Cheng Huanran listened with some rapt attention and whispered: "I seem to understand, but I also don't understand a little."
Xue Ling smiled and said, "It doesn't matter. When you have more experience in the future, you will understand."
Cheng Huanran may have some feelings and finally told the truth.
"Mom, since I went to college, I have found that not only the level of study is different, but also the life is different. Girls used to write to me secretly, but they were all secret. When I went to college, the teachers only focused on study.
We have more time in private, we have more opportunities to interact with each other after class, and we get to know more people. I met a very beautiful girl, one level older than me, and she is also studying clinical anesthesia."
"Oh." Xue Ling asked curiously: "It's just a good impression, right? It's not really like it, very much?"
Cheng Huanran shook his head: "It's not to that extent yet, but I will secretly pay attention to her. Every time I meet her, I will always find an opportunity to secretly glance at her. She doesn't know my existence. She is the most famous campus beauty in our university.
, I heard that her grades were average, but she was the most beautiful girl in the past, so she was considered a once-in-a-century beauty in our college."
"Wow!" Xue Ling asked: "Such a beautiful girl must be very popular, right?"
"There are so many!" Cheng Huanran explained: "I heard that her beauty spread immediately after she entered the school as a freshman. A lot of people wanted to get to know her, secretly wrote letters to confess, called her dormitory, and many more
I can’t even count the number of people who went to her classroom to accompany her in class!”
Xue Ling smiled and said: "It seems that my family is still very discerning. A girl like that will definitely be liked by people. But such a girl should also be very proud, right?"
"Yeah." Cheng Huanran whispered: "I heard that she rejected many people and never agreed. She also said that she would not like ordinary men. The person she wants to date must meet her conditions."
Xue Ling asked curiously: "What are the conditions? Have you asked?"
Cheng Huanran shook his head: "I... don't dare to ask. I vaguely heard someone say that her boyfriend must be over 1.85 meters tall, must be handsome, and must be very rich. In short, there are a lot of conditions, and I can't meet them at the moment.
, there’s no need to ask.”
Xue Ling smiled and said: "Since you can't achieve it, then work hard."
"Mom, don't you object?" Cheng Huanran asked.
Xue Ling shrugged: "You are older and have your own views on the world and emotions. What do I object to you for?"
Cheng Huanran shyly whispered: "Actually, there is a girl in our class recently who always comes to talk to me. Whenever there is a chance, she squeezes in beside me to study. She also always buys fruit for me to eat, and her enthusiasm is... a bit too much. Class
All the classmates here say she likes me. Needless to say, even a blind person can see it. Every time she comes to me, I always feel a little embarrassed."
"Are you in love with her?" Xue Ling asked.
Cheng Huanran whispered: "Not yet... I just go out to eat a lot. I find that she is very interesting and cheerful. She smiles a lot every day. Every time I see her, I can't help laughing."
Xue Ling chuckled: "No wonder you always smile a little strangely when you come back this time. I thought you were in love!"
"Is there any?" Cheng Huanran asked anxiously: "Is it so strange? What's so strange?"
Xue Ling replied: "No! I just couldn't find other words to describe it for a while, so I used this word. If you like someone, then have a serious relationship with them. Some people have talked to them more than ten or twenty times.
Only when you fall in love can you find someone you really like. First love is beautiful, but most first loves are unsuccessful..."
"Isn't it?" Cheng Huanran smiled bitterly: "Mom, I haven't started yet. If you just say it like this, I won't be confident."
Xue Ling asked back: "When you were a toddler learning to walk, could you take the first step out and then you wouldn't have to fall down in the future? Is it possible?"
"Oh." Cheng Huanran seemed to understand and asked, "Then how do I know that person is really suitable for me?"
Xue Ling smiled mysteriously and whispered: "I have read a book, and there is a saying by the famous philosopher Plato in it. It may be suitable to share it with you at this time."
Cheng Huanran couldn't help but laugh and said: "Mom, you suddenly look like my teacher."
"Be serious." Xue Ling said with a smile: "Teachers don't teach students the principles of love! I don't remember the original words, I can only give them roughly. Plato's students are curious about the difference between love and marriage.
, Plato did not answer them directly, but took them to a rose garden. The roses were in full bloom in the rose garden, and the flowers were very bright and beautiful. He asked the students to go in and find the most beautiful flowers and pick them.
Once you walk along the rose, you cannot go back to pick the flower. After a while, a student picked a rose and walked out with a disappointed face. He explained that as he walked, he found that this flower was very beautiful.
, and hurriedly picked it off. Who knew that as he walked further back, there would be more and more beautiful roses on the road. As he walked, he regretted it, and even now he still regrets that he picked that flower too early."
Cheng Huanran blinked and asked, "What then?"
Xue Ling explained: "Plato told the student that this is marriage. At this time, another student also came out. There were no roses in his hands, and both pairs came back empty. He didn't pick anything, and he was also very disappointed.
The student explained that when he walked into the rose garden, he found that many roses were very beautiful. However, he told himself that there would definitely be more beautiful flowers in the back, so he looked for them as he walked, but found that the farther back he went, the more beautiful the roses became.
Unexpectedly, the flowers in front were not as good as the others, so he kept picking them until he finally reached the end and couldn't pick any flowers. Plato explained that this is falling in love."
Cheng Huanran didn't seem to understand. He smiled at first and then slowly fell into deep thought.
Xue Ling whispered: "The story is roughly like this. It takes a long time. I can't remember the specific details. But I have told the essence of the story. You should be able to understand it if you think about it carefully. In fact, when you go to the rose garden
Just like our life. There are many beautiful roses, but we can only pick one, not more. If we blindly think that there will be better ones later, then you may miss the flowers that suit you on the way. Once you miss it
, life has come to an end, and we have no chance."
"But...that marriage." Cheng Huanran couldn't help but smile bitterly: "It sounds so disappointing!"
Xue Ling smiled and said: "It depends on the person. If you think it is the most beautiful when you take it off, then you should always think of it as the most beautiful. In real life, people will grow old.
There will be all kinds of problems. You will find that other people are prettier than your wife, smarter, more virtuous and capable, etc. The world is big, there are people outside the world, and there are mountains outside the mountains. There will definitely be someone better than your wife.
When a better and more perfect person appears, who can be sure that the person he finds is perfect? Impossible. The key lies in your attitude. Now that you have taken her off, you must insist on treating her with the best attitude, otherwise
Sooner or later, marriages will have problems."
Cheng Huanran was thinking silently, not knowing what to say for a moment.
Xue Ling patted him on the shoulder and said: "This principle seems simple, but in fact it is very practical and cruel. But Mom hopes that when you enter the rose garden, you can be as calm and patient as possible."