their own space and hobbies and entertainment every day, but Jiaxue does not agree very much. From time to time, she advises him not to waste time and just care about things.
I, the foreigner, always felt that Jiaxue interfered too much in his personal thoughts and work, and felt very irritated. Therefore, Jiaxue was dissatisfied with him, and he was also dissatisfied with Jiaxue. In addition, foreigners' consumption concept is different from ours. We ordinary people are used to it.
When you live a life of savings, if you earn two thousand yuan, you can't save eight hundred, but you must also try to save five hundred. But foreigners don't think so. They like to have wine today and get drunk the next. The money they earn is to be able to spend it.
He had to enjoy it. So when he earned money, he spent it immediately. Jiaxue was angry and said that the family could not have no savings, so they had to save some anyway to buy a house and a car in the future. The old man would grow old in the future, and if he had children,
It’s a very huge expense.”
Cheng Tianyuan blinked and asked: "The foreigner has no parents? Are they already dead?"
"No." Xue Ling replied: "The foreigner's parents are in his hometown. He went to school after he turned eighteen and rented a house independently. He only visits his parents occasionally during holidays. Usually he just keeps in touch and rarely sees each other.
He thinks that if his parents take care of him, it is enough for him to take care of himself."
Cheng Tianyuan asked back: "Then if his parents are sick, will he not care?"
"I guess they will take care of it." Xue Ling explained: "But their insurance system is relatively complete. Almost everyone buys insurance. Rich people don't buy more than one insurance. Even if you get sick, you probably won't have to pay for it.
A lot of money. But the closeness of their families is not the same as ours. It is very rare for them to have multiple generations of a family living together like ours, and relatives don’t move around that frequently.”
Cheng Tianyuan nodded slowly: "So they are relatively indifferent to each other?"
"You can't say that." Xue Ling said: "It's because the lifestyle is different, and the concept of family is naturally different. Xiao Jiaxue can't stand the foreigners' concept of 'there is wine now and drunk now'. She pursues a more beautiful villa area.
, pursuing better cars, but they all require saving money to buy them. The foreigner’s income is not low, but he spends all the money he gets, leaving only some basic living expenses, and the rest is squandered. Jiaxue was very angry and had an argument with him
Several times, but he remained the same and even blamed her for interfering with his financial control."
The biggest obstacle between husband and wife is distrust and intolerance. They blindly want the other party to accept their own ideas and then achieve unity.
Xiao Jiaxue tried to change her husband, hoping that he would have the same views as hers, so that the family would be more harmonious and better for the long-term development of the family.
But her husband is very irritated by her "taking care of this and that" all day long. He doesn't think it is a sweet burden, but thinks it is shackles, confinement, and all kinds of disrespect imposed on others.
As a result, the couple quarreled and quarreled almost every day.
After getting bored, I quickly forgot how inseparable and romantic the two were at the beginning, leaving only all kinds of anger and depression.
Cheng Tianyuan thought for a while and asked: "Jiaxue is also a foreign language major, so she should be able to understand foreigners' consumption concepts, right? Why can't she be more tolerant when it comes to herself?"
Xue Ling smiled bitterly: "Understanding is one thing, but the actual situation is another. She has her own pursuits and her own dreams. She wants her foreigner husband to keep pace with her, so that we can work together and realize them sooner.
Pursue."
Cheng Tianyuan shook his head: "I'm afraid this is too difficult..."
"Yes!" Xue Ling said: "I told her that too. But she thinks that since they are not living abroad, their ideas cannot be the same as those of foreign people. She also advised her husband to integrate into our society and just
You have to have the same concept as her. Naturally, the foreigner refuses, so he and she are noisy, and recently they even ended up sleeping in separate rooms."
Cheng Tianyuan whispered: "You should persuade her to stop and not go too far. Didn't she like his exotic style and culture at the beginning? The foreigner didn't dislike her for being fat. There is no need for her to dislike the fact that his ideas are inconsistent with hers."
"It's not that we dislike each other, it's that we should respect each other." Xue Ling explained: "I told her to step back appropriately and not to be too demanding. He didn't ask her to agree with him. It was already a sign of respect. On the contrary, she forced it.
He, trying to change him, is really not very practical - it's too difficult."